This is the strayt for boys, girls and enbies flag!

The flag is explicitly meant for any nonbinary person (no matter what their alignment) who feels their attraction to boys, girls and enbies to be strayt.

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Aingender: umbrella term for all genders aporagender in nature. May simply be used as “ain”, ie. “my gender is ain”.

Creamic: a gender that feels very creamy or shares characteristics of heavy cream, being smooth, milky, and opaque. It can range in ‘weights’ from whipped to buttermilk and in temperatures from cold to very hot.

Coined by: Leone

Cottoncandygender A gender that is soft,fluffy,and also pastel-colored. May feel ’ overly  sweet ’ to some and possibly even give off carnival vibes to some!

Gendersylph: This gender is like genderflux/fluid/fluix but exclusive (or almost entirely exclusive) to xeno or otherwise uncommon type identities. Someone who is gendersylph could very rarely identify as something within the binary, but almost always identifies as something extremely non-binary. This identify can change at random and change in intensity. It could also be a slow change in identify.

Versian

an alternate term & flag for nonbinary people who love women, nonbinary people, and men! comes from the word universe, keeping in with the space-themed terms for nonbinary people. of course, a versian person could also i.d as pan-, but this term places emphasis on being of a nonbinary gender(s).

[someone] loving [someone] tables!

I’m not sure how to describe those images, so click here for a list with most of these (with sources). The ones that aren’t there are mostly the ones based on people with binary genders, or nonbinary people in general:

men attracted at least to men = achillean

men attracted at least to nonbinary people = astroidian or adonic

men attracted at least to women = duaric

nonbinary people attracted at least to men = toric or quadrisian

nonbinary people attracted at least to nonbinary people = enbian

nonbinary people attracted at least to women = trixic or orbisian

women attracted at least to men = duaric

women attracted at least to nonbinary people = asterian or maedic

women attracted at least to women = sapphic

How to use:

1) Think about what your gender entails. For example, nonbinary woman.

2) Go to the line or one of the lines that specifies the gender you have. For nonbinary woman, you can go to nonbinary > woman or to woman > nonbinary. Both lines are the same.

3) Think about what your gender-based attraction or what you want to reveal about it entails. For example, nonbinary people and women.

4) Look for the column or columns that specify that attraction. In this case, again, you’ll have to look for either the nonbinary > woman column or the woman > nonbinary column.

5) See where the line and column cross! In this example, it should be iridian (nblnb, nblw, wlnb and wlw).

Remember you can use broader labels too! So if you are iridian, for instance, you can also use sapphic, enbian, and so on, if you want.

But how can you be both nonbinary and a man/a woman/a man and a woman?

Some nonbinary people may consider themselves one or both binary genders besides being nonbinary because:

They have multiple genders (at the same time or not), and one or some of them are binary or binary-adjacent; (examples: a person is trigender and their genders are man, woman and neutrois, or a person is genderfluid and their gender changes between agender and woman)

They have a single gender connected to one or both binary genders even if those genders aren’t binary; (examples: a person has a single gender that is a mix of maverique and woman, or a person is a proxvir, which means they have a gender similar to man but different in some way)

They have a certain connection to one or both binary genders because of presentation, pronouns/titles, desired transition, or other characteristics. (examples: a person is agender but doesn’t mind being treated as a man in general, or a person is dulcigender but has a connection to being a woman for desiring a physical transition similar to a trans woman)

But how can you be both a man and a woman without being nonbinary?

A nonbinary person may consider themselves both a man and a woman and prefer an identity that only talks about them being both a man and a woman.

A person who is both a man and a woman may also not want to identify as nonbinary for any reason.

But all those labels are too complicated/hard to remember! Why not just use ____?

[Image Description: Three color blocks in varying shades of purple in a vertical row with text that reads “don’t say gnc when you mean nonbinary / don’t say nonbinary when you mean gnc / nonbinary and gnc are not the same thing”]

GNC means gender non-conforming. This is a term used to mean that a person does not conform to the standards expected of their gender, either physical expectations or otherwise. People of any gender identity can ID as GNC—binary men and women (both cis and trans) as well a nonbinary people.

Nonbinary means not identifying within the male/female gender binary. Anyone who does not 100% identify as solely male or female 100% of the time falls under the nonbinary umbrella and there are many specific gender identities within that umbrella (agender, genderfluid, bigender, etc etc etc). 

Jaspian- nblnb, nblm, and nblw.

A term for anyone who generally IDs as nonbinary and is attracted to enbies, men, and women.

Flag colors are inspired by a couple different samples of Jasper

the fact that I’m now seeing more and more people on this website who seem to genuinely believe the same thing—that m/m and f/f relationships are always “pure” and “wholesome” and incapable of being abusive—and seeing people react almost violently if you say otherwise, who consider the very idea that m/m and f/f relationships can be abusive to be homophobic and lesbophobic, and seeing survivors of abusive m/m and f/f relationship being talked over and shouted down about their experiences is honestly incredibly disturbing.

The idea that domestic abuse is not an LGBTQIA+ issue is a long-running myth that has been disproved by multiple studies and yet it continues holding strong and continues to harm LGBTQIA+ people who are in (or who have been able to escape from) these abusive relationships by making them doubt that what they experienced was actually abuse and making them feel like they can’t talk about it because to do so will harm the “image” of LGBTQIA+ people and the LGBTQIA+ community.

Especially when it comes to pronouns of the other binary gender from their agab.

People will say: “but you’re non-binary! So shouldn’t you be uncomfortable with both he/him and she/her, and only ever want neutral pronouns? So if you’re comfortable with one set of binary pronouns, why not just ID as the gender they’re associated with?”

What people fail to take into account is WHY a person may be okay with one and not the other. Non-binary MAF people are constantly called she, so she pronouns may have bad associations & dysphoria attached when used. But he pronouns haven’t been used the same way to intentionally or just generally misgender them, so they’re probably not dysphoria inducing in the same way. Same goes for MAM nbs who use she/her. It doesn’t feel as shitty because for many, at least they’re not thinking of you as a woman/man, which can relieve dysphoria even if you still aren’t a man/woman.

“Doesn’t they do that too?”

Okay: have you considered these terms are aimed at non-binaries who don’t use binary alignment terminology (male aligned/female aligned) and see no positivity of themselves, no posts getting cute women and men supporting them, supporting relationships with them, talking about their attraction & crushes on someone who is nb, or their partners, who deserve to feel gushed over, and have positivity too?

Have you considered never seeing any content aimed at us makes us feel unattractive and unlovable? Have you considered few want to misgender themselves into a binary category just to receive this? Have you considered binary trans men and women can also be attracted to us when you go on about fetishizing trans people?

Have you considered calling yourself attracted to a nb person doesn’t mean you’re saying you’d be interested in Literally Every NB Person or that nb is one gender? Have you considered most if not all wlnb/mlnb posts i’ve seen so far were made by nbs themselves, OR their partners directed at their nb partner.

Uncommon gender? VALID

Gender influenced by mental illness and/or autism? VALID

Gender that fluctuates wildly? VALID

Pronouns that fluctuate wildly? VALID

Genders that never show up in the big initialism? VALID

Genders without flags or representation? VALID

Changing your gender? VALID

Not knowing what your gender is yet? VALID