LifeOfAhStarr

This Kenneka Jenkins story is really pulling my heart’s strings. I hope her family finds justice, and RIH baby girl. I also want to address men: A lot of you are telling women what they should do when really you need to be addressing your “home boys”. 

The problem with a lot of men is the contradictory, fragile, already broken masculinity that we were handed. For example, we were taught: “Boys don’t play with Barbies yet we treat women like them.” You know what I mean, we disregard their emotions, aspiration, and in totality their being; then, we reduce them to sexual objects that can be easily made happy with materialistic objects, or, when trying to stroke our own egos, our penises. The problem with this is we have perpetuated a rape culture, and overall culture, that’s unsafe for women. 

Honestly, women should be able to roam Times Square naked, drunk as hell, and feel safe; However, they can’t even roam Times Square in a turtle naked tipsy without fear, paranoia, or anxiety being attached to the cat calls they’ll receive. We as men feel so safe, comfortable, and entitled to women we catcall or put their lives in danger, often times to prove our masculinity to our “boys”, that we don’t even take into account how we make women feel. Think about it: If a man catcalled you? How would you feel? You’d probably say: “I ain’t with that gay shit,” while thinking “what makes him think he can do that to me?” He’d probably lose your respect and you’d be ready to fight, even kill, to protect your “masculinity,” because you feel as though you have something to prove.