Squishy But Messy

When straight women friends comment repeatedly on how chivalrous & respectful the butch I’m dating is, I now get a smile that borders on a smirk.

Two summers ago in Kansas at the National Women’s Studies Association Difference, a slide show was presented to the Lesbian caucus in which a series of myths about Lesbians was entertainingly debunked. The show was to be used in straight sex-education classrooms. One of the slides was a comic representation of the “myth” of butch-femme relationships with voiceover something like: “In the past, Lesbians copied heterosexual styles, calling themselves butch and femme, but they no longer do so.” I waited until the end to make my statement, but I sat there feeling that we were so anxious to clean up our lives for heterosexual acceptance that we were ready to force our own people into a denial of some deep parts of their lives. I know what a butch or femme woman would feel seeing this slide show, and I realized that the price for social or superficial feminist acceptance was too high. If we deny the subject of butch-femme relationships, we deny the women who lived them, and still do.

Gay Culture is one partner constantly making Awful Puns and the other making the exact face Ivy is making here when they do this :D

Christ comes from the Greek Khristós. Since many books of the Bible (and other gospels pre-Council of Nicea) were written in Greek, it was their way of translating the word messiah and it’s Jewish connotation into Greek.