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re my olivia rodrigo posts i have seen a lot of ppl defend the existence of babydoll dresses bc women have always worn them….i would like to challenge ppl to consider that just bc an article of clothing or beauty practice has existed for a long time does not negate the misogyny of it all. again i do not necessarily think that there is no way to wear a babydoll dress ever i just do not think the way that she is personally wearing them works as anything other than being very tradfem core. but at the same time i always think it is important to think abt the context that feminine clothing exists within and the reason why women are wearing them. feminine fashion and beauty standards are inextricable from their misogynistic origins. to say that any article of clothing that is explicitly and obvs feminine does not have any ties at all to any patriarchal influence would be disingenuous no matter how long women have been wearing such clothes. if there is an item of clothing that a man would look out of place wearing bc it is “women’s clothes” then the odds are that there is some sort of misogynistic influence on those clothes. and i mean that in the fact that femininity in itself is a humiliation ritual for women. we are meant to wearing clothing and makeup to be appealing to men and femininity exists as a tool to oppress us. the beginning of hyperfemininity among women started when upper class women were made to wear clothing that heavily restricted their movement and to spend their time doing makeup so that they would not be able to both physically nor time wise leave the estate to seek an education. this was also a symbol of the upper class that the lower class were then pushed to emulate as a means of appearing desirable bc of the class implications. femininity in its current form (and in many of its historical forms) has always existed to oppress women. so when we look at an item of clothing that is meant for women and we say well women have worn this for a long time the issue w that statement that i would like to make very clear is that WOMEN have worn it for a long time. not men. not men and women. just women. why do men not wear babydoll dresses? the gendered aspect is not a justification in a vacuum. the question is why are babydoll dresses gendered for women? why are they not gendered for men? why are men not wearing dresses that barely go past their butt? why do men not have any form of clothing that very obvs mimics what is worn by baby boys? why is it that when olivia rodrigo wears it there are ppl willing to argue that it is a completely normal thing for a grown adult woman to wear on stage for her young audience whereas if a man wore that ppl would be uncomfortable and find it to be strange and inappropriate? the more that ppl refuse to engage in any feminist analysis or critique of femininity including in clothing styles for women the more that these issues will continue to fester and worsen. ppl seem to have a mindset that sexual liberation is the endpoint of feminism. this is smth that has been pushed by men. you can have your feminism as long as it ends in you being sexually available to me. but the endpoint in feminism is liberation from women from patriarchal norms and structures and practices for all women everywhere. and while sexual liberation may be part of it it does not come at the cost of reinforcing women’s dehumanization in the form of femininity. femininity as we know it must be eradicated for women’s liberation 🫶

i actually think the big problem w the way ppl talk abt porn online & esp on here is that ppl treat open & access to porn as if it is a human right and if you don’t have that then you are being denied some fundamental necessity that you should be entitled to. and that is why they do not care if children see porn bc in their eyes it is a small price to pay for access to their human right to watch porn. like i hate to break this to u all but this is not the case. u do not have a right to view porn for free wherever and whenever you want & there is no reason that you should either. setting aside the fact that porn inherently involves rape & that it is insane to feel entitled to access videos involving sexual abuse of women & girls w/o restriction not having free access to porn on the internet for free does not even prevent you from watching porn. i will first say it is interesting to me that ppl who claim that there is nothing wrong w porn & it says nothing abt you as an individual are so against having their id attached to the porn they watch. almost perhaps as if it is not smth they would be comfortable having associated w their name 🤔 and if all kink is fine forever w no consequences why would that be 🤔 but that being said you can go to a sex shop & purchase porn and own it forever if you want and it would be no different than going to a liquor store to buy alcohol in the privacy sense. no one is stopping you from purchasing porn in that context if you don’t want your id associated w the porn. why is it more important that you can access porn at your convenience and have it be anything you want to view than it is for children not to be exposed to porn? you can say all you want that this does not impact children but i actually grew up in a generation where young boys were watching porn and even then when it was much more to a lesser sense there were boys in middle school doing sexual things that made me very uncomfortable clearly motivated by watching porn. it is even worse now w young boys developing porn addictions and sexually harassing and abusing their female classmates and even their teachers. i mean plus porn is literally used as a tool for grooming children but apparently it is fine and there is no issues and there is no impact on children if they are watching porn?? but none of this matters to anyone who wants to advocate for anyone to watch porn ever at any time bc it didn’t harm them personally and they want to get off to watching women get raped. if you want to watch porn so badly go buy it then instead of insisting that allowing children to see porn is good and fine and even great and educational. you ppl are delusional and are quite honestly espousing pedophilic rhetoric which is not that surprising on this website these days which has over time become alarmingly more and more comfortable w ppl making posts that are clearly poorly disguised pedo propaganda. i saw ppl on a post abt how it’s actually ok for children to see porn being like i saw porn when i was 8 and i’m fine! well the fact that you are agreeing w this post indicates to me that you are not actually fine & cannot recognize that boundaries should exist for children regarding sexual content bc children are not sexual and you are putting them into a position to be groomed. there is a difference between education and literal sexual content. if i see one more post on this website abt how children having to see porn is just an unfortunate side effect of adults having the basic fundamental human right to see porn and sexual content everywhere via the un universal declaration of human rights of course and the problem is that children are invading the internet actually and these spaces should just be child free and parents should be doing more i am going to have to find the servers for this site and blow them to smithereens bc you ppl are getting WAY too comfortable w pedophilia under the guise of leftism. i need everyone to become 100000x more anti pedophilia on here asap. and that along w the sex offender advocacy too…..it needs to stop.

i’m watching this video that includes a part w a woman being uncomfortable abt the guy she is dating saying that he watches porn and everyone is basically tearing this woman apart and saying how normal it is to watch porn and that it’s wrong to say that you are pro sex workers but against ppl basically i guess being their customers and it always really floors me when i am reminded how much ppl love porn and the sex industry and will go to extreme lengths to be willfully ignorant abt the insane abuse and exploitation these women face and how they will label any woman who expresses discomfort w the industry as being puritanical prudes it is so exhausting. i’m not going to go into a whole thing abt why porn is bad for the millionth time but it goes to show how much the mindset that absolutely anything is fine as long as it is done in a sexual context had infiltrated ppl’s perspectives on the world. bc we all hate racism and homophobic and misogyny and domestic violence and sexualizing children etc until it is being done in a porno and it’s someone’s kink as long as you jerk off to these things it is ok actually. i am so sick of ppl refusing to see why other ppl and esp women do not like porn and acting as if someone watching porn is totally normal and we should all except and accept it. i actually think a man watching porn should be a giant red flag to women and that women should not date men who watch porn ever AND i think men who watch porn should be sentenced to manual labor for a thousand years. how abt that.