First I wanted to thank you. Seeing your strength and positivity through what you're going through has helped me with my own struggles. My question is, do you think your partner will change and are you hoping they can?
I'm sorry for not answering sooner, but you are quite welcome. I've always had the belief that when something is broken you fix it. I had extremely high hope that my partner would change, but I've found that in waiting it has changed me. I believe that my partner has to want to change, that being said sometimes change is the struggle and it doesn't happen overnight. They are also gonna need help doing so. Waiting for the change though has forced me to focus more on me and my kids, and that focus is freeing! I'm currently still with my partner, but just shifted my focus on what I feel is more important. At this point I do and I dont want my partner to change, but I definitely know my partner will need help doing so.
