Madam Avery

I’m a lesbian, dominant femme in my late 30s.

This is a space for conversation - for structure, for curiosity, for the deliberate exchange of power handled well.

I’m here to talk about dominance, explore it, and occasionally let you see how I move.

If you’re new here, please take a breath. Then continue below.

You have a lovely blog. For anonymity reasons I’m keeping my name private on here so you can call me whatever you like (just nothing animal please, though I don’t mind ‘dove’). I’m 19, she/her and submissive. I had an old submissive account but it got deleted because I wasn’t in the headspace at the time (exams and life stuff) but now I’m back and much better. I’d love to stay around, if you’ll have me.

Hello, my darling

Thank you for the lovely message, and for introducing yourself so nicely. I always appreciate that.

And yes, you’re absolutely welcome to stay around.

I’m very glad things feel a little lighter for you now. Sometimes life simply gets busy for a while, and stepping away from social media for your own wellbeing is never something you need to apologize for.

As for names, I tend to let those happen naturally once I know someone a little better, rather than choosing one right away.

Hello, Mistress Syn

It’s nice to meet you as well, and thank you for the introduction.

I’m always interested in conversations with people who approach dynamics with curiosity and self-awareness. No matter how experienced we become, there is always something new to learn about others, and ourselves.

Thank you for stopping by my inbox, and I hope you enjoy your time here.

Hello, my darling

The very first thing I would do is actually get to know the girl behind the teasing comment before deciding whether she’s truly naughty at all.

I do appreciate confidence and a little playful rebellion, but I value patience and genuine connection far more than rushing headfirst into labels and fantasies.

So perhaps you should start by properly introducing yourself to me first, my darling.

- 🐞

Hello, my 🐞

My day was very slow, actually. And I enjoyed that quite a bit. As I mentioned before, things have been rather busy lately, so having a quieter day for once felt like a much needed little reset.

How has your day been, my darling?

Can i be 🩰?

Im a little new to tumblr so please be easy on me, this app is confusing.

Hello, my darling

Yes, of course you may claim the 🩰.

Please do share your age and pronouns with me next time you drop into my inbox. We appreciate a proper introduction here.

I hope you’ve managed to find your way around tumblr a little more over the last few days.

Love,

Your little spider 🕷️

Thank you, my little spider.

That was a very sweet thing to find in my inbox.

I hope you’re having a soft and lovely day, my darling.

I'm a little brazilian writer who loves to cook (and bake too) and my questions for today are: do you read? What kind of book do you like? Have any favorites? Also, what's your favorite dish ever? I'll try to cook it.

This one is not about bdsm, so let me know if you enjoy this kind of ask or not. (I'll try to think about more questions involving bdsm though, since that's what your profile is about)

Anyway, just passing by :)

Take care.

— R.

Hello, R.

Gosh no, you absolutely do not have to force BDSM questions into every ask you send me. I enjoy hearing about people as people. Not everything in my life revolves around BDSM either, despite what tumblr might suggest sometimes.

I do read, although admittedly not as much as I’d like these days. Life has a habit of stealing quiet reading hours from me.

And I’m hopeless when it comes to choosing a favorite genre. I read a little bit of everything depending on my mood. Fiction, psychology, philosophy, the occasional terribly dramatic novel that keeps me awake far later than it should.

I recently reread The Why Café by John Strelecky, actually. I enjoyed it quite a bit the second time too. There’s something gentle and reflective about it that I appreciated even more now than when I first read it.

Sometimes I read fanfiction as well. Honestly, I think it’s rather incredible how many talented writers share their work online for free. There’s some genuinely beautiful writing hidden away in those spaces, written simply because someone loved a story or a character enough to create more of it. I’ve always found that very charming.

Now you’ve made me curious about you, little Brazilian writer. What do you write?

And asking me to choose a favorite dish might be just as cruel as asking me to choose a favorite book. I’m very much a food lover. I can appreciate all kinds of cuisines if they’re made well.

But now I think the more important question is this: What would you cook for me if you had the chance?

And I’d claw at your heart, and I’d tear at your sheet. I’d say ‘please, I’m your woman’”

- 🕷️

Hello, my little 🕷️

That is quite a beautiful thing to drop into my inbox, and Leonard Cohen suits you well.

Thank you, my darling. I did enjoy reading that very much.

-🐞

Hello, my little ladybug

Yes, of course you may call me Mommy if that’s what feels right to you, my darling.

And as for your period, I know it can make us feel a little self-conscious sometimes, especially when we’re already needy and frustrated. But it’s nothing bad or embarrassing. It’s just your body doing something completely natural.

You never have to feel ashamed of that. Our bodies are beautiful exactly as they are. And the little “mess” you’re worried about is usually far smaller and far less dramatic than our brains make it feel in the moment. A dark towel and a little cleanup after is usually all it takes, my darling.

My throat is not hurting anymore! I’m still recovering from my sickness though. My school is almost off. I have more finals this week. It’s very stressful but at least after finals I get to relax until August. I am very excited for it to be summer. It’s not my favorite season but I do love it a lot. I love swimming and tanning and going out with my friends. I made a list of things to do this summer. I do this every summer to make sure that I’m not staying locked inside my house for three months. I do still have to work, but it’s at least better than going to school and working. I am so, so excited.

I hope you are doing well and that you’re looking forward to summer season.

Love,

Your little 🕷️

Hello, my little 🕷️

I’m very glad to hear your throat is feeling better, my darling. You sounded quite miserable the last time you wrote to me, so I’m happy your body is finally starting to recover.

And finals on top of being sick is quite a combination. I can imagine how stressful these past weeks have been for you. How did your finals go so far?

Your summer plans sound lovely, though. Swimming, tanning, seeing your friends again, that sounds exactly like the kind of freedom people need after months of stress and routines. And honestly, I think your summer list is a very good idea. Far too many people blink once and suddenly summer is over without having really enjoyed it properly.

Now I’m curious, if summer isn’t your favorite season, which one is? And what makes you love it most?

And tell me, what’s currently at the very top of your summer to-do list, hm?

As for me, I’m very much looking forward to summer as well. Long evenings, warm air, dinner outside, the city feeling a little lighter and more alive again. There’s something very beautiful about it.

It's been a while, I apologize for the late answer, I've just been dealing with a lot lately and I've also been depressed but I don't wanna burden anybody with how I'm feeling or whatever.

Anywayyy!! I'm happy to know you enjoy reading my asks, I have to admit I do love writing those for you so it's nice to know that they're appreciated! :))

When you told me about the music you listened to in your younger years I couldn't help but be so happy when you mentioned Amy Winehouse! I absolutely adore her songs, I love the melancholic melodies of just a yearning woman, she was a legend and I think she left us way too son.. I saw the AMY movie with mom as well, heartbreaking story honestly, may she rest in peace..

And yeah as I said I love the lively beats of Electronica! There's a band that I keep going back to, it's called Lesbians On Ecstasy (also known as lezzies on x), I love their song so much because they have such a sensual vibe with nice beats! An example of that is a song by them that I really like, it's called "Tell Me Does She Love The Bass" ! It's great!! Another artist that is my favorite artist at the moment is Peaches! I love that woman so much, I feel like she paved the way for provocative art, I went to her concert in March and I even got to meet her! She's amazing and so down to Earth it's crazy, and the fact that she's still performing at 59, I just find that so admirable! She put on an amazing show!

It's so funny that you said that your sub being able to trust you is your favorite part about being a domme because it's also my favorite part about being a sub! I love feeling safe with my dom, I feel like that's when I tend to shine the most and go to the fullest with them! I love being guided and I also love feeling that non-judgement/safe space vibe from them. It's a feeling I cherish, I love to feel like I'm at home with the person I do this with! I'm glad we can agree on that, madam!

Anyway, I'm sorry, that message was pretty long, I wish you a good night, I hope you're well, madam!

Hugs and kisses xx

-🦩

Hello again, my little 🦩

First of all, you do not need to apologize for disappearing a little. Life has a habit of becoming heavy sometimes, and I am sorry to hear things have not been easy for you lately. I hope you have been treating yourself gently where you can.

And you will have to forgive me for taking a while to answer this myself. Work has been rather relentless lately, and I recently took on a new position that has me traveling quite a bit in the beginning. It has all been a little hectic.

I did see the Amy movie, actually. Heartbreaking, really. Such an extraordinary talent, and a woman the world lost far too early. I was lucky enough to see her live once years ago, and she was absolutely magnetic on stage. A real force of nature.

And yes, I fully intend to listen to your recommendations over the next few days once things calm down a little again.

Take care of yourself a little for me, my darling.

(i’m guessing this will become my signature greeting haha)

God ma’am, you make my head spin with all your kind words and praise, it only makes me look forward to your replies even more.

Also, I noticed a little thing in your replies to asks, and i find it endearing and a bit amusing to see just how intentional you are, mommy.

When the person asking isn’t someone who you’ve been introduced to or they come off a bit… blunt or explicit you could say, you sign off with ‘• Madam Avery’, whereas with other asks like mine and other anons or people, you sign off with a lovely ‘xo Madam Avery’.

it puts a smile on my face seeing how intentionally you do everything ma’am, even after reading your introduction, which makes me personally feel more certain each time you respond to me, that every word was chosen intentionally just for me, forgive me if I sound a bit excited or giddy Miss Avery haha, it’s rare to find a person as pleasant as you nowadays <3

I find it very enjoyable to send you asks, and I probably show no signs of stopping soon :)

-🐈

Hello, my 🐈

Oh, you are an observant little thing, aren’t you?

Yes, you’re absolutely right. The signature is intentional. Just like the rest of it. I take quite a bit of pride in choosing my words carefully and meaning what I say when I say it.

Honestly, I find your excitement rather adorable, my darling. You’re very sweet when you get a little giddy like this.

I’m very glad you keep returning to my inbox, my 🐈. I’ve been enjoying getting to know you quite a bit myself.

- 🐞

Hello, my 🐞

You’re free to call me Madam, Ma’am, or Mommy. Whatever feels most natural to you.

Thank you, my darling, that was very polite of you to ask.

i managed to take a little break from reality and went back to my home country to visit my family, so i can say i’m very well rested (and so full of wine im surprised i haven’t turned into one big grape myself)

AND, i am in fact very innocent, and also very well behaved^_^ it’s very bold of you to assume i’m anything other than that. i am an absolute angel:)

but those little comments you always add have been stirring my imagination way more than i anticipated and most of the time it is at the most inappropriate of times:( but…i will admit i have been enjoying it quite a lot:)

-🫐

Hello, my precious 🫐

I did get your ask, my darling. I’m sorry for the delayed reply. I’ve been away quite a bit lately and will continue to be on work trips for the next few weeks, so my replies may stay a little slower than usual for a while. But I haven’t forgotten you.

And honestly, reading this made me smile.

You returning home, seeing your family again, drinking enough wine to nearly turn into a grape yourself, that sounds like exactly the kind of reset you needed. I’m very glad you allowed yourself that little escape from reality and came back feeling rested.

Now I do have to ask: what kind of wine do you usually enjoy most? Red, white, or are you secretly a rosé girl?

My, my. A very innocent and very well-behaved angel whose imagination keeps wandering at inappropriate moments because of a few little comments from Mommy? I see. Though I must admit, I am rather pleased to hear you’ve been enjoying it so much.

I hope you’re doing well, my darling angel, and that you can hold onto that soft, rested feeling from your trip for a little while longer, even now that reality has probably found you again.