beautiful princess discourse

What doesn't kill you leaves you bleeding for the rest of your life wishing it did

It's nuts how common it is to not allow children to be angry, even (especially) in households where adults are angry all the time. As a child I knew my own anger was unacceptable--not just expressing it outwardly but feeling it at all. So now as an adult my immediate reaction to my own anger is often to feel guilt instead of like. Noticing when someone is being rude or unfair or my boundaries are being violated or whatever. fucked up.

i feel so dumb for being so soft in such a manipulative world.

don't be mean to yourself that's you

you live there

sex-repulsed people are fully within our rights to be cranky and blunt about not liking sex and how it's fucking everywhere btw. we shouldn't have to tiptoe around and make sure our phrasing is perfectly squeaky clean because people interpret any criticism of sex and sexualization as puritanism. venting about compulsory sexuality is not purity culture. maybe you could stand to learn a thing or two from us.

Telling someone “it’s not that deep” is like telling someone their pain has to make sense to you before it’s allowed to matter. Something may not be deep to you. And that is fine. BUT, people carry different histories, different wounds, traumas, and different experiences. What barely touches you or someone else may cut deeply into another. It’s never been about being “sensitive.” It’s about understanding no mind is alike, no nervous system is identical, and no one experiences the world exactly the same way. Understanding is not required for compassion.

my intuition is always right. my pattern recognition is always right. why do i even listen to others when all they do is lie ?

"it's just stress" oh thank god, it's just the silent killer that slowly kills you, perfectly harmless, no need to worry

what people don’t understand about how adhd is disabling is that it’s not just getting temporarily distracted from, like, school work or hobbies. it’s getting distracted/being unable to motivate yourself to go to the doctor, eat regularly, do hygiene tasks, etc. it’s not knowing when or how long it will take you to do something, ANYTHING, and in many cases that thing is taking a shower or keeping your house from turning into a biohazard. it’s about being fundamentally incapable of controlling your attention and focus on anything, even and especially things you need to do to survive.

It's always "stop harming yourself or we'll have to lock you up!!!" and never "what do you need to change to want to harm yourself less and how can we help you make some of these changes?" and that's why we're not getting anywhere

the online identity and gimmick-ifying of autism is so odd. I'm diagnosed with autism and yet I barely identify with any stuff I see about it anymore. It feels like autism is being rebranded as the Silly Guy Disorder that gives you smart and beautiful hyperspecific interests. it's not that I mind silly jokes or being lighthearted about being autistic- but when the entire social movement is based around marketing us this way, I just can't help but feel isolated from it. it feels like I'm not the right kind of autistic. I'm not marketable and digestible to common audiences, and therefore I am discarded by the movement in the name of progress and acceptance. it feels foul.

no one appreciates that i could be a million times worse