welcome to my sanctuary

1. Top, bottom or vers?

2. Dom, sub, switch?

3. On a scale of 0 to 10 how kinky would you say you are?

4. How many people have you had sex with last year?

5. Bare, pattern or unshaved?

6. When was your most recent hookup?

7. When did you last cum?

8. How often do you masterbate?

9. What is the last thing you touched yourself to?

10. How did you last cum?

11. Are you hornier in the morning or evening?

12. What are your 3 favorite kinks?

13. What are your limits?

14. What kink would you most like to try?

15. What kink have you tried but didn't enjoy?

16. Do you have a master/sub?

17. What's the kinkiest thing you've done?

18. Favorite piece of underwear you own?

19. What underwear would you like to buy/be gifted? (pics welcome)

20. What underwear are you wearing right now and how long have you been wearing it?

21. Have you ever worn a toy to work/class?

22. Have you ever gone to work/class commando?

23. Do you like humiliation/to be humiliated?

24. Do you like dirty talk? What names do you like calling/being called by?

25. Do you like spitting/being spitted on?

26. Do you like being punished/punishing a sub?

27. Do you enjoy receiving/ inflicting pain? How strong?

28. What is your favorite pain instrument?

29. Do you like giving a spanking/getting spanked?

30. Do you like slapping/getting slapped?

31. Have you ever gotten marks/given a sub marks from impact play?

32. How many fingers can you fit inside of you?

33. Do you have any specific fantasies?

34. How vocal are you (playing solo or with partner)?

35. What are you wearing now?

36. Favourite positions?

37. Biggest turn on?

38. What size bra are you?

39. Favourite colour lingerie (on yourself or partner)?

40. Favourite place to receive/give kisses on the body?

41. Favourite phrases to hear/say in the bedroom?

42. What’s the most surprising/unexpected kink you have?

43. What do you do for aftercare?

44. Monogamous or Poly?

45. Wildest Wet dream?

46. When was the last time you sent nudes?

47. 🍃 Or not during sexual activity?

48. Oldest person you’ve dated/crushed on?

49. Favourite part of your/your partner’s body?

to which she just looked at me a little shocked, so I was obligated to put the tip of the bottle in her mouth and turn it over until she drank half of it in one go, all while maintaining eye contact with me the entire time

It's okay if you're not in the mood to play. It's okay if you don't want to be touched, or if you feel too tired to lead.

It's okay if you need a break, or if you experience dom drop and don't feel like yourself.

Your needs matter, too. You don't have to perform an endless role of being in control. You're allowed to be human, to step back, to say "Not today."

And it’s okay to lean on your partner and let them take care of you, in whatever way you need that.

Your worth as a Dom isn't measured by how much you can give without rest. It's measured by how honestly you show up, for yourself and for them.