WE ONLY HAVE WHAT WE REMEMBER.

2) trust needs proof => consistency over time not paranoia (no surveillance or tests)

So many people don’t realize their asexuality cause they assume whatever attraction they do have must be the oh so fabled sexual attraction they hear so often about, see the common ace experience of confusing aesthetic or romantic attraction for sexual attraction.

Just the uncertainty of having thoughts like “I found this person pretty, is that sexual attraction? I kinda get nervous when I talk with this one classmate, is that getting ‘butterflies in my stomach’?”

Or there’s the alternative experience of assuming sex and sexual attraction is actually this one huge inside joke everyone’s into but of course nobody actually feels these things, right?

And the proceeding realization of “wait, you’re not joking? None of you are?”

I myself know so little about sexual attraction, it feels so foreign to me, and I’m just left with so many questions, Recently I just learned myself that apparently finding someone attractive and being attracted to them are two different things? What?? How do allo people keep up with all this stuff???

Being ace is weird