Infrequent Miscellanea

i was out with my ex once when three *very* young queer kids, like thirteen years old, came up to us and asked us “are you guys, you know…” and did the limp wrist thing at us. one of them loudly exclaimed that it was so cool to meet other queer people in real life. this was in public in an unbelievably conservative area - we didn’t even feel safe holding hands because we were surrounded by Mormons. we got lucky that day, but I’m begging y’all to remember that the world doesn’t work like the internet. other queers are real fuckin people. don’t do this shit. OP is right; tell me you like my jacket, or my patches, or the rainbow spokes on my wheelchair, but don’t out either of us!

Younger queer people have grown up in a better world, but we’re in a time of backsliding right now. Do NOT out other queer people. Also, I’m not gonna tell you how to present yourselves in public………..but please, I am begging you to re-evaluate HOW safe you are in the current climate.

"Native Americans benefit from US Imperialism" like OK Henry Knox

like if you really wanna get into the weeds about it. Yes, SOME indigenous people BETRAY THEIR INTERESTS AS INDIGENOUS PEOPLE and EMBRACE US IMPERIALISM OUT OF SELF-INTEREST. This is true of any oppressed group, there will always be traitors who work against their class interests for the sake of short-term personal gain. This does NOT mean Native Americans AS A CLASS benefit from US Imperialism. In fact, if you don't have rocks for brains, it's very obvious that the opposite is true. We are one of the main groups DIRECTLY HARMED BY US Imperialism. The original targets, even.

it's something you don't realise until you're on the other side of the fence, but disabled people - especially disabled people who are unable to work or study - are pretty much segregated from the rest of society. even besides the way that a lot of services aimed at disabled people are in the deadest hours of the week, society is so inaccessible, and revolves so strongly around the working day that when you're not in that system it's like living in another world entirely

being neurodivergent and having a contentious relationship with your own discomfort will have you in your thirties having basic ass baby revelations like "oh, I feel bad when I'm going to do a thing that causes me pain. and I feel more calm when I'm not in pain or about to experience pain."

'A popular fanfic author stopped updating her fic because she said that the stress of being constantly falsely accused of using AI was a witch hunt and it was destroying her mental health to the extent that she needed to take a break from writing, leading to multiple online discussions defending her and debates about AI accusations and how You Can't Really Tell So Leave Her Alone, and then someone realised that there were Claude coding artefacts in her fics and that it was a super pervasive problem in that particular fandom, proven definitively by looking at the source coding of each work on AO3, and she denied it for a bit but then ultimately admitted that oopsie, she had been using genAI all along, and then she deleted all of her fics off AO3 and people got mad because they were being denied access to their favourite fics, even though they now knew definitively that they were genAI slop, and then it turned out that she'd actually stopped updating the fic on AO3 in the first place because she'd been shopping it around to agents and editors as an original work with the serial numbers filed off, and she'd been in conversations with a publisher which ultimately got dropped because she'd lied to them about her AI use' oh cool, so we're in Hell, then

Let me be clear: if you use AI to write fanfic, paticularly if you do so in the hopes of snapping up a tradpub deal off the basis of the popularity of your worthless slop, then you are an absolute grade A ding-dong, and may the vengeful spirits of our beloved Spirk Elders haunt you via the medium of perpetual papercuts forevermore.

I am unaware of who this is referring to and feel like a small fishing boat that just saw the dorsal fin of Leviathan off the starboard bow

That is so extremely valid, and truly I wish that I had not myself plunged into the depths and seen the truth of the Leviathan (a gigantic plastic fish effigy that's broken off a derelict Fish & Chip shop and washed into the Atlantic: a harbinger of doom in its own synthetic tongue)

So many lessons in fandom and life boil down to make your own works for love of the game, don't go looking for ways to be an asshole to people, don't lie when people ask you something that challenges you to be better, and don't fucking cheat.

the cat was sleeping cutely so i took a picture and went to show it to my mom and she burst out laughing and pulled out her phone and showed me a near identical one she'd taken a few minutes before

Autism actually can make people violent and aggressive, and I’m tired of “autism advocates” saying it can’t. Many autistic people, especially higher support needs people lose control of their bodies during meltdowns and times of high emotion. Some autistics have limited control of their bodies at all times. This body brain disconnect is a prevalent associative feature of autism. This is not to say that measures shouldn’t be taken to protect and teach the autistic person and others, but you can’t erase real, but stigmatized parts of a condition, and then dare to call yourself an advocate. Just because a symptom is unpleasant or unpalatable doesn’t mean it’s not a genuine part of the disorder. Stop ‘cleansing’ your autism advocacy.

and when people acknowledge it they treat it as an Evil Boy Thing which. no. autistic girls (and autistic people considered girls by these sort of people) do it all the time you just don’t acknowledge their existence.

sorry for being(remembers this is my blog and i don’t have to apologize for talking about anything) Extrememly Sexy. And Cool.

and for that matter why have i seen posts on here trying to rehabilitate the reputation of fucking 4chan. like i say this as a person of color tumblr is racist yes but it is not "incited multiple white supremacist mass shootings" levels of racist. it is not "started gamergate" levels of misogynist. what are we doing here. if you found community and support in 4chan good for you but everyone else has the right to feel uncomfortable that you found community among nazis and racists

Glad someone said it because what the actual fuck

The thing is you can’t have Man Traits be positive because obviously that’s antifeminist, everyone can be those traits. But you can have Man Traits be negative because that is a Critique Of Power. So if you’re a trans man you never get to be brave or bold or strong or tough in ways that tie into your masculine identity because that’s chauvinistic but if you’re ever (perceived as being) too assertive, too self-centered, inconsiderate, sloppy, too angry, or flawed well that’s your Man Traits coming out. You only get to be a real man when someone hates you DO YOU SEE WHY IM SO MAD

You know, even if we could objectively measure suffering and oppression, it would still be a dick move to tell someone that they can't talk about what they're going through because you have it worse.

youtube creators used to make videos and upload them just because they wanted to whenever they wanted to but now if a bunch of good creators upload at once it's almost definitely just because it's deadline day for their sponsorship and all of them do the same ad read too. get that bag but man it is a little bit depressing to see

I regularly hear youtube creators mention offhand something like "I don't have anything to say, but the algorithm penalises intros that aren't long enough... anyway..." at the start of their videos. Video length, style and pacing can't be based on their best creative judgement or they'll drown on the platform. It's gotta fit whatever the current algorithm formula is and be designed to minimise the chances of random demonetisation. I wish they could be free. I wish to hear their own minds and hearts once more. Alas.