Favorite Synastry Aspects + Opinions
Favorite Synastry Aspects
I figured since I did a red flags synastry post, I might as well do a post with good synastry and some opinions. These synastry aspects can be good for friendships, family members, and/or romantic relationships, unless I specify otherwise!
💍North Node Conjunct Mercury: I feel like people with this aspect really get each other, and they teach each other a lot. This relationship is meant to teach the individuals something. They also communicate really well and communication tends to flow between them very easily. Conversations aren’t forced. Just natural.
💍Moon in the 8th overlay: This one is more for romantic synastry, but this could be good in other types of relationships as well. This aspect is the epitome of the saying “lay all your cards on the table”. These people are very open with each other, and feel comfortable talking about anything and everything with each other, more specifically the dark side. In romantic relationships, I’ve found that this really draws two people together. There’s a tension between them, and everyone can see it. This is a strong bond. Some might consider it not good, and if you’re looking for a quick fling, be cautious with this aspect. It’s heavy, but it’s one of my favorites.
💍Chiron positively aspecting+conjunct moon: This is a very healing placement. I personally prefer this for friendships, because in love this can get a little heavy, but if handled right, it’s great in romantic relationships. The two individuals help each other through hardships in life. They’re each other’s therapists, and they make each other better people. If things don’t work out, the pain still helps both individuals become better people.
💍Sun in the 4th overlay: This is great for friendships and family, but also great for romantic synastry too. They’re each other’s “home” in a sense. They feel comfortable around each other, and can fully trust each other. It’s a comfortable placement, and I think of it as the two individuals sipping tea together by a fireplace baring all their secrets to each other.
💍7th house overlays (specifically sun, moon, and Venus): This is the typical romance aspect LMAO. If you have this with someone you’re bound to feel some type of way about them (unless it’s your family member obviously or something but you know what I mean LMAO). In the romantic sense, you’re just very drawn to each other and I’ve rarely seen this play out where both individuals don’t like each other in some way. I have this with a guy and even though I know I don’t like him, there are times when sometimes I question myself, like hmm maybe I do like him? This overlay fucks with you, but in a romantic sense? Literally perfect. You want this in romantic synastry.
💍Sun Opposition Mercury: OKAY HEAR ME OUT. It’s a harsh aspect I’m aware, but they complement each other so well. They learn a lot from each other, and their different approaches to communication can help the other person see a different perspective. Also, I feel like this is so underrated, because every person I’ve had this with always understands exactly how I feel and knows exactly how to make me feel better. Different yes, but they complement each other SO well.
💍Mars Trine Mars: This placement is just… chef’s kiss, esp for romantic synastry. You guys just feel magnetically attracted to each other, and there’s a lot of chemistry. In a non-romantic relationship, you guys both motivate each other to do the best you can and I think of a power couple type shit. There’s also a bit of a healthy competition between you guys.
💍Venus-Mars Positive Aspects + Conjunctions: OMFFFFFFF GIRLLLL (romantic again lol). This placement is ideal. Big attraction here from both sides. Literally a perfect aspect to have. This is the typical movie star romance aspect. Typical fairytale romance.
💍 Mars in the 8th overlay: This shit is SPICY (romantic again). Y’all will feel attracted and connected to each other for no reason. This is lust and attachment. They will be obsessed with each other and the relationship will be intense. Now, this is good for those who are in it for the long haul, but for short term flings? I’d be careful with this again. It’s more intense than Moon in the 8th because it’s more s*xual.
💍Venus Conjunct Jupiter: This one is great for all types of relationships, I feel like people with this in synastry truly understand each other. I’ve had this with someone, and we have so much in common and we just totally get each other. They have a good time together, and with Jupiter being such a benefic planet, this aspect can override a lot of negative aspects in synastry. If you have this in a romantic relationship, this is a GREAT sign that things will work out.
💍Moon in the 1st: I have this with my best friend, and we get each other so well. We always know exactly what the other is feeling, and we can empathize with each other. We have a very natural bond, and most people have to work to form relationships, but friendship was always so easily for us, and we’ve always felt comfortable around each other. This is great for any type of relationship.
💍Vertex Conjunct MC: This aspect is great because both of the people change their lives for the better. They might show each other new interests and they are meant to be in each others lives. This relationship (if not family) is fated to happen.
💍Asteroid Aphrodite #1388 Square/Opposition Sun: While this aspect sounds like it’d be bad, it’s actually not. This aspect makes the pair very protective over each other, and they constantly look out for each other. While this could manifest as being overprotective, I see it more as a good thing. They just want to keep each other safe.
💍Asteroid DNA #55555 positive aspects/conjunctions: This is more so for family, but you could also look at this in other types of synastry to see what you have in common with that person. I have it aspecting my moms Mercury, and a lot of people say I sound like her on the phone. I also have it aspecting my dads Mercury and my mom always says we deal with our emotions in a similar way. With my best friend, we have it aspecting our Chirons, and her and I have dealt with a lot of similar painful situations and have helped each other through them.
💍Asteroid Karma #3811 aspecting Venus and/or Mars: This one is for romance. Ooof, the connection here is STRONG. I have this with someone I’m crushing on, and my friend said she could feel the tension between us. Speaking of which, she literally messaged me today and I’ve been thinking about it all day. Ugh, I’m such a simp.
💍Prominent Asteroid Gabriella #355: This relationship helps both people become stronger. They grow together and they also might fight for causes together. Or they might both work in a job where they help vulnerable people.
💍Mercury Conjunct Mars: This is good for romantic relationships. They flirt alot with each other despite how long the relationship has lasted. It keeps the relationship fresh. They also like to talk in bed…if you know what I mean. They also have a mental connection and they are very open about what they’re thinking.
💍Ceres in the 7th: This is also good for romantic relationships, as the Ceres person can see themselves marrying the 7th house person. The 7th house person makes the Ceres person feel loved and secure. Great for romantic partnerships.
💍Moon Sextile Saturn: This softens the karmic relationship aspect of Moon Conjunct Saturn. You get the best of both worlds with this aspect. There’s a really strong bond between the two, and a lot less clashing. This is likely going to be a long lasting connection (unless it’s a family member LMAO you’re always gonna be connected) if not a life-long connection.
💍North Node in the 3rd: This is great for platonic relationships! I have this with my friend, and I see her as a sister. We also have great conversations and we really get each other. We always say similar things and think the same way. We’re always on the same page about a lot of things, and we also love to teach each other things we’ve learned.
💍Saturn Conjunct Ascendant: I really like this for any kind of relationship. I feel like the Saturn person looks up to the Ascendant person alot. They see them as a role model and the Ascendant person pushes the Saturn person to do their best. The Ascendant person also teaches the Saturn person how to be more mature, and helps them accomplish their goals.
💍Sun in the 5th overlay: This is just a super fun aspect to have for any relationship. The two just have a lot of fun together, and it’s a very light-hearted aspect. They like to make each other laugh and be best friends. In a romantic relationship, they’re like each others best friends.
💍Jupiter Conjunct Mars: For romantic relationships, this couple has ALOT of s*x. There are high libidos here and alot of passion. They are open about their love for each other. I could keep going but I think y’all get the picture.
💍Venus positively aspecting/conjunction Uranus: Literally love at first sight in romantic relationships. The chemistry is natural and they get comfortable with each other really easily. In platonic and family synastry, they’re not afraid to show each other their weird sides and are comfortable with each other. They tell each other all their secrets. There’s a lot of excitement here.
💍Sun Trine Uranus: These two accept each others weirdness and bond over unconventional things. They also like to try new things together. They also find each other interesting and never get bored of each other.
💍Moon-Ascendant Positive Aspects+Conjunction: This gives the two people a really strong and emotional bond. They also feel really comfortable and really familiar with each other. I literally have this aspect with most of my best friends.
💍Venus Conjunct Ascendant or Venus in the 1st: For romantic synastry, this is love at first sight. I had this with one of my exes, and he said he fell in love with me when he saw me (I’m the Ascendant person, he’s the Venus person). Didn’t stop him from cheating though…it’s okay I was never attracted to him anyway <3
💍Ascendant Conjunct Ascendant: This works really well because both people have a similar view of life and have had similar life experiences. They understand each other really well and likely have a lot in common. They don’t have to explain anything to each other, they just know.
💍Mars Square Ascendant: Ugh, the s*xual tension here omg. I had this with someone, and I fucking HATED her but I also wanted to fuck her at the same time. We lowkey just didn’t like each other, but I thought she was hot. In a relationship this would manifest as a strong s*xual connection, and it will always keep things interesting. Others may see this as a negative, and if the couple isn’t careful it can turn into a problematic aspect, however, any relationship can turn sour.
💍Asteroid Destinn #6583 Conjunct Sun: You’re meant to be in each others lives. Nothing else to say here. This connection is fated.
💍Prominent Asteroid Musa #600: The planet person will be the muse of the asteroid person. I had this with my ex, and when we broke up I wrote so many poems about the break up and how it affected me. So he was my muse, but in a more negative sense.
My Synastry Opinions
💍Synastry can’t determine if you’re gonna marry someone, it’s more of the energy between you and the person. I look more at Composite charts and Davison Charts to determine if people will get married.
💍Bad aspects can be neutralized by good ones depending on what they are, i.e. if you have Moon square Venus, and Moon trine Venus as a double whammy, they kind of cancel out each other if that makes sense.
💍8th and 12th house synastry needs to be considered in relationships. I love these synastry overlays, but they’re intense. If you’re looking for a casual thing, I’d advise against doing that with someone you have this overlay with.
💍Normally with asteroids in synastry, one or two aspects isn’t significant if it’s not a conjunction or in a prominent house like the 1st or the 10th. However if it’s three or more aspects, other aspects can be included. However, minor aspects shouldn’t really be counted in this (imo).
💍Oppositions are challenging, but not impossible. I feel like people shit on oppositions alot, but imo, I feel like oppositions can work really well in synastry because people complement each other. Squares are another story, it really depends on what other aspects are there and what the aspect is. (i.e. Moon square Venus isn’t as bad as Mars square Pluto).
💍6th house synastry is really nice too! People say its boring, but I think it’s a really nice synastry overlay to have. You guys make each other a part of your lives, and you guys do things for each other. This is a really nice and sweet overlay to have.
💍 An abundance of squares should be taken with a grain of salt. While you should be wary of these, I personally think depending on the aspects themselves and others in the chart, they can be worked through. Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell have a lot of negative aspects, but they also have really positive ones that balance them out and they’ve been together for a REALLY long time and show no indication of breaking up. Also, my best friend and I have a lot of squares in our synastry, but we get along great because we have other aspects that balance it out. TLDR; look at all the aspects and don’t hone in on the negative ones unless they’re really bad like Nessus contacts, Mars square Mars, etc.
💍Trines are great, but can be lazy. Too many trines in synastry isn’t a great thing either, it can make the relationship fizzle out and go stale. They’re great, but not in abundance. Ideally, you wanna look for sextiles, conjunctions, a few trines, and a few oppositions to keep things alive.
💍Conjunctions aren’t always good, especially when it involves a malefic planet like Saturn or Mars depending on the planet and other aspects. Moon conjunct Saturn can be bad, it can be very painful and they can depend on each other too much. As for Mars, Mars conjunct Pluto can be really great if handled well, there’s a lot of passion, but it has the ability to go south because of ego clashes. So be mindful of conjunctions in synastry, and what planets they’re aspecting.
💍Be mindful of North Nodes and Vertexes in synastry, it can tell you what purpose that person is going to serve in your life. For example, Venus Conjunct North Node, they’re likely there to be a romantic partner and if not that, they might be there to teach you self-love or teach you about your relationships with others.
💍Use whole sign and Placidus astrology for synastry, I’ve found that both are applicable when looking at planet overlays. I typically refer to Placidus astrology for synastry, but it’s definitely worth looking into whole sign astrology as well for synastry.
💍2nd house synastry can be really great, but I feel like it can go sour if the couple isn’t mature enough or careful enough. They can get really possessive and clingy with each other, so this definitely has to be approached with caution.
💍For soulmate connections, I’d say you need 10 or more of soulmate aspects to call someone a soulmate (I might make a post for this). Remember, not all soulmates are romantic either. They could be a platonic soulmate. However, I’d personally use composite for this, as it has more to do with the relationship itself whereas synastry just deals with the energy of the couple. But, I do think an abundance of soulmate aspects in the synastry chart is significant and should be taken seriously. So take that as you will.
💍Honestly, just go with the flow in synastry and don’t let it determine anything. If you feel a major connection with someone, but you feel the synastry isn’t “passionate” enough, don’t let it deter you. There’s always something there with people you have personal connections with, and you can look at your Composite and Davison charts as well.
💍I feel like this one goes without saying, but don’t do synastry charts with celebrities or people you don’t know or don’t really have a connection with (i.e. someone who’s in your class but you never talked to them, honestly I don’t know how you’d even get their info anyway but you get my drift). You’ll get wrapped up in possibly having good aspects with them, and getting your hopes up. Save synastry for the people you do know and do have some sort of a connection with.
💍I personally like to see a bigger number of aspects and have some negative ones in there, versus a smaller number of aspects with mainly positive aspects. This is because I feel like you need a good number of aspects to have a relationship or a connection with this person (this is for romantic synastry). I’ve found that people who I don’t have a lot of aspects with in synastry, my relationships with them have never gone further than a first or second date. Again, take this with a grain of salt. You may have some really powerful aspects despite not having a big number of them.
💍Look out for double whammys in synastry, it heightens the energy of the aspects.
💍If you’re a woman or a more feminine identifying person look to see if your partner’s Moon or Venus falls in your first house.
💍If you’re a man or a more masculine identifying person look to see if your partner’s Sun or Jupiter falls in your first house.
Remember these are all just my opinions, and I’m not a professional astrologer! Hope you guys enjoyed!
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