the most beautiful example of this is that, in one of her essays where she's literally saying we shouldn't be infighting, she is literally vagueposting about ME.
like, this article is directly referencing me. because of benjanun and talia lying about something I said, at which point she for whatever reason believed them with no further questions asked it seems, and seemingly never actually read my original thread (where it would've been clear that I wasn't talking about her but instead the behavior some of her followers were engaging in).
I was specifically talking about mostly racism-related dynamics wherein white trans people with any smidge of authority within queer spaces were partaking in smear campaigns against trans POC due to petty personal grievances
.......often because that trans POC tried to advocate for themselves or call out racism against them, even if done very gently (because if it isn't done gently that is then used as an excuse to malign them further), and those white trans people would come up with a million excuses for why they disliked said POC in order to avoid confronting the real reason why that person "gave them a bad vibe": racism and implicit biases. I've seen it time and time again where a trans POC enters a queer space, and the white people within that space act standoffish and later say that they just "got bad energy from them", when that person literally did nothing wrong.
then they'll subconsciously seek out excuses for why they should allow themselves to ban that POC from their space, often slowly--over the course of months, usually--creating rumors and little arguments that triangulate the other white people in that space against that trans POC. it eventually culminates in that person having either their reputation destroyed, or having their entire support system pulled up from under them and all resources taken away, because of some final argument over something incredibly asinine and petty, because some white person couldn't handle the initial feelings of discomfort that they had over the mere presence of a person of color in their vicinity.
even if it kills this person. even if it leaves them homeless. they'll be in a queer resource center that people rely on to survive and the white queer people often sitting in managerial or administrative positions will decide to ban a queer person of color (and implode their entire friend network so that nobody else wants to help them) over something as ridiculous as "they told me something I said one time was hurtful to them, how dare they ask something of me, how dare they insult me like this" (even if that's not the conscious thought going on).
no consideration for "is this petty* argument I had with this person really worth potentially leaving them homeless or dead", which is something that somebody in an administrative role should be able to think about immediately. but they value their racism more than they value the lives of queer POC (or POC in general).
*typically the final blow is over something petty, but the actual original racism is not. they'll find increasingly pettier excuses because there's not anything that this person is doing that is actually wrong, and so they have to find ridiculous things to nitpick in order to have an excuse to demonize them.
so when I referred to people using Whipping Girl as a "landlord positivity self-help book", and I referred to these types of people as "social landlords" within queer spaces, that's what I was fucking referring to. because some of these people will take books (and talks. and quotes. etc.) like Whipping Girl--books that are white-centric and tell them that their problems are the worst problems and that here's this group and that group who has it better than they do--and they will use that in order to make themselves feel less guilty about enacting forms of social disposability and racism-driven (or [insert other bigotry here]-driven) authoritative violence against queer POC. they use stuff like that as a self-help book! even if that's not the original intention! and when you align yourself with people like that, instead of condemning it, you are directly enabling that behavior.
and the big fucking major important part about this whole situation, was that I was explicitly clear (in my original thread on the issue) that this was not solely a transfem-transmasc type issue. that there were plenty of white transmascs who get into similar authoritative positions and who then abuse that power over others in similar ways, but that the Whipping Girl issue was just one avenue with which white queer people were abusing queer POC and trying to escape accountability for it.
