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(girl from prev ask here) so i went and spoke to my ex ab growing comfy around each other and why i dont want that bc its js attachment and we had a long talk and at the end of it we decided to take a 3month long break and at the end of summer vacation we decided to meet again and see how we feel ab getting back tghr, since we wont be attached anymore, and he said he'll wait for me and work on himself. but the things he did brought up new insecurities for me and if i had to continue dating him id constantly be stressing ab it since i lost my trust. hes kind and caring and obsessed w me and communicates and shows vulnerability, but hes also untruthful and petty ab things and gives in to his impulses which create misunderstandings and problems bw us. am i doing the right thing by letting him think he might have a chance when im unsure of it myself? i do still like him but knowing his bad traits now makes me feel as if i wont feel secure in a relationship w him
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im so glad you went and communicated w him abt how you felt, its often hard to do so, and im so proud of you for taking the first step in clearing things up.
as for your decision of taking a break, as long as it resonates w what you want, its completely fine! 3 months is a long enough time to relearn how to be by yourself, and as you said, you wont have lingering feelings for him anymore bcz you will have adapted to continuing your life w/o him. do be mindful of going back to him during this period though, when youre still attached and might crave the comfort that the relationship gave you.
its valid to feel as if he cant provide you a secure relationship anymore bcz of the things he did, and its good that you are aware of his good and bad traits. in my opinion, the characteristics you dislike abt him might not appear to affect your relationship at first, but they might manifest in ugly ways in the future and you might get hurt bcz of it. if hes fully aware of the consequences of what he does and is focusing on changing that, and if you do have concrete evidence of him having changed over the break, then it might be worth giving a shot again.
however, you should be honest w yourself abt the insecurities that can be resolved through reassurance and communication, and ones that might keep coming up in the relationship and no amount of reassurance would solve it. you know yourself best, so try making an internal decision based on this.
whatever you choose to go with, good luck to you, and lots of love and strength, youve got this!
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i brokeup with my ex 2 weeks ago bc of some things he did, which i confronted him about, and i made it clear to him that we won't be getting back together. but we still have group projects together, and while working on our presentation (we have one more team member) he constantly leans towards me and keeps looking at me and gives me all the attention, and we speak in a normal, friendly way with each other even though it's only about the presentation, and he does every single thing i ask him to and is available all the time and goes out of his way to work on the project (which he usually never does). we met up and spoke on calls a bunch of times for this, and we make small talk and it feels like we're slipping back into old patterns. i know that i should create a boundary but im scared of cutting him off completely, bc then i would lose any connection with him, and a part of me likes that he is putting in all this effort into the project bc he knows thats the only way he'll get to speak with me, but this isn't good for me. what do i do >_<
if you are sure about why you dont want to get back with him, then i think you should set a boundary where it is apparent to him as well as you that the only reason you two are talking is for the project, and doing anything else would be way out of line, such as try to make you happy by being extra attentive or make small talk
letting go of someone can be hard, but you need to remember that this is not a connection that will fulfill you in any way, it's only temporary satisfaction. you two are no longer in a relationship, so unless you want to continue being friends w him or stay on good terms, maintaining a connection is not healthy for either of you. it will create false hope and an illusion of comfort that the two of you are still connected to each other, but the truth is that you no longer have a connection like that.
if you still want him to be in your life platonically then go for it, but romantically, you ended things for a reason, and ill assume it was a reason that is important to you, so dont lose sight of that
as for creating a boundary, id suggest taking it up w him if you can, mentioning how you noticed the conversation reverting to old patterns, and explaining that you dont want that bw the two of you
im always here for you and you've got this, feel free to text or drop an ask if you need any more advice <3!
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i feel like im so replaceable as a person itβs so bad bc any slight shift/change in text or talk or reply time or reaction iβll overthink so bad & js get so anxious & wanna cry lmao
im so sorry you feel like this π₯Ή
i dont know you personally but take this from me, you are NOT replaceable, and you are important and necessary in your own way. if the people around you make you feel insecure or unworthy, then you are keeping the wrong company. in good company, you are going to truly feel valued and loved for being whatever way you are, period.
again, since i dont know you i cant be more specific, but what you're struggling with sounds like anxious attachment to me, where lack of reassurance and connection makes you feel on the edge.
there is no way to get out of this other than by being honest w yourself about why this is happening, and expressing how you feel and why you feel so to the person you're talking to, so that they can reassure you from time to time. also, a few things that help me when i overthink is to listen to music or take a quick walk, since both of these help in slowing down your thought process, as a result of which you can think clearer. if im in class or somewhere where i cant do either of these, i simply pause whenever i find myself overthinking, and try to bring back my focus to whats happening in the present.
it is a bit of a struggle to recognise and make the effort to heal yourself, but honestly, all of us are in on this, so dw, you've got it and im here for you (quite literally, j drop a message or an ask whenever you want to xx)
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so real hahaha (i don't have anyone to talk to)
౨ΰ§β§βΛ they'll message you after a post talking about how sad and ill you are too?? can they just be normal π
I will literally post about how I want to kill myself and they'll ask me to send a picture of my tits