Not to be a freak but why isn’t anyone into being.. gentle and not evil in bed
Also why is it that sex that isn’t wildly misogynistic or otherwise sadistic and borderline/actually abusive is immediately referred to as “boring”??? What does that say about you as a person?? What does that say about our society?? Also tmi but to be honest if things get too rough my body literally goes numb anyway. The lack of nuance in sensations is boring to me like the what fuck has porn done to people???? The definition of modern “exciting” sex is just beating someone and at least hinting at some sick parody of rape. Just because you have a boner doesn’t mean it’s any less fucked up.
In the 1980s, when many women were graduating with professional degrees, anger against women crackled the airwaves [popular culture recast tender, intimate sex as boring]. We saw a stupendous upsurge in violent sexual imagery in which the abused was female … In a world where both sexes’ guilt and angry fear surrounded the sense that women were getting out of control, the public quickly lost interest in ordinary unharmed nakedness. Presented as more compulsively engaging to the attention of men and, eventually, women, was imagery that played out anxieties from the sex war, reproducing the power inequality that recent social changes had questioned: male dominance, female submission. Female nakedness became inhuman, ‘perfected’ beyond familiarity, freakishly like a sculpture in plastic, and often degraded or violated.
Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth
