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Anyway, HIYA! I'm Qwerty, and I write fanfiction. Got a husband and a couple kids in real life, some cats, and a head full of ideas, mostly angst, and blatant self-indulgent tripe that sometimes falls out onto the page. I specialize in character interactions, and deep-diving into their psyche to really find what makes them tick.
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Who is Callie MacPherson? - An intro to my oc in the SCU
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I also have a number of writing that I post to Tumblr, mostly in the form of little disembodied 'snippets' or 'shorties', inspired either from conversations, art, or asks I receive. I try to keep these lists updated whenever I post a new one.
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I know we talk a lot about the literacy crisis and the horrible anti-intellectualism happening rn but I think we need to talk more about how much of an entitlement complex the stupidest among us have developed
Thank you so much for your response. I talked to my hairdresser (who I consider my friend and one of the only people I trust now), for almost an hour, who is ALSO annoyed at my mother, and by extension, my family, and I found out more things about my mother than I have realized myself.
Me and my boyfriend are/were aware that there was going to be a point where the bubble bursted and I would have to leave. Two things:
My hairdresser has connections. She's going to get in contact with one of her friends to see if she can get me a job at her place.
Me and my boyfriend has been saving up money to get a place of our own. To get away from this. I'm planning on going no contact with the rest of my family, though... I feel bad, because it's just only my immediate family acting like this, not my cousins and stuff. However, I have to do what I have to do to keep my peace.
I do have a plan forming. I will take your advice to heart. I don't know how I'm going to make it until the end of the day, to sleep tonight. I haven't even had any food yet because I've been so stressed and crying and just.. A whole mess.
I just want to leave, to let myself be free, to enjoy my life without fear of consequences... It's just so, so hard.
- 🦊 anon
Sounds like you have some good allies on your side to help. I'm glad.
Best of luck to you as you work to break free. Make sure to eat something, you'll need your strength. 💜💜
I know it's been a while, but... A LOT of stuff has been happening in my life. Long story short, it's... Not great. Actually... Rather terribly.
I know I'm some random stranger on the internet, but I feel like I'm alone. Today my mother threatened to take off the door and its hinges to my room. She's probably going to do it.
No, you read that last part correctly.
I'm crying in my room currently because, as of right now, my mom has her parents, and husband (my father) against me. My boyfriend is currently at work, so I can't talk to him as of right now. For right now I'm home alone because I am currently unemployed, but actively seeking for a job.
Today has already began as one of the worst days of my life. My mom invited my grandmother over so that she can get a second opinion, but I know that it's to be on her side. All I did was tell her how much she wronged me throughout my life. She claimed that I'm deflecting. That is how all of this transpired.
She began to tell me how nobody wants me once I leave, and honestly... Part of me believes that. Then I remember that I have a boyfriend, and that he wants me. He loves me for who I am.
Idk why I'm telling you this, as my mom says to make sure none of this reaches out of the household but... I feel like I have no one to talk to.
I'm very sorry for bothering you, I hope you have a wonderful day/night.
- 🦊 anon
First of all, big hugs for you. 💜💜 Navigating these kind of family drama situations is hard, especially if you feel you have no one on your side.
My first bit of advice for you, and I know this goes against all the 'therapy speak' that permeates the 'net these days, is to NOT tell your family how they've treated you poorly.
Yes, it's a good method if you and the other person can have an honest, productive conversation about wrongs and hurts and all that, but in most cases, that's just not feasible. It's just not. An abuser isn't going to listen to their victim tell them "You've hurt me and I want you to stop" and have a light bulb moment where they realize their fault and start treating you right.
Because the abuser is always right. Why, the abuser is actually putting up with your mistreatment of them, and they haven't said anything about it, aren't they so wonderful? You're being too sensitive, you're imagining things, you're blowing things out of proportion to make them the bad guy, see what a horrible person that makes you?
Especially if the person doesn't think they're abusing you in the first place. Their reactions are reasonable. Their anger is just.
Removing your bedroom door is an intimidation tactic. A measure of control. You hurt her feelings, so she's going to make your life uncomfortable until you apologize and realize how unreasonable you're being.
Maybe she'll do it. Maybe she won't. I don't know.
My advice, above all others, is to learn the gray rock method of interacting with difficult people. Don't react. Stay calm. Don't respond with emotional outbursts or try to get them to see things from your pov. They won't. They think they're right. It will do nothing but upset you, and give them more ammo to use against you when you get emotional over it.
Give non-fault responses to questions. Phrase things in "I" statements. Don't accuse, don't blame. Address their topics in a calm, even voice. Don't bring up previous things they've done--there is only the here and now.
Don't defend yourself. They honestly do not want to hear your answer, just use it to beat you down more. "What were you thinking??" "I was upset, and reacted poorly. I apologize."
The cold hard truth is sometimes you just need to tell someone what they want to hear, even if you feel you're being misjudged or treated poorly. Sometimes you'll need to apologize for things you don't feel you were at fault in. Sometimes you'll need to suck it up and let the other person think they're right, just so they'll stop harping on you.
Is it fair? No. Is it conducive of a healthy relationship? Also no. But if you're at this stage in the game already, the possibility for a healthy relationship has passed. If they don't want to be honest and really understand you, the only thing you can do is damage control.
I know it's hard living with someone--or more than one--who seems intent on poking at you, on blaming you for something, on holding you to standards you feel you can't reach. I'm sorry, that sucks. It really does.
You can't change them. You can't be honest with them. You can't try and talk to them to make them see. They won't.
All you can do is try to build a wall around your heart and not let them hurt it any more than they already have. Remind yourself that everything they're telling you is lies to try and control you, make you feel helpless.
Remind yourself that your boyfriend loves you. That any friends you have accept you. That you are, in fact, a person worthy of love and acceptance, regardless of what your family tells you.
It sucks, I know. I really, really sucks. Try to use this as a learning experience for the future, and work toward freeing yourself from this unhealthy environment.
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I kinda wanna write something for aphantime's drawing of "ME controlled Knux" but I've already written a few of those in the past and my brain is too fried to come up with a new angle. 😭😭
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So I'm scouring the internet for some good screen shots and comic panels and whatnot to start littering enhancing my posts with, and came across the most quintessential Dread image ever.
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