Unshackled.

An Insight To The Future

Emotions are part of being a human and knowing how to manage it is a skill that is far more important than having cognitive abilities alone. To understand emotional intelligence more, I will share my insights regarding this kind of intelligence in order to show my journey in understanding and mastering it. 

1.) For you, what is emotional intelligence? Why do you think that it is important for us to understand the intensity and the differentiation of our emotions? 

Emotional intelligence is our capacity to recognize, acknowledge, and be aware of our emotions. I think it is important to hone our emotional intelligence because it is important for us to know how we can control the intensity and differentiation of our emotions wherein it would help us perceive how and why should we aim to make the best version of ourselves. By understanding deeply the intensity and variations of our emotions, it would let us see how our actions affect ourselves and others, and also allow us to become better at resolving different conflicts in our lives. 

2.) Recall a particular situation where you have experienced some intense and strong emotions. How did you express your emotions? What triggered the emotions? How did you handle the emotions? 

Back then, whenever the plans that I have thought and planned out carefully do not go well, I get irritated, angry, and would blame myself for being incompetent. I felt hopeless and my motivation to complete the plan I had plummets, making me more gloomy and pessimistic. However, I still mysteriously carry on to complete the tasks I have because I cannot help it to not do something or watch myself crash. Fortunately, over the years, I became used to frequent setbacks and that made into someone better. I changed my perspective and mindset by learning to contain my intense feelings particularly anger, and knowing the right time to release them. I do this by just calming down and telling myself that there is still something that can be done to resolve problems that I think are immense and intimidating. In this way, I now view myself as a better person who can still improve and learn more ideas and mindsets that can further shape how I see myself and other people.  

3.) Based on the domains of emotional intelligence that you think you need to improve, list five ways on how you can develop your emotional intelligence.

I have a problem when it comes to handling relationships. The ways that I think would improve this domain are: finding and talking with friends that are wholesome and would influence me in a positive way, having a personal assessment by talking to myself, writing poems or short stories to better understand others, reading short stories or watching series/anime that tackle different types of relationships, and developing a mindset of being more considerate, kind, and caring for the people I deem important in my life.

May kasabihan na, Ang oras ay ‘di maipaliwanag, bumibilis kapag ‘di inaasahan, bumabagal kapag inaantay. Mabigat ang mga pinapasan nating problema, mas lalo na sa pag-aaral at trabaho; dagdag pa sa pasakit na ito ang matuling takbo ng oras na hindi natin mapipigilan at maibabalik. Makapangyarihan ang galaw nito at hindi natin maikakailang nakakadagdag ito sa stress na ating natatamo. Bilang isang binata, aking nauunawaan na ang stress ay minsan positibo at negatibo. Gayunpaman, para sa akin, maraming benepisyo ang hatid nito, ngunit nangangailangan ito ng isang natatanging kakayahan. Nakakasakal ang takbo ng orasan, subalit may isang epektibong paraan upang hindi mapagod at magbunga pa rin ang ating pagsisigasig--ang kasanayan sa pangangasiwa ng oras. 

Marami at mabibigat ang mga problemang aking kinakaharap tulad ng pag-aaral, kalusugan, at mga tungkulin sa paaralan at bahay. Mapaghamon ang aking mga ginagawa at nakakapagod na panatilihin ang pagbibigay ng mga kaildad na gawa at matalinong pagpapasya. Mahirap na balansehin ang pag-aalaga sa sarili at pag-aaral, at ako ay patuloy pa rin nagtataka na kinakaya ko pang magpuyat at kalimitang magising ng madaling araw. Dahil sa hirap na aking nararanasan, aaminin ko na kahit ako ay hindi ko minsan nasusunod ang aking talakdaan, dahil wala na akong lakas o oras na gawin ang ibang bagay. Subalit, hindi ko man mahigpit na masunod ang aking mga itinakdang gawain, ang mahalaga ay nakakatapos ako ng kahit isa hanggang tatlo sa isang araw.

I’m sure that the song All of Me by John Legend is a classic, romantic contemporary musical piece. We have often associated that song with loving someone with your whole self, and it is remarkable to see a person giving himself or herself--wholeheartedly. From this act, I think that is the purest form of love anyone can offer and receive. This realization led me to conclude that seeing the whole of yourself and others is the key to attaining a deeper understanding of what makes us humans.

For years, I have always heard the word holism. However, I have never fully understood the concept behind it. That word was just plain nonsense to me because how could you form a new identity or property by combining differently functioning parts? Fortunately, it was only recently when I have understood what it meant to be holistic. Holism is defined as something that is made by many parts but is completely disparate from its components. I learned that being holistic is like combining various screws and pistons to create a car engine--which functions differently from the former. A holistic human is similar to that of the example given since we--humans--are formed by various aspects, specifically: physiological, cognitive, psychological, social, and spiritual aspects. All of these intangible parts complete our human essence. These contain our strongest points, as well as our Achilles’ heel. We can be proud of these, but it is up to us, whether to accept or improve our current selves. 

This week was an interesting one because my teacher in perdev discussed about personality and the various psychological tests that determine that aspect. During the discussion, he shared about the online personality tests and my classmates who knew about that told him about their results. Their results was from a Myers-Briggs test administered by a website called 16Personalities.com and they told him what their personality is. Because of that, I got curious so I quickly went to the said website to try it out. The test lasted for about 3 minutes--I think--and after that, it told me that I am an INFJ-T, the turbulent advocate. I had no idea what it was so I dedicated my time reading their explanation and I found out that people like me wants constant improvement and are very imaginative. However, this type of personality is often deeply affected by failure, which I think applies to me as well.