anti anti-transmasculinity

I'm not even sure what to say about this post...

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This is transandrophobia and cluster B saneism.

Calling trans men vain is disgusting. Some trans men are vain, yes, because there are vain people in EVERY group. Stereotyping an entire marginalized gender is really gross and transphobic.

Also, trans men are allowed to be loud and proud about their bodies and their transitions. Trans people of all kinds should be allowed to love themselves.

Additionally, I *need* people to look at what the actual myth of Narcissus was and to stop throwing around "narcissist" as an insult because it impacts REAL PEOPLE who are demonized for their condition (narcissistic personality disorder.)

Narcissus was a beautiful man, who was constantly being harassed by people who desired him. But he didnt want to be with them, and always rejected them. One day, one man (Ameinias) was so upset that he was rejected, that he complained to the Gods, and the Godess of revenge (Nemesis) cursed Narcissus. She cursed him to become completely infatuated with someone who would never be able to give him affection in return.

So when Narcissus looked into his reflection, he fell in love with his reflection, since his reflection would never be able to give him love in return. In some versions of the myth, he melted away after the passion overtook him, turning him into a gold and white flower. In other versions of the myth, he ends his own life out of despair that his reflection can never give him the affection he desires.

THE ENTIRE POINT OF "NARCISSISM" IS THAT SOMEONE OR SOMETHING ELSE FORCED A PERSON TO BE THIS WAY. That they had no choice in how they behave, how they view themself. Its not a story about a man who is egotistical, its a story about a man who is drowning in despair, because the love he desires feels unachievable.

the first bra.

You are *TRANS*

Trans people make up around 1% of the population (last I checked)

YOU ARE REPRESENTATION!!

malgendering is a form of transphobia wherein a transphobic person uses their victim's correct gender to harass or demean them. it is meant to be the inverse of misgendering, where a transphobe uses the victim's incorrect gender to harass or demean them.

misgendering towards trans women can be as simple as "youre a man." but malgendering is more insidious, like someone saying "you really are a girl" when she makes a mistake in order to insult her intelligence. the phrase "you really are a girl" is positive when removed from the context of the trans woman making a mistake and the transphobe's sarcastic tone that implies shes stupid in an misogynistic way.

if a trans man does something like standing up for himself against an unfair situation or asks for better accommodations/treatment, and a transphobe wants to use that to imply he is selfish and entitled, they might say "trans men really are men" which again, is a true statement on its own. but in the context of the situation, its clear the transphobe is using the stereotypical worst qualities of men to insult and undermine someone's very identity.

malgendering can be any severity of harm, just like misgendering. my mom slipping up in the first months of my transition and accidentally calling me "she", and a bigot shouting "YOURE A WOMAN YOULL NEVER BE A MAN" at me are both examples of misgendering, but one is much worse than the other and its the same with malgendering. being told "trans men are the men of the trans community" as an insult is annoying and rude but not a big deal. however, right now ICE is torturing trans men in concentration camps by forcing them to do pointless and grueling labor. and when they become exhausted, theyre told "I thought you were a man. if youre really a man this should be easy for you" these are both examples of malgendering. one is a microaggression, the other is literal torture.