the thing is, people(trans and cis!) can kinda tell when you are dressing and acting a certain way for the express purpose of being "shocking" or "unconventional" like in a very literal sense you are being performative. And many TME people will quickly tire of putting on this performance and take it off, going back to whatever it is that is authentic for them.
Trans women, on the other hand, shock and transgress norms by just being ourselves. It is not a cute little performance we put on for the sake of shocking cis people and "genderfuck points" from the broader queer community. It is actually kind of a fucking huge problem we have to deal with every fucking day! Funny how that works!!!

















