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I think what is really horrifying is that even if they were trying to reach out to Nikki, she was physically incapable of accepting their help, likely insisting that she was fine and happy with Bear. From the outside, if you don't know what's going on, Nikki looks like an unstable woman, obsessed with her new boyfriend and controlling of where he goes and who he sees. Because Nikki is incapable of asking for help or telling people that he is sexually assaulting her, they have to rely on Bear's narrative, and he is careful to always paint himself as the victim, as being maybe a little scared of her. It reminds me of men who warn their new partners and friends about their "crazy ex," trying to get ahead of any unflattering narratives she might share. By making his wish, Bear isolated Nikki, because the wish makes her destroy all her relationships in order to be as close as possible to him.

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She's fat and gets the guy and no one bats an eye.

She's fat and the hottest chick in the sorority and that's normal.

She's fat and an actress and she gets good roles.

She's fat and she's funny and she has character depth and growth.

She's fat and the main character and no one mentions her weight once.

Do you gender trans people correctly even when they're being absolutely terrible people? Do you refuse to use the r-slur against someone who suicide baited you but is neurodivergent? Do you refuse to snark at a mentally ill person who is being genuinely unpleasant, "go take your meds!"

Do you allow members of marginalized groups to be terrible people without judging their entire demographic for it? One of the most invisible yet vital forms of privilege is the right to be terrible people as an individual rather than as a group. Do you acknowledge that there are bad people in every group, that it doesn't make their group less worth fighting for? Or do you shake your head if you happen to get mistreated by some who belong to a group and insist the entire group is awful and not worth your allyship?