The Art of Being Yourself
Happy Valentineās Day!
The art of being yourself, thatās the ultimate lesson New York has taught me. A. Because everyone else literally does not care and B. because everyone else literally does not care. For some reason in this flurry of high activity, everyone else is chasing their dreams, hyper focused or honed in on their goals, problems or insecurities and they have no time or energy left over to be false, to put on niceties. Even worse, when you do it, they look at you like what the fuck is wrong with her?
Thatās the thing about interactions here. Being fake is the kiss of death because no one who really matters, from your neighbor to your boss will respect the fake shit. Donāt say how you feel? Thatās on you schmuck. You desesrve to get got. It seems cruel, but at the end of the day itās freeing. You can let go of the fake front and really relax into your whole being. Which is weird at first; youāre like, how do I feel? Am I angry? Youāve suppressed your feelings for so long, you donāt really know what the fuck going on anymore. But let yourself go, eventually all those feelings come back so when some idiot squeezes himself between the tiny space by the train door where you and your backpack were standing you can give him the ice stare and tell him you were standing there. The next time youāre doing the friendly benefits dance with a 6ā1 200 pound of sexy jabon, you can tell his ass straight up if youāre wearing the durag donāt even come cause Iām an intellectual bitch from the suburbs who looks down on people ordering moscato with their first course dis tew much. Itās too early in the relationship for you to be letting it all out like this. Best of all, you can say it and mean it, and let the whole thing go because thereās now something new to take up all your attention. Thatās the beauty of New York. You donāt have to fake it anymore. You can be yourself and being yourself lets you focus in on the next step which is perfecting your hustle, which is in a sense...faking it but thatās a whole nother blog post tbh.















