Is hiring professional mourners all for profit and not for loss at funerals?
In this article https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-cornwall-47176939regarding Terance Tiler, aged 85, Cornwall Council and Funeral Directors could not find any people who knew him so Rev Casper Bush said this was unusual so he called out to request that if anyone would like to turn up that would be appreciated so 60 strangers attended his funeral along with a local company donated 75 pasties for the wake.
Therefore this raises the question would you employ a professional mourner at your funeral?
In the UK there is a company called Rent A Mourner http://www.rentamourner.co.ukwhere they increase visitors to the funeral where numbers are expected to be low, so if this is the case would you want to do what the vicar above has done or actually pay a company instead?
Would this be what the person would want at the funeral?
This is another ethical question, for me personally I would not want anyone who did not know me to attend my funeral just to make up the numbers, this is just fake, insensitive, insincere, inappropriate, if no one turns up then I would be more than happy with this arrangement, if 1000 people turn up marvellous but the quieter the better for me.
Would you pay ÂŁ45 a day for someone to turn up?
We all know that funerals can be expensive regardless of the options that you may choose so if you had 10 people turn up to increase the numbers that would cost ÂŁ450 so can you justify that amount of money to employ someone who did not know the person who has passed away?
How does this work in practice?
It works similar to a vicar or someone facilitating at a funeral that may not know the person where they talk about the person who has died to learn about them, whether they worked, hobbies, interests, family in considerable detail so they can appear credible at a funeral service as if they have had some kind of connection to them.
Would a professional mourner actually speak at a funeral?
If the numbers were very low would the family then think it would be a good idea for a professional mourner to read a poem, share a story or read a bible reading if this was requested by the deceased relative.
Technically speaking a vicar or facilitator at a funeral would actually conduct part of the funeral so should this make any difference if the professional mourner would speak in some form to help the bereaved living family members.
Would a professional mourner carry the coffin into church or to that personâs final resting place?
Although I have not come across this actually happening I know I did this for my grandmother carrying her to her final resting place however the thought of allowing a non-relative to do this would seem grossly inappropriate, although having said that you employ funeral directors to do this so perhaps this would not be any different if you are employing a different kind of professional at the funeral.
Would you allow a professional mourner to visit the deceased person at the chapel of rest?
Although I have not found any evidence online of any professional mourner would actually do this it does make you wonder if a deceased personâs family would allow this to occur if they would not feel able to do it but is this going one step too far if that person does not know them to see them once they have passed away.
Would it be obvious if they turn up in pairs or threeâs?
Apparently according to the online reviews it is only on very rare occasions that any other personâs attending have suspected anything and when challenge one person said the deceased person would have welcomed their presence.
What qualities do you need to be a professional mourner?
These are what official companies are looking for so if you feel you possess these then please apply.
A good memory
Improvisation
Conversational
Empathy
Versatility
Confidence
Does this occur elsewhere in the world outside the UK?
Yes, apparently this is very popular in the Middle East, African Countries, China but especially around the Ivory Coast the job is much sought after interestingly, this practice according to the New York Times dates back to 1877 however apparently this does date back to Ancient Egypt where two non-related mourners would attend funerals as representatives of the goddesses Isis and Nephthys.
Their role was to pull their hair out to bestow the energy needed for the deceased to reach the afterlife.
How extreme can professional mourners get?
There is a gentleman called Sylvester Ricardo Moss based in the USA whoâs fees go along these lines however he has then created a gofundme campaign that all the money he raises will then contribute to helping disabled persons in the Bahamas, you cannot make some things up however he is unique and not many others are out there doing this.
Normal Crying - $50
Bahamian Hollering - $100
Crying and rolling on the ground - $150
Crying and threating to jump into the grave - $200
Crying and actually jumping into the grave - $1000
Would you hire a professional mourner?
In my opinion, NEVER, this is fake, making money from the person who has died, it takes money out of the estate to their living relatives, if no one wants to attend the funeral then what should happen is the funeral director, council and vicar should ask the public if they could attend as a good will gesture, funerals are real, death is real, we pay for everything in our society but the fact a family has had to pay for that alone anything else is just exploiting the deceased person and how would you know if this is what the person would actually would want, if it is their wishes then of course employ a bunch of fake actors but these services should not be used is my view on the matter.












