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I have been on multiple dates where they assumed I was transmasc, and was ghosted when they realized I was transfem. I know it happens when I am inexplicably treated with dignity and respect on accident

I've talked to a lot of lesbians, and most assume (because I am butch) that I'm transmasc. Also because I have a deeper voice, a lot of people assume that I'm on testosterone. When they find out I am not, that's where pleasant conversation ends. Queer people are fine with a masculine woman, except when she's transfem.

Happened to me a few times earlier in my transition when I presented more non-binary. Stubble also grew out disgustingly swiftly and contributed to these kinds of misunderstandings. And yeah the amount of people who ghosted me after finding out I was a transfem was all but one of the people with the misconception (and that one still stopped seeing me as a viable romantic partner after realizing)

at some point after I started E, I started getting he/himmed in the same conspicuously-supportive way that I had been getting she/hered. took me a while to figure out that that people were thinking I was transmasc. I didn't understand why they were conspicuously supportive but, when I corrected them to she/her, they'd give me this politely strained smile.

happened to me at a bike mechanic when I was getting my wife's bike fixed. They seemed to intuit me as transmasc until when I had to give my name for their billing system - since we got a free repair and tuneup if something happened in the next few months, they needed to record a name. <Fem name> I offered. "Nah, you can use your real one." "Yes, <fem name.>" (bike mechanic gets moment of realization and starts treating me like I don't know what fucking pedals are, after I've spent the past hour talking shop about bike and electronics repair)

Was closeted in a queer dorm about three/four years on E. 5'10, Tits, Short hair, Dahmer glasses, the works. Everyone assumed I was a particularly lucky pre-T transmasc. I was moderately popular. When I finally came out everyone gave me the cold shoulder and started spreading rumors about me being a massive creep.

it probably seems like a small thing but the idea of even posting submissions in the same format, with the 💖 emoji, feels sickening after seeing TGVP copy that same format with the blue heart emoji. I don't mean to be dramatic but it does put a knot in my stomach seeing it. I don't want people to see a TVP post and think of it as the pink version of a TGVP post. transfem survivors' voices deserve to stand on our own. that's why I put the 💖 on a majority of posts and only add commentary if it feels necessary or important to. the heart succinctly expresses my love and allows the voice of the survivor to stand on its own. it's not the pink version of anything blue. it's just my love. I want to be able to return to TVP with love

Nothing yet since that update.

10/300 USD

it's like, definitely still mansplaining if the man is dominating the conversation unintentionally and he would totally stop if you asked him to, actually. like, the term exists to describe a phenomenon that arises from the implicit bias that women are expected to simply be less knowledgeable about things. it doesn't matter if he's doing it on purpose or not. he does it cause he expects women to not know things or to not have any input. maybe don't fucking expect women to stand up for themselves every single time they have to have a conversation with a man because that shit happens like daily for a lot of women

genuinely, sincerely, if you are a man you need to learn to shut up when you're talking to women

fascinated by jeff the killer tbh. everyone in that creepypasta has generic white usamerican names (jeff, keith, barbara, billy, etc.) except for jeff the killer's doe eyed little brother liu. why is he liu. is liu chinese? it's okay if he's chinese. is jeff also chinese? has jeff the killer been chinese this whole time? am I a bad person?

Some dialogue choices in Persona 4 give you some points towards your social stats. One of the earliest of these is insisting that the TV World is too dangerous for Chie (a girl who has taught herself kung-fu), which makes you slightly more Understanding.

The sexism inherent in "it just wouldn't make sense for a girl moving from the city to the countryside to drive the plot" is baked into every facet of Persona 4's writing.

This shadow world is just too dangerous for a girl who can perform a standing backflip, it has to be up to us: Two guys with a golf club and a pair of monkey wrenches.

I'd like to point out, by the way, that she uses her blog isuggestsexualassault to pose as a transfem and go around telling people on tumblr they should be raped. not remotely shocking behavior for the person running a blog exclusively for stories of transfems committing sexual assault

if a trans woman's rapist makes the easy and common move of trying to isolate her from her support network by accusing her of being the one who raped them, you have to not be a useful idiot for her abuser to use as a tool

you can't always rely on "believe survivors" as a buzzphrase, because it's an extremely common abuse tactic to try to obscure the truth of who is actually the survivor and who is the perpetrator. this is especially easy to do against marginalized groups that people are already primed to imagine as violent. you have to first collect enough information to know who is actually the survivor in order to actually believe the survivor and not their abuser

Next character that's gonna transition in canon is Luigi from Mario btw. and we're not stopping there