Matrixaliesie

So my in laws live on the same road as my husband and I, my mother in law makes zero effort to come see my kids. My father in law sees them fairly regularly since he comes to talk to my husband at least once a day. They’re both retired so it’s not like they don’t have the time.

Meanwhile, my parents live over an hour away, my mom works full time+ my dad can’t drive at night because he has cataracts, can’t drive in poor weather because the stress is bad for his heart. They see my kids more often than my mother in law.

Now my brother in laws kids, she sees them all the time, she goes and babysits my nephew at least once a week. When my daughter was born she sent me an email saying she would only babysit one day a month and not at all the week before or after a major holiday. Anytime i’ve asked her it’s been like pulling teeth (which makes me feel like an imposition) so i’ve stopped asking. She’s never once offered so my husband and i can have a night out to ourselves.

I don’t know why this bothers me so much. It’s not like she ever gave me any inclination that she’d be this super helpful/involved grandma. She also laments the loss of her second oldest granddaughter over a year ago but she makes no effort to have a relationship with any of her surviving grandchildren (except for the two that belong to her middle son)

As far as i was aware he only went to tractor supply and the grocery store though he obviously could have gone to another store.