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having a hard time focusing today. i've also had a hard time focusing for the previous 15 or so years leading up to now but this post is about today.

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“For the love of god”
does the body ALWAYS have to keep the score? maybe we could just have a friendly game this time. maybe we can just have fun without putting numbers on it
What kind of Millennial™️ are you?
Avocado toast millennial
I am bird watcher now.
I ran a marathon for fun?
Yes, I am currently working on five fiber art projects…
Other millennial stereotype that I will write in the tags.
I am unfortunately not part of the greatest generation aka here for the result
Please share!

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hello fellow non-Black tumblr users. welcome to my saw trap. if you'd like to leave, please name one (1) Black woman author who is not Maya Angelou, Toni Morrison, bell hooks, Octavia Butler, or N.K. Jemisin. bonus points if she's published a book in the last five years.
For my own future reference, and for anyone else who wants it, a list of authors mentioned in the notes. (I cannot promise this is comprehensive, there are a lot of reblogs and I might have missed some.) I've included a link for each author, where possible I've tried to find one that leads you to their books, prioritising own websites/publishers, falling back on wikipedia otherwise.
If you find any mistakes in the links let me know and I'll edit. This post will be in two parts, because I literally broke tumblr with how many authors there were. I think it's about a hundred and fifty.
Faridah Àbíké-Íyímídé - speculative fiction
Marguerite Abouet - graphic novels
Elizabeth Acevedo - fiction, poetry
Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie - fiction
Tomi Adeyemi - young adult fantasy
K Ancrum - speculative contemporary young adult
Lily Anderson - fiction
Ashley Antoinette - fiction
Ama Ata Aidoo - poetry, fiction, plays
Kemi Ashing Giwa - speculative fiction
Kalynn Bayron - young adult, fantasy
Malorie Blackman - childrens' books, young adult
Natasha Bowen - fantasy
Gwendolyn Brooks - poetry
Natasha Brown - fiction
NoViolet Bulawayo - fiction
Constance Burris - speculative fiction
CL Clark - fantasy, speculative fiction
Wahida Clark - urban fiction
Lucille Clifton - poetry, fiction
Alyssa Cole - romance, thrillers, graphic novels
Kamilah Cole - fiction
Claire Coleman - fiction, essays, poetry
Maryse Condé - fiction, non-fiction, plays
Emma Dabiri - non-fiction
Edwidge Danticat - fiction
Angela Davis - philosophy
Carolina Maria De Jesus - memoir
Hayley Dennings - fiction
Tracy Deonn - fiction
Nicky Drayden - speculative fiction
Tananarive Due - horror, comics
Camille Dungy - memoir, poetry
Esi Edugyan - fiction
Zetta Elliot - childrens' books, teen fiction, adult fiction
Bernardine Evaristo - fiction
Conceição Evaristo - fiction, non-fiction
Eve Ewing - poetry, fiction, non-fiction, comics
Radna Fabias - poetry
Namina Forna - young adult fantasy
Latoya Ruby Frazier - non-fiction
Stella Gaitano - fiction
Camryn Garrett - fiction, middle grade
Roxane Gay - fiction, non-fiction, comics
Nicole Glover - fantasy, speculative fiction
Nikki Giovanni - poetry, essays
Jewelle Gomez - fiction, plays
Annette Gordon-Reed - non-fiction (history)
Pumla Dineo Gqola - non-fiction
Deanna Grey - romance
Yaa Gyasi - fiction
Andrea Hairston - fiction
Lorraine Hansberry - plays
Saidiya Hartman - non-fiction, theory
Alexis Henderson - dark speculative fiction
Adriana Herrera - romance
Talia Hibbert - romance
bell hooks - fiction, non-fiction, poetry
Pauline Hopkins - fiction, non-fiction, plays
Nalo Hopkinson - speculative fiction
Jordan Ifueko - comics, fantasy, young adult
Samantha Irby - non-fiction
Justina Ireland - science fiction, fantasy, comics
Meka James - contemporary and erotic romance
Tiffany D Jackson - young adult
Beverly Jenkins - romance
Alaya Dawn Johnson - speculative fiction
Micaiah Johnson - science fiction
Mariame Kaba - non-fiction
Petals Kalulé - fiction, poetry [Petals is noted as using she/they, I'm not 100% sure of their gender identity and past a certain point it feels weird to investigate too much]
Mikki Kendall - fiction, non-fiction
Jamaica Kincaid - fiction, non-fiction
Zaire Krieger - poetry
Nella Larsen - fiction
Karmen Lee - romance
Kirsten R. Lee - young adult
Margot Lee Shetterly - non-fiction
Audre Lourde - poetry, non-fiction
And here's part two:
Terry Macmillen - fiction
Robin Maynard - non-fiction
Amber Mcbride - poetry, young adult
Janet Mock - non-fiction, screenwriting
Brittney Moris - comics, young adult, fantasy
Bethany C Morrow - fiction, science fiction, young adult
Leila Mottley - fiction, poetry
Beatriz Nascimento - non-fiction
Leticia Nascimento - I think non-fiction primarily
Gloria Naylor - fiction
Zora Neale Hurston - fiction, non-fiction
Grace Nichols - poetry
Siphiwe Gloria Ndlovu - fiction
Trifonia Melibea Obono - fiction
Shirlene Obuobi - comics, fiction
Nnendi Okorafor - science fiction
Melatu Uche Okorie - fiction
Chinelo Okparanta - fiction
Helen Oyeyemi - fiction
Nell Painter - non-fiction
Morgan Parker - poetry, non-fiction
Nikki Payne - romance
Koleka Putuma - plays, poetry
Claudia Rankine - poetry, plays, non-fiction
Sarah Raughley - young adult
Dia Reeves - fantasy, horror, science fiction
Kiley Reid - fiction
Stacy Reid - romance
Djamila Ribero - philosophy
Legacy Russell - fiction, non-fiction, poetry
Layla F. Saad - non-fiction
Sofia Samatar - fiction, non-fiction
Liselle Sambury - fantasy
Analeigh Sbrana - romance, fantasy
Namwali Serpell - fiction
Ntozake Shange - plays, poetry
Christina Sharpe - non-fiction
Nisi Shawl - fiction, alternate history
Jamison Shea - dark fantasy/horror
Patricia Smith - poet
Tracy K Smith - poet
Zadie Smith - fiction
Sister Souljah - fiction
Kiki Swinson - fiction
Mildred D Taylor - young adult/children's lit
Katerina Teaiwa - non-fiction
Teresia Teaiwa - poetry
Angie Thomas - young adult, middle grade
Leah Thomas - non-fiction
Spike Trotman - comics
Tloto Tsamaase - science fiction
Nikki Turner - urban fiction
Maxine Tynes - poetry
Ngozi Ukazu - comics
Shola von Reinhold - fiction
Wanjikũ wa Ngũgĩ - fiction
Jasmine Walls - graphic novels
Alice Walker - fiction, non-fiction, poetry
Jesmyn Ward - fiction
Monica West - fiction
Phyllis Wheatley-Peters - poetry
Rita Williams-Garcia - young adult, middle grade
Stephanie Williams - comics, non-fiction
Tia Williams - fiction, romance
Raquel Willis - non-fiction
Jamila Woods - poetry
Jacqueline Woodson - childrens' books, young adult, fiction, poetry
Alexis Wright - fiction, non-fiction
Zane - erotic fiction
Fiona Zedde - fiction
Attica Locke - Mystery/Thriller Fiction
Oyinkan Braithwaite - Fiction
Isabel Wilkerson - Non-fiction
Hell yeah!!!
Hey non-Black people this is not an ally test! You don’t win an ally badge if you can name another author! It’s a reminder to seek out more diverse reading material AND a reminder to acknowledge the underrepresentation of Black women in the publishing industry!
My sister took more photos of my dress. I am very happy with how this turned out :)))))
Only one more weekend until the Renaissance Faire!!!!
Strange racists and homophobes on the internet seem to have access to an alternate way cooler version of TV than me. "every white character on TV is in an interracial relationship" "every show has a gay couple in it" "main characters keep having to secretly be bisexual and nonbinary" "every show has gratuitous full frontal nudity" like damn promise?? What channel???
yellow(?) ottoman, the sequel
my parents’ cat: *lounges* thanks for the big new bed
lilith:
*slithers* thanks for the new clubhouse

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This a a reminder to not fall victim to the sunk-cost fallacy. Just because you invested time and energy into something, does not mean you should indefinitely waste more time and energy on it, if you decide it’s not what you want anymore. This goes for anything, from books, to relationships, to jobs, to hobbies, etc.
If it’s not serving you anymore, move on.
This is honestly one of the places I find Marie Kondo's advice most helpful. I stop, look at the thing I've spent time and money on only to realize I dislike, and I say, "Thank you for teaching me something about myself and my preferences. I think I've learned this particular lesson and we can part ways now."
And then I don't feel like I "wasted" things or made a mistake. I just tried one path of learning about myself, learned something, and now it's time for a different path. Works a lot better for my brain.
The time Marie Kondo said "you can thank a a shirt you've never worn for teaching you about your taste", thereby making it NOT A WASTE literally rewired my whole brain. Acknowledge the thing and move forward, even if that means leaving the thing behind.
Upstairs Kevin Is Actually For Real The World's Most Perfect Betta Fish
So for those of you not familiar with my recent descent into fishkeeping, about 2 months ago a friend of mine who does Hazardous Waste cleanup (specifically cleaning up hazardous places like meth labs) called me up and asked:
"You have fish, right?"
"...Why?" I asked, having become aware that the Fish Distribution System is even more aggressive than the cat one.
"I found a fish in the back of an abandoned trap house. Alive." She clarified.
I could feel my fate settling upon my soul.
"...Send me a pic so I can ID the species and I'll see what I can do."
She sent me a picture of a small purplish squiggle in six inches of fetid green muck. But when I arrived to collect the sludge creature he turned out to look like this:
He's difficult to photograph in focus, but he's a deep wine-dark creature with an iridescent blue sheen. The red patches on his fins mirror where the fins of a Plakat/wild Betta splendens would be, and the rest of his fins are a ghostly shimmering white. This fish was in six inches of toxic green shit.
Naturally, he needed the finest tank I could put together that afternoon.
I think I did alright.
He's so fucking cute. He always swims up to watch when anyone approaches. I've got him trained to do a little dance when I feed him. He likes watching me doing anything in front of his tank.
That's all actually pretty typical of Bettas- they're very intelligent and curious creatures and like learning, which is more than I can say for some of my relatives.
Where Upstairs Kevin (so named because his tank is in my upstairs bathroom) really shines is that a lot of Bettas are... Not sociable. They often eat shrimp, attack other fish in their tank (or get stressed out of they can't commit enough violence to maintain their personal space) or constantly harass and nip the snails in their tanks. Most Bettas are genuinely happier being alone.
Kevin fucking loves his snail (Bluebert) and will shimmy as fast as he can over whenever Bluebert falls off something (it's fine, this is a normal way for mystery snails to get from one place to another).
When I had my Nego D'Aguas in the holding tank, I had to put three of the smallest ones in with him because they were being harassed in the small tank, and he was a perfect gentleman with them. He was trying very hard to shoal with them, but they're very zippy. He was visibly upset (lethargic, dulled colors) when I moved them back to the big tank.
Today was the real acid test: I'm going to move him from his 5 gallon to the 10 gallon so I can use the 5 as a hospital/spare plants tank, and I needed to know if I could have shrimp in with him. Even Betta that are cool with other fish can still see a shrimp and decide they're at the buffet. Unfortunately, there's no real way to know without putting shrimp in with the Betta.
So earlier today, I got half a dozen super-discounted Rilli shrimp (LFS has a massive overstock of them for some reason) and added them to his 5 gallon. There are a bunch of hiding places for shrimp in there and if he was aggressive with them I'd move him to the 10 gallon immediately (I don't want to do that just yet because I need to move the furniture around in there a bit).
Friends.
The shrimp are fully swimming in the open and Kevin is just following them around, curious, but only curious. No gill-flaring, no posturing, no lunges or snapping. Some of them are red, a color that normally triggers aggression in Bettas, and he's just. Hanging out, watching them eat biofilm off the moss. One of them accidentally landed on his head and stayed there for 3 seconds and he only went "???" Until it took off again.
My beautiful and perfect and son who is so kind and gentle with his tiny friends.
Pictures that are paintings, to me:
They're both so curious about each other.
(Kitty Fishtank Time is closely supervised and the room is closed off when we're not there. The tank also has a heavy glass lid that covers the whole tank and has anti-kitty safety clips)
Reminds me of my betta! He likes to sit and watch the shrimp the same way I sit and watch the tank. They don't seem to mind, either.
You can also just barely see one of my neon tetras at the top, he's not interested in them like yours is but he'll generally chill in the same area of the tank (and it's a 40 gallon so he has plenty of space to avoid them if he wants to)
LMAO THAT'S EXACTLY WHAT HE DOES. I haven't been able to get a good pic of it because the shrimp are still skittish and nyoom away if my phone gets too close to the tank but like. He watches the shrimp the same way I watch him and I hope it gives him a sense of joy and wonder as well.
big life tips dont be neurodivergent dont be poor dont get in any sort of situation and dont let yourself need or crave
not getting good reports back on your progress with this guys
Hot take but praise is a good tool for encouraging healthy behavior. Positive reinforcement is good. Relying exclusively on punishment to change people's behavior is both cruel and ineffective. If someone does better than they did yesterday, let them know you appreciate it, let them know that they're improving!
"Don't praise anyone for doing the bare minimum" is a shitty take that prioritizes your sense of superiority over the actual betterment of people. I understand that things shouldn't be as bad as they are, and anger can often be justified, but you need to get over the propaganda that kindness is naïve, that cynicism and bitterness are intellectual. Withholding praise from those who haven't caught up with you doesnt actually help them, it doesn't motivate, it doesn't encourage, it only discourages them. It breeds bitterness and apathy, which are antithetical to empathy.
Growth isn't something you do on your own. People need support, they need community. Bootstraps won't get them there. Kindness will. Do you want results or do you just want to feel superior?
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This isn't up for debate. We have the studies. Positive reinforcement is far & away the most successful method to not only change behavior but KEEP it changed long term. One of the most important things I learned for my psych degree.

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i think when we used to point out that a story didn't need a sex scene what we meant was "this story reduces its women to mere sex objects and gives them no interiority so the sex scenes are gratuitous and geared towards the male gaze" it wasn't the sex that bothered us per se it was the objectification of female characters while givig them little to no consequence to the overall story but nowadays people mean "sex is icky and gross and has no merit to ever be portrayed in our arts which should be good and pure and never ever make ME feel discomfort" and it's like. i bet a bowl of unfrosted flakes looks real good to you rn