she malk on my dova

(flirting) you look so biteable today

That post that's like "stop writing characters who talk like they're trying to get a good grade in therapy" really blew the door wide open for me about how common it's become for a character's emotional intelligence to not be taken into consideration when writing conflict. I remember the first time I went to therapy I had such a hard time even identifying what I was feeling, let alone had the language to explain it to someone else. Of course there are plenty of people who've never been to therapy a day in their life who are in tune to their emotions. But even they would have some trouble expressing themselves sometimes. You have to take into account there are plenty of people who are uncomfortable expressing themselves and people who think they're not allowed to feel certain ways. It also makes for more interesting conflict to have characters with different levels of understanding.

i think people have gotten out of the habit of writing characters being untruthful unless they're evil. sometimes people just lie, or they believe and repeat things that aren't true. people just do not and often Can not tell the absolute truth about themselves all the time even during heated and climactic moments. why are you writing everyone being absolutely honest about their feelings!!

i think, if you have a character who is completely in tune with their emotions, and able to communicate their thoughts and feelings with complete effectiveness. that’s actually a Significant Character Trait that should probably Have Narrative Weight. because that’s a tough skill to master! like genuinely it’s really hard and it takes practice. what in their backstory made them so determined to master themselves in that way? have they actually mastered it, or have they just learned how to fake it really convincingly? under what circumstances does their ability to communicate break down?

"I learned a lot from making this" is artist talk for "making this sucked ass and I'm not entirely happy with the result."