Lilac Memorials

Champion of Eorzea, blessed by the Mothercrystal. You've bested tyrannical warlords, fearsome dragons, and god-like beings. You've liberated nations, aided in their restorations. You rub shoulders with their leaders and the common folk alike. With every victory, every adventure, every grand feat, your legend grows. Everyone knows your name. Everyone knows what you've done. Everyone knows what you're capable of doing.

'It's the blessing of Hydaelyn,' they say; 'the power of the Echo,' 'the unwavering soul of Azem'. Only the Warrior of Light could do what you do, only someone destined to usher change and defend the very star from destruction. Allies and enemies alike agree; there is nobody like the Warrior of Light.

But that's where they're wrong. You may be special, or chosen, or destined... but you don't feel that at all. All you feel is the pedestal you never asked to be put on. The perceived gap between you and them is staggering. They think you untouchable; so far removed from human you must be a god, or something greater. You aren't a person to them any more. You're a symbol. An idea. A concept. Intangible.

fragments/nights-at-crystarium/Jay have been posting misogynistic, biphobic, transphobic, lesbophobic, entitled comments and then claiming people are homophobic when they criticise him back. Please rethink if you want to keep supporting him.

A/N: warning this is a LONG POST and I have truncated it under the break. I have also added the most recent misogynistic rant at the top just below the biphobia.

C/W: Biphobia, misogyny, transphobic language, lesbophobia, entitlement

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Biphobia

Context: an anon send him a message about how Emet can only be gay, Japanese people don't understand queercoding and that people who ship femme character with him are delusional.

See here for why his Emet-Selch comment was biphobic at worst and misguided at best. (thank you @birues for bringing this to everyone's attention)

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Misogyny and Trans-exclusionary language

Jay HATES the idea that women want to share this space too. In addition to the Tumblr post above he posted this to his Patreon discord, which is not private as his patrons can access it. He laments that people make fem characters because it's default and he wishes they all would transition to men. He also jumps in to insult two artists with m/f Emet ships @nipuni and @ja-ck-du and calling their art hetslop:

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(continued with more of his terrible behaviour after the break)

TL;DR: in his livetweet of ARR, Jay dismissed the Ala Mhigans in Little Ala Mhigo as "politically angry men" and I argued that while it can certainly be rooted in racism, his "personal dislike" of them stemmed more from his unwillingness to engage with things that do not affect/involve him directly (who cares about a bunch of refugees when you're preventing primal summonings, amirite?), and that sort of attitude carries into everything else in his life including his (lack of) engagement with other queer communities that are not exclusively gay.

Jay very clearly wants to live in his bubble where he only wants to engage with things that matter to him, as exemplified by the "literally just having fun in my own corner" comment. He feels "invaded" when he's politely asked to take other people into account even when it takes nothing away from his ability to enjoy and make gay fancontent. He doesn't want to acknowledge happy new yuri. He doesn't want to consider queer M/F ships. He says gay ships used to be the default. He doesn't want to have anything to do with anything that's not male homosexuality, and that includes having the barest modicum of decency and respect for other queer identities. You can play with headcanons and make fancontent however you like, but when you're on the internet and making yourself publicly available as a content creator, you no longer function in an exclusively gay little bubble. You do not get to demand other people engage with you and get upset when they call you out for being exclusionary, but unfortunately he seems a little too self-absorbed to really understand that.

In conclusion:

Making exclusively gay fancontent because you're gay and that's what you want to see and how you want to play with your fave NPCs? ✅

"Why do you never see ME with my yaoi agenda under people's yuri posts"- not under post but you DID shove your yaoi agenda to replace the lesbian's day. And I cannot stress this enough but I'm all in for the gay agenda and celebration of it- same goes for lesbian, ace, trans and any other in the LGBT+ family. But not seeing how you actively overshadow anything else than your personal stuff by rude and offensive comments and playing a victim when met with any slightest criticism only makes you an asshole not really welcomed in the community.

And you know, it's a normal thing to not realize how rude or hurtful something you said may land as- but it's also a very human and common sense thing to listen to those you've hurt and apologize/make amends. But what Jay does instead?

He never shows any remorse nor apologize- instead attacking and ridiculing the ones who point out stuff to him. That and twisting every criticism into a "homophobic attack" and harassment of an marginalized person. Playing a victim card with one hand- while holding a credit card scanner with the other, as he begs followers to drop some $ since now he needs them more than ever.

This is not a homophobic hate campaign, contrary to what he claims. This is a call for accountability. I would have called out anyone for being biphobic, transphobic, misogynistic and racist. It just happens to be that a lot of cis gay men are biphobic and they come out in droves during Pride Month to spew their drivel.

Having your own headcanons for characters is totally fine. Everyone has them. Dismissing other people's sexualities and gender identities because they don't align with your views and being hateful towards them is a completely different thing.

hApPy pRiDe 🏳️‍🌈😚 Here's to getting upset that other queers might imagine a fictional character with no established canon sexuality to be interested in more than just one gender.

Oh, and why not sprinkle some caaaaasual racism into it! Because fans "in Japan (and maybe other places idk)" might not recognize the same shitty gender-normative stereotypes as you. So true. We the Asians should def get a pass for homophobia because our cultures are just Like That™ or whatever the fuck.

Brother. Do you know any damn thing about queerness outside of North America? Yes, Japan (and maybe other places idk) has the same/similar cultural tells for queerness because (1) Western esp American media is a major influence on global culture, and (2) shitty gendernormative and sexist beliefs are worldwide and upheld to varying levels of severity.

Holy fuck. I know people of color don't exist in English dialogues about queerness except as window dressing, but please consider perspectives outside your own. Especially during a month that celebrates the diverse spectrum of queerness.

Anyway, here's the very questionable response NAC posted and is now crashing out over:

Even if they could relate to the anon's sentiments, their response is so fucking entitled and whiny. HEY, I'M THE VICTIM. I'M BEING OPPRESSED. WHAT DO YOU MEEEEAAAAN I'M BEING INSENSITIVE TO BI/PAN/OMNISEXUAL PEOPLE YOU'RE TAKING MY WORDS IN BAD FAITH.

Like, did you all know we can have very real conversations about gay erasure without throwing other people under the bus over personal player perceptions of a fictional character's sexuality? Mind blown.

Oh honey, no. No it's not.

It's a "you have a massively shitty take" campaign.

That said, this is fiction. Emet Selch does not exist. He is 1s and 0s. He cannot be gay or bi or ace or trans or anything else anywhere but in your head. So go buck wild, design the fictional character however you personally want to see it, because he's not real, and you can do that! - and remember that fandom was made so that we could all celebrate loving a certain piece of media together. Not to argue about what kind of queer label Spock or Kirk is - each person is entitled to THEIR fiction and head-canon, and attacking them over it is the epitome of immaturity... you're playing pretend, and fighting over the make believe character?? Do you know how actually, literally childish that is for grown adults?? 8 year olds play pretend on the playground and don't act like this.

And then to take the childish antics so far as to attack whole queer communities in real life is filthy beyond belief. Bi people exist, hi... hello. We like lots of different genders and gender presentations - 'bisexual' means we like "two or more". We're here, we're queer, and we deserve some damn respect and acknowledgement. (And don't be shitty to the Lesbians either?? What a weird, low blow comment that was to see in response to this.)

Every day, I'm glad I left XIV, the toxic positivity, and unbelievably unhinged community that cannot separate fact from fiction behind... but shit like this is a good reminder when I think I miss it.

tl;dr Emet Selch is fictional, so he is whoever and whatever YOU want him to be. He doesn't belong to anyone but SE - and we should be excited to hear about others' ideas and interpretations, instead of "I head canon him as gay, so everyone else in the world is just painfully stupid." That... is a person struggling to separate fiction and reality - Emet isn't real, and you're much too invested in 1s and 0s if you're attacking real world ppl and communities over head-canons.

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Hello! I’ve entered the Undertale fandom about five years late and have a mighty need to do some roleplay in that particular universe and a number of the related AUs. I am looking for individuals who are 18+, who are comfortable with mature as well as darker themes (violence, sex/sexuality, psychological elements, racism, etc.) and who are comfortable with canon characters and OCs in an RP setting.

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Maybe a bit unnecessary but I wanted to see all my baby girls together 🥳

If you missed anyone’s solo post (understandable, it’s been like two months) here’s some links for a better look at everybody

Emily, Penny, Leah, Haley, Abigail, Maru, ???

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You can, technically, watch the train huff and puff instead. (I don't do that.)

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