Lady Mary

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Hey, Anon. Just so you know, I’ve been wrestling with your question for the past two days. And unfortunately, I have to admit that I simply don’t know.

The truth is, none of us really know celebrities. We all catch glimpses of them through interviews or whatever they choose to share on social media, but over time we usually form some sense of who they are. We get a feel for their personality, sometimes their values, their family and friends, or the kind of life they lead.

With Sam, that feels impossible.

He shares almost nothing about his private life, and ever since he turned himself into a walking storefront, he has become a caricature of a middle aged party boy.

Gone is the humble, slightly awkward Sam who used to blush when a woman looked at him. Gone is the nerd who built Lego sets and loved Scully and Back to the Future.

Instead, we have this persona, and I sincerely hope it is just that, a persona. One that comes wrapped in jewelry, tattoos, and whatever new accessory he’s selling that week. No matter how hard I’ve tried to find the PR logic behind it, I just can’t.

It feels like a strange mash up of several completely contradictory branding strategies.

On one hand, he’s the businessman behind a premium spirits brand, the owner of a distillery, someone who gives speeches to members of Parliament and represents Scotland both at home and abroad.

On the other, he’s playing the frat boy in tank tops and chunky jewelry, pouring alcohol down strangers’ mouths.

On one hand, he’s soft launching an instant family at every public event. On the other, he refuses to define that relationship, lets the fandom chase breadcrumbs, and behaves around that supposed new family as though they’re an obligation rather than people he wants to be with.

I can understand building a polished, distinguished image. That’s good for the brand.

I can understand leaning into a younger, college boy persona if the goal is to separate himself from Jamie Fraser and perhaps open doors to different audiences.

I can even understand introducing a family, whether for image purposes or as cover for something else.

What I can’t understand is trying to be all of those people at the same time.

How do you narrate smut one week and a children’s book for visually impaired kids the next? How do you sell a $180 bottle of whisky while deliberately cultivating an image that feels cheap and trashy? How do you present yourself as a family man while treating your supposed partner and her daughter like an inconvenience?

I actually found myself wondering this week whether I’ve been wrong all along. Maybe I’ve been holding on to the version of Sam I thought I knew and struggling to let him go.

It’s not an easy thing to admit that you may have completely misjudged someone you spent years believing was a gentleman. A bit of a mama’s boy. Nerdy, charming, funny. Only to wonder whether he’s actually none of those things, but instead a player, a terrible boyfriend, someone who makes questionable decisions and surrounds himself with questionable people.

And then, in the middle of all these videos showing me someone I genuinely dislike, another clip appears. One of him helping Luke Combs’ mother down the stairs, quietly making sure she was okay.

And I catch myself thinking all over again…

Among them? That Sam should make a point of visibly handing something to the little girl.

Further down, the same text went into surprising detail about Tony and the value of certain accessories (the beanie, the sunglasses).

Which made me wonder… Did you happen to read it too, Sam?

Because this was a perfectly missed opportunity, You could have handed over the unicorn headband instead.

Just imagine the possibilities: future appearances with the little girl wearing it… or a few carefully timed photos of the mother with nothing but a blonde head and colorful unicorn horns conveniently visible in the background.

A subtle little callback to the thoughtful gift from the "New Dad."

Marketing-wise, that practically writes itself.

And then, of course, we have the rather interesting contrast, the video of him completely ignoring MW and her daughter… followed shortly afterwards by him being impeccably polite and helping Luke's mother onto the stage.

Caitríona Balfe as Mrs. Dashwood

A lovely friend reminded me of something I’d completely forgotten.

Sam carried Sara Holden’s bag before.

That one little reminder sent me down the rabbit hole.

So I did what I always do…I searched.

And guess what?

I found photos of him carrying other women’s bags over the years too.

Funny how those weren’t treated as everlasting proof of true love.

Anyone who’s followed Sam for more than five minutes knows he’s chivalrous

He’s carried women’s bags before.

He’s joined women in activities before.

He’s helped people before.

That’s called being a gentleman.

Not being in love.

In this case, he was hosting the event. He was standing with her while she was about to try a motorbike, so he held her bag for the moment.

To me, that’s a far more ordinary explanation than assuming someone carrying a bag automatically means they’re in a real relationship!!!

A backpack, a purse, a shopping bag… even a garbage bag…A bag is still just a bag.

The funniest part?

While searching, I found practically every documented second of the man’s life short of his bathroom breaks. 😂

And somehow, the same account keeps recycling the same “evidence” over and over.

Maybe it’s time we stop confusing basic manners with romance.

Because if carrying a bag is proof of love…

Then apparently he’s been in a lot more relationships than anyone can keep track of.

Sources and references

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I don’t know, but the new photos are doing very little to help them sell this as an actual relationship.

So, a quick mid-event recap: I already regret giving Sam credit for keeping the attention on yesterday’s event. Today, it was very clearly important to him, and to her, that we all know she was there.

Thank you to the anon who pointed out that the motorcycle from Ireland doesn’t seem to be starring at the event, which honestly makes me wonder what the urgency was to bring it over between two back-to-back events if no one was even going to ride it anyway.

And as for the event itself… are around fifty motorcycles considered a success? From what I understood, the expectation was closer to 200, but I guess that’s for Sam to decide. And Alex. Speaking of, where is Alex? Is it possible Father’s Day matters more to him than babysitting Steph? Maybe Sam should learn a thing or two from him about priorities when it comes to children.

I understand that Sam wants to put Dumfries and Galloway on the map in order to promote the distillery, but so far it looks like he’s targeting a pretty niche and limited audience instead of actually using the spotlight of the World Cup and aiming at football fans, the people who actually drink nonstop during these things.

I understand they seem to have a very strong need this week to prove there’s something real between them, which ironically only proves the opposite, but here’s some free advice for whoever is managing this circus: when you want to share something funny with someone close to you, you simply send it to them privately. That’s the normal thing normal people do.

But it’s fine, keep acting as if none of us have ever been in a relationship and have no idea how people behave in one.

That's it.

I do find it interesting that she has now decided to fully drop the mask and stop pretending this is a “business account,” because unless penguins are the newest addition to the therapeutic farm in Cork, there is absolutely no professional reason for that story.

I also find the shrinking time gap between these innuendos very interesting. After all, it was only a few days ago that she tried to convince us there are dogs that grow into completely different dogs, accompanied by the soundtrack of a man who could be anyone, but who we’re clearly meant to think is Sam. And we’re meant to think he made the effort to visit her during his free time.

Is this shrinking gap in any way connected to his tan and the sighting of his co-star at an airport in a coastal town in Spain around the same time everyone assumed he was on vacation? Asking for a friend.

And thank you again to Steph for answering everyone on Tumblr who wondered whether you’d be at the event on Sunday by following the event’s account that, for reasons still unclear, was even created in the first place. The communication here is getting so direct that eventually we might all become friends.

The first time I heard that line, I raised an eyebrow.

By the eighth time, or honestly I’ve lost count by now, it became very clear this was not some spontaneous, heartfelt answer. This is a talking point.

And since we’ve already talked about the obvious PR talking points in this promo cycle, especially around Caitriona suddenly being very open about her husband, her child, her family life, evil shippers, and her carefully labelled “working relationship” with Sam, I think it’s time we talk about this specific one.

Because it keeps coming back.

Again and again.

The line is basically this:

Now that they no longer work together every day, they are closer than before, because now they have to choose to see each other.

Sounds lovely, right?

Very mature. Very polished. Very safe.

But let’s actually unpack it.

They are asking us to believe that during eleven years of filming, when they spent months together, hours every day, in one of the most intimate working environments imaginable, there was somehow pressure that got in the way of the relationship. And now, when they no longer see each other daily, when Sam has an extremely busy schedule, when they presumably only meet every now and then, the relationship has deepened.

A bit strange, no?

Even stranger when you remember they were never just two co-workers who met from nine to five and then went home to separate lives.

From the very beginning, they were spending time together outside work. A lot.

And we only know the tip of the iceberg.

Pubs, both in groups and alone.

Hikes, alone and even with her sister.

At least three theatre outings that we know of, one with his mother.

Coffee shops.

A London meet-up with Graham.

Beach picnics.

Tennis.

Games.

Restaurants, including the double date with the Nicks.

A cocktail night during Covid.

And I’m not even including all the trips and overlaps we only discovered in hindsight.

So let me understand this.

All those times they spent together outside filming, they weren’t “choosing” each other?

Because that’s what this talking point seems designed to imply.

From a PR standpoint, it does two things.

First, it minimizes the relationship they had during filming. It gently reframes it as professional proximity, something created by work, pressure, and circumstance.

Which is absurd, considering everything listed above.

Second, it prepares the ground for any future sightings. If they are seen together now, it can be explained away very neatly:

“They’re just very close friends who choose to spend time together now.”

Convenient.

Now let’s go back about a year.

Around Sam’s birthday, he started being spotted in Battersea. Later, we find out he lives there. Conveniently, in the same area as his co-star.

Then there was that sighting by a Spanish fan outside a pub in the neighborhood, where someone sitting across from him looked very much like that same co-star.

Not long after, in at least two interviews, Sam mentioned that he had seen Caitriona in London for “one lovely lunch.”

Caitriona, meanwhile, framed their relationship as mostly texting.

So which is it?

Are they so close post show that Sam feels like she has brought him into her family?

Or are they mostly texting and meeting once in a while for a lovely lunch?

As they say, the math ain’t mathing.

And then, a couple of months after that sighting, the husband reappeared publicly after nearly a year of absence, alongside a new player that entered the game.

Timing is everything.

You’d think that if this is truly just a close friendship, and nothing more, they wouldn’t mind taking a quick selfie during one of those meetups and making millions of fans happy during a very long Droughtlander.

After all, that’s what close friends from pretty much every other show do.

And yet, for some reason, they haven’t posted a photo of themselves together outside of set in years.

Lastly, just because whoever is advising them apparently thinks none of us have actual social lives, I’d genuinely love to know: have you ever felt that a friendship in your life became deeper because you only saw that person once every few months?

Honestly? I was surprised. Not because of the chemistry, that’s always there. What surprised me was the level of intimacy, and how instinctively, quickly, and naturally they sank into it, when as far as we know they haven’t been touching like that in over a year and a half. Even stable couples who haven’t been physically close in a while usually have a second of hesitation, a beat of finding the rhythm again. Here, it looked like they didn’t miss a step.

And it wasn’t casual contact, either. Caitriona acted like it was the most natural thing in the world to press her thigh to his, to squeeze his knee (we’ll get back to that), to run her fingers through his hair, touch his cheek, hook her leg around him. And on his end, he was acting like her lips were the most fascinating thing he’s seen in the last year.

When it’s inside the sketch, you can still argue “fine,” they’re actors, they’re performing, it’s for the bit. But we’re talking about the bloopers. The out of character moments. The breaks. And even then they kept their faces close, kept hands on legs, kept that gentle thumb movement on his knee.

And the moment that, for me, told the whole story in two seconds was when they were reading the script and Caitriona, without even noticing, squeezed his knee in a way you can’t explain away as part of the sketch, not as “siblings,” and not even as “best friends.” Honestly, especially not as best friends. The casualness of it, and the fact that he didn’t flinch, didn’t shift, like it’s completely normal for them, said everything.

And then in promo we’re being sold “home,” loving spouses, Instagram stories. How many partners, even partners of actors, would be fine seeing their partner behave like this with their “best friend”? Especially when it’s just a comedy sketch, where boundaries could easily have been set if they wanted to.

I’ll say it plainly: don’t believe everything you see. You have no idea how desperate they are to sell this broken product. Just don’t buy it.