Chronic Reblogger

She works for the mayor because he gives her a home, acts as a father figure, someone who gives her validation. He gives her not only emotional space to be herself, but also a nice apartment that she never had when working with Buffy.

Researchers being quoted are like “mostly these men will keep reoffending and we can say jail time might cure them but um. Unfortunately the data doesn’t support that.”

Absolutely none of the men will own up to having done something wrong. One of the men talks about the trauma he and his wife went through together: he accidentally killed her son with a tractor, got into drugs over the guilt, kept harassing her about wanting to kill her, and then went to her work with a noose in his car screaming he would kill her. Another man stole $100,000 from a woman and then started stalking her because she wouldn’t “listen to his apology”. Another man actually previously killed a girlfriend and the stalking victims testified against him on the stand, because he confided the murder story to her to scare her.

What’s interesting though is they do have one female stalker. She started leaving little voodoo dolls and shit on her husband’s ex-wife’s doorstep and car because she was sending nude photos of the women to her husband. Her story made national news. She was put on probation because she never did anything violent, but part of the terms of the probation was she had no contact whatsoever with her own mother for 8 years. The terms of this woman’s no-contact order with her mother were stricter than the no-contact orders given to men against their victims after they were imprisoned (all of the men either attempt to or continue to stalk their victims from prison). The female stalker did own up to what she did and expressed remorse immediately.

A man kept punching out the windows of a woman’s home when she wasn’t there, sent her thousands of texts about being camped outside her home, asked her neighbor about guns at 6 in the morning, memorized her work and gym schedule. Because none of this was “a threat to bodily harm” it was all fine. The stalking victim had to hire an attorney to find other victims he did beat in order to prove he was a real risk to her.

The man was totally aware that as long as she didn’t have his face on videotape while kicking in the windows of her house, he couldn’t be touched. He repeated multiple times that she never had him on tape breaking into her home, therefore it wasn’t him and he shouldn’t be in prison.

Was it the part where a man stated that because he wasn’t on tape breaking into her home, he shouldn’t be in jail for trying to break into her home? That he knew that without cameras it would be very hard for a prosecutor to do anything to him? Even though he had also left hundreds of voicemails detailing her daily movements and outfits to let her know he was watching her at all times?

Was it the part where a man stole $100,000 from his employer but kept breaking a restraining order even while in jail because he “just wanted to apologize” to her? And then later gave a fellow inmate a detailed layout of her home to put a hit on her and then the inmate turned him in and the map of her home was accurate?

Or was it the part that the jails these men were housed in let them continue to make phone calls to their victims, while a female stalker was court ordered to not contact her mother because her crime was committed with her mother, and was following the terms of that court order.

Was it the part where the researcher in Episode 1 stated that data doesn’t back that these offenders will stop offending? That rehabilitation doesn’t necessarily work, which was kind of supported by the stalkers themselves who all had multiple victims (except the one woman who was stalking her husband’s ex).

But simultaneously, stalking tends to be an excellent harbinger of future violence against that victim - once you’re kicking in the front door of a persons property and leaving her dozens of voicemails a day, there’s a higher likelihood that the stalkers next step is actually breaking into the house and hurting or killing her.