Musings

Bless the women. Bless the women who are the pillars that make Ramadan and Eid comfortable and joyous experiences for everyone.

Eid Mubarak to you and your loved ones. Give and send love and remember those with bleeding hearts, those whose tears are flowing, those grieving the loss of their loved ones, the orphans spending Eid alone, those in war zones, those under seige, those imprisoned unjustly, the oppressed, the sick, remember the entire Ummah. May Allah shower His mercy and love upon us all. Eid Mubarak.

Don’t settle for nice, for pleasant, for familiar. Keep looking until you find something that really moves you, that resonates with your core. And I mean this for people, for interests, for hobbies, for your possessions, clothes, music, books, art. Everything. Curate every aspect of your life, as much as you can. It’s in the things that deeply inspire us that we find ourselves. Surround yourself with truth, and you’ll have built yourself a heaven.

i noticed this thing with a lot of men. they tend to be really generous and kind only to women they’re attracted to. duh, obvious statement to most of you but it’s jarring when you see it first hand and it’s so prevalent and insidious to the point that it feels uncomfortable accepting help from a strange without thinking of the possibility of him having ulterior motives. and it’s disheartening knowing that if you’re in a position needing a man’s help, a lot of times it will depend entirely on whether or not he’s attracted to you. and the problem is that they think this goes both ways. i can show a simple gesture of kindness and a man will take it as me coming on to him. me letting you go in front of me on the checkout line because you have one item, me offering change because you don’t have any, or anything other well-intentioned act of kindness results in a man trying to eventually make a move thinking that it’s mutual. how sad it must be to think that there’s no kindness for the sake of kindness. that all good done in this world is based on sexual impulses instead of the desire to help another human being just how you like to be helped. 

poor children literally jumped to their deaths attempting to escape the fire and a bunch of rich fucks are already out and about with their talking points defending austerity and simultaneously saying how we should not politicize this, which was a direct result of capitalist politics. How much more is it going to take for people to realize that capitalism is actual violence and is directly and indirectly responsible for the deaths of millions of people every year?

Not everything you want is good for you.

I don’t think men understand the concept of finding partnership within their significant others until they’re older and have themselves figured out. Over the past three years or so, it seems as if when a man my age was into me all he wanted to do was take. No sense of wanting a partner (equal in the sense of care and giving) but a strong sense of desiring a woman for consumption (as a distraction from himself and as a vessel to place all his pent up insecurities) or a woman to put in the emotional labor of healing him. It took so long for me to realize this and in retrospect, the signs are always clear when a man doesn’t want you as a partner but rather a tool to make his life better. Now, I would never think to be with someone who isn’t already fulfilled on his own because otherwise he’ll use me as one of the beings to fulfill him. Only when two fulfilled people come together, can there be a partnership and isn’t that better? Partners in life rather than two people trying to take from each other to fill their own voids.