Mad Madeleine

non-passing trans men still have privilege over trans women

i appreciate people jumping in on the post earlier saying they've been pretty much universally read as a man for years because young trans boys need to hear that. but also. it doesn't matter if you can't even transition you still have privileges over a woman from your same demographic that's just how that works.

everyone can misgender you daily and you can have "F" on every single legal document and yet who's the demographic most likely to be forced into sex work, murdered, and regularly sent to the more dangerous prison. trans men have privilege over trans women and there's no caveat.

if it's terminal im just gonna say fuck it and become a porn star

every "genderfuck" thing about trans woman has been one of two things. either discouraging us from fully transitioning and saying we shouldn't wear makeup or shave or make any effort to be feminine. or it's trans tmes looking at the parts of our bodies that are the most dysphoria inducing and getting jealous. most of the time its both

i think we should talk about degendering more as a very real form of transphobia. you should not be calling a trans woman "they" when she's explained her pronouns to you. you should not be calling her a "person" instead of a woman. she's not too gnc, she's not too androgynous, you're not "confused" about her identity, you're degendering her. I fear we've gotten to a point we've forgotten the very basics of this movement is "trans women are women" and "trans men are men", and not just "trans people are someone who's pronouns you have to memorize so you don't offend them." you see her as a man in a dress and it pisses me off

i think telling trans men they're not men in a way that counts is heinously transphobic actually. all these people are obviously transmisogynists as well but atp i'm marking them red for their good old fashioned transphobia too

i've fought cis people who were dear to me for saying shit like this, why should i tolerate it from shitty dudes who, adding insult to injury, aren't just saying it because they're parroting the transphobic background noise of the world rn but to actively deny they benefit from transmisogyny??? fuck all the way off. i'm so tired of people on my asks telling me i should give more grace to ""my community"". these people are not my community and if i could i'd spit on every one of their faces until i died from dehydration

lol can you tell i had a bad day at work