TRANNY HEAVEN

notice how you're always capable of imagining a sad backstory to explain why the man is so troubled and angry but never the woman

I'm pretty sure decenter men isn't about romance and is more about encouraging women to not center their lives on men's opinions, right? Like, I'm not crazy for thinking that?? And why is everything a lesbian comes up with to discuss our patriarchal society taken as an affront to everyone, guys. Hey.

That's exactly what it is. Decentering men is less about not dating them and more about for example getting mothers to stop feeding their sons and husbands first + MORE than they feed themselves and THEIR OWN DAUGHTERS. Decentering men is to encourage women not to prioritize a man's feelings, aspirations, hopes, dreams, and physical health over their own. Dating, work, friendships, how + why one exercises and adjusts their diet to their lifestyle, what they choose to major in, whether they even get an education in the first place, etc. Sometimes this has to do with dating, but not always. Mothers who will bend over backwards for their sons and leave their daughters to fend for themselves are male centered.

big life tips dont be neurodivergent dont be poor dont get in any sort of situation and dont let yourself need or crave

not getting good reports back on your progress with this guys

The best part of any fandom experience is getting so deep into your love and analysis that your ranting about The Characters is borderline incomprehensible unless you write a 10 page essay. And then you find another fan equally as obsessed on the same wavelength and you just go back and forth with those 10 page essays. Unbeatable. Hey I've got an hour to kill want to hear my rant about how the deliberate way The Character is always framed through other people's pov and never her own is a part of her battle with the metanarrative of the show to retain her privacy? Ok cool here's six screenshots to start and if you ignore the cw logo-

"dont feed the trolls" is an even more important rule in an age where that troll is likely to be a chatbot trained on bad politics crawling tags specifically to waste ur time. do not engage

worth emphasizing the "crawling tags specifically to waste [your] time" bit

The amount of slavery in Ancient Rome was legitimately terrifying tbh

Y’all know that I’m into ancient Roman history and I do a lot of research on it but even though I should be used to it by now sometimes I read an anecdote about how an individual slave was treated and I’m hit with the realization that like a third of the population was living like that and I just need to put my head in my hands for a second

When you study ancient history you’re reminded that slavery has never once been kind or justified. It just takes on different forms of evil in every time and place that it infects.

I love rebloging. It’s the adult equivalent of showing everyone the cool rock I just found.

I think the best most human thing in the world is strangers doing a silly thing together

The three pillars of humanity, in no particular order, are Joy, Absurdity, and Sharing

Having been to several talks on modern ai I can confirm

anyway now that guy is gone can we all just agree that "you're too priveleged to have ever been abused" is an insane thing to say. like hey what theory can i study to learn how to victim blame Wokely.

yes being marginalised in any way does increase your vulnerability to risk of being harmed without meaningful consequences for the perpetrator and that's grossly unfair + abuse is primarily about power and control but if you are a human being with a body there is no sufficient social condition you can achieve that makes you immune to being taken advantage of

idk i just think implying that if you're marginalised you should expect to be abused and that nobody else could possibly understand your struggle or support you in fighting back is maybe not as progressive as some of you seem to think it is

my number one advice for trans women both on this shitass platform and in real life is: you do not have to answer that question. people are so used to exploiting transfems' collective low self esteem that they will just expect you to answer questions that are best responded to with an openly disgusted stare. you do not have to answer these motherfuckers' questions. you don't owe anyone an explanation. "who do you think you are to ask me that" and "what makes you think that's an acceptable thing to say to me" are good, but most of the time you can just say nothing and look at them like they just offered you a spoon and a bowl of shit to eat. you'd be amazed how fast people start backtracking if you just say nothing and let their idiot question grow stale in the air

and needless to say you do not need to answer anons. yes this includes if they tell you everyone is saying something about you and can you explain. it is a trick. let them refresh your blog in vain

irl this doesn't work on people who have made up their minds to be openly hostile but it works on just about everyone else. most people have less-than-unshakable social confidence. practically everybody is secretly afraid of that moment where they realize they did something socially wrong. and no version of that moment is as jarring as when the flow of interaction just. ends. nobody is ready for the script to just stop. consequently, if you can project a passable lack of uncertainty during the brief, lurching silence that follows when you just don't respond to someone's weird question, in a way that is clearly deliberate, it only takes about 3-4 seconds at most before the other person will assume they fucked up bad even if they're not sure how. you just stare at them with perplexed disgust. they will backtrack and apologize. you still don't have to say anything. if you know them and you want to let them off with a warning, you can let them squirm for a second and then say "anyway," and change the subject like they were just being weird and you're doing them a favor. if you don't know them, or don't want to, just say say nothing, look at them like they're gross, and then ignore them

Why is this back on my dash in 2018

Thank god this is back on my dash in 2018

I am once again asking all punks and fellow goths to read The White Noise Supremacists before saying punk was “always” about kindness and leftism.

one of the best pieces of advice I've ever heard (for myself, at least) is that if you're in a terrible mood and NOTHING is helping, then start doing the chores/responsibilities/job stuff/etc that you've been putting off. Will it put you in an even worse mood temporarily? Probably, but you're already pissed off, so you might as well double up on it at that point 😭 there's no loss. It's not like finally getting around to cleaning the house and scheduling appointments is going to ruin the good day that you aren't currently having to begin with 💀 And then, when the bad mood passes, you'll have gotten shit done and you'll feel a lot better later, even if in the moment you're having The Worst Time Ever about it.

apply your temper to scrub-a-dub-dub. doing something with your hands to work the emotion out does actually help

So cathartic to hear a character properly and openly cry when they're the type to stay stoic and never show emotions that could make them look ""weak"" 😍😍😍