DWAYOR/DNI/TW
DWAYOR, DNI, TW. You're getting them all. I can't help feeling that it's a bit ridiculous that I need this but people prove time and time again that it's necessary.
The purpose of a DWAYOR — deal with at your own risk — is to warn others about X. The purpose of my DWAYOR post is to warn the people who come onto my account that I’m NSFW and then some. I’ll be using something that happened as an example of why a DWAYOR was/is needed in the first place.
If you're here and considering following, then you only need to read the following bolded paragraphs, however, if you want my full opinion on this then you can read the rest. The TL of the events are at the bottom of post as well.
The bottom line is that if you’re uncomfortable with song lyrics (duck duck goose) and statements similar to, ‘double dutch with his balls while I’m jumpin’ on his dick’, ‘I’m ridin’ on his dick till his dick get a flat’, or ‘the feminine urge to deep throat’, being used as captions and tags under jdm and his character posts. In general anything sexual, I am kindly asking you to read no further and block me. You will not want to see any of my posts on your feed or any mention of me.
Take my NSFW warning seriously. Some of the people in question have stated that they, didn’t realize how ‘cringe’/weird my posts were, granted I’m obviously not posting porn nor is every single one of my posts NSFW, but NSFW means NSFW, point blank. So I’m telling you now so you don’t have to be surprised even though, if you saw NSFW you really shouldn’t be surprised. (Regarding my posts showing up in the tags, I’ve addressed that below.)
This is not the first time I've dealt with scenarios like this. I’ve ran 'thirsty'/'hardstan' accounts in the past, and have had to address literally the exact same comments over and over because everyone says the same thing every single time. I've even gotten a death threat once over it where someone sent me a video of a person being cut open and said they were going to find me and do that to me. Besides that, because I'm asked and told the same old about this, then I'm just going to respond the same way I always do.
The reason I need this DWAYOR is because some people had sent me asks, with obviously ill intentions, and there was a post made about me. So this is me addressing those asks and those posts. I will be elaborating on my responses to my asks in more detail.
Everything that was said will be addressed. First, OP and others said it made them uncomfortable. That's understandable, they have a right to feel that way. When you feel uncomfortable, either the source of discomfort has to change or you have to take things into your own hand. The source of discomfort is me, but unfortunately/fortunately, I'll still be posting as I normally do regardless. (A further explanation will be discussed shortly.) If I'm still posting as I do, then that means OP and others need to do something about it and the most simple way to handle the discomfort is to block me. Hint: This works best if my posts are seen in tags and you don’t want to see it!
For OP and others who apparently don't know how to block me or don't know what it does, well, it's the solution to your discomfort. If you block me, you won't be able to see my posts, see my account, see me in the re-blogs, and most important of all, you won't be able to see my captions or tags. It's a straightforward simple fix. You'd think that when someone sees a number of posts, even just one, from someone that makes them uncomfortable, they would block immediately and be done with it because they don't want to see that type of content anymore. But this is not what's happening, people don't block me but just seem to be waiting for me to post so they can bring it up time and time again. It makes absolutely no sense to me, they have complete control of their feed here on, but they’re not doing anything about it? That's like having an allergic reaction to a food, knowing full well you're allergic to it, complaining about it, and then continuing to eat it. Like some of y’all really can't help yourself. Nobody’s forcing you to interact and read this shit. There are several people who have me blocked right now and that’s okay! They didn’t like what they saw, they took action and did something about it, and they went on with their day. That’s how it should be.
N: I also wanted to add that one of the people who said they felt uncomfortable with my posts & were disgusted still hadn't blocked me even though they said they were appalled...? I could clearly still see their profile. It's like I said, having an allergic reaction but continuing to eat the food. Needless to say, I blocked them, problem solved. Additionally, some of these same persons had literally either liked or re-blogged my posts in the past. So please, make that make sense, because some of this all seems hypocritical to me.
There is something that I am weary about though, for my own sake anyways. As I mentioned, I've dealt with people like this from my past accounts on twt and ig. On both platforms one of the problems with blocking I had was that someone would harass you, block you, then a few days/weeks/months later come back to trigger themselves with your content again harass you and then block you again. People also would make new accounts and obsess over your content (trigger themselves) and start the harassment cycle all over again. There's really nothing you can do about people making new accounts to harass you. It's almost like people want a reason to harass someone they don't like or disagree with. Or maybe they secretly like feeling 'uncomfortable', so they continue to subject themselves to the stimuli to increase their motivation to harass.
Getting back to the issue. The biggest problems seems to be because it's about jdm. Am I going to go up to him in real life and tell him 'i love dick', then jump on his dick? Fuck no? If I did then I would be in jail, common sense. I’m also not in his fucking dms with this or making comments on his posts about. Online behavior doesn’t translate to real life. I thought it should be obvious but here I am saying it again.
Here's something else that I wonder about. Some of you all be reading some pretty explicit smut yet my captions are making people uncomfortable..?
N: I need to clarify this better because some people wanted to remind me the difference between reality and fiction, I'm an adult, I know. But that’s not my point. When I bring up fanfiction, I'm making a comparison in an associative way.
(Revisiting what I've said about online behavior not translating to real life, it's funny how some people were quick to jump on me about fanfiction not being real life, but somehow can't make the same inference about online behavior and real life.)
For example, in my personal opinion, if an actor plays a character and you’re reading SMUT, you’re still technically imagining that person doing explicit things because the actor plays that character. Negan is acted by jdm > Negan looks like jdm > imagining Negan is technically imagining jdm. I’m not saying this to crap on fanfiction, I love that shit, but I just wanted to demonstrate how the association between real life and fiction works for people.
Again, it was implied that making comments about his characters is fine because it’s fiction and that comments about jdm is off limits. Fanfiction is fiction, yes, but there are associations the reader has to make where you're imagining the ‘face claim’ of jdm doing explicit things. Ex. If you imagined sucking Negan’s dick, you technically imagined sucking jdms dick. And just to make my point 100% clear, I mean the physical body of jdm, not the personality of jdm or any other aspects of his real life. What I'm saying is that the reader is referencing jdm (his looks) when reading explicit fanfiction.
“I didn’t imagine JDM rawdogging me! I imaged Negan rawdogging me!”
Right but bestie, jdm is literally the physical embodiment of Negan.
Going back to address OP about 'gross and creepy', to them it might seem that way which is fine that's their opinion and several others as well. Yet in my own, I think it's funny as fuck, not to mention completely unrealistic. This isn't deep, I don't know why people are taking what I say so seriously. The nature of my blog is unserious by nature. Hence, my use of slang and emotes. This is me showing how unserious I am. As I discussed with an anon, it is my intention to be over the top which should indicate to readers that nothing I do or say should be taken seriously. Does half of it even make sense? No, and that’s the point. And here's another remind that most of the quotes are song lyrics.
I can't stress it enough but it astounds me how some people can complain about something but do literally nothing to help themselves. Of course you're entitled to feel that way! You have every right to feel how you do and I’m not invalidating your feelings or saying you’re wrong. But you're not going to stop me from doing what I'm doing, nor are you going to change my opinion on this. Conversely, clearly, me stating my opinions are not going to change OP and others minds either and that's okay. We can all agree to disagree. But what does OP and company really want me to do or say when they make a public post about me, are in my asks, anonymously at that, interact with me about my posts that are making them uncomfortable all while they have complete control over the situation. Then there's the fact that they’re still in the comments about it, like hello? Do I need to block you or are you going to block-unblock-block-unblock? I’ve mentioned it and asked why they have to tell me how they feel and what their opinion is over and over again, but I still haven’t gotten an answer.
N: OP stated that they ‘wanted to say something’. Clearly they find me problematic, they don’t agree with what I think, what I do, this account, anything really, so why would they want to say more? They keep telling me how weirded out they were. Again, what am I supposed to say? We will never agree with each other, there’s literally nothing else to say that we don’t already know.
I will continue to make posts and captions like this. If anyone feels even slightly uncomfortable with this account, I am asking you to block me. At the end of the day, I am nobody, jdm has a life and he isn't going to care about what someone on the internet does as long as it's not bleeding into his personal life. He has even expressed this mindset when he talks about haters. However, if he did happen to see anything I've said, he's going to rationalize that it's the internet and people are weirdos and go on with his day. End of story.
I’m sure I’ll have more to add, but for now that’s that. Everything beyond this point is other information about miscellaneous as well as the recipes I have about what had happened with OP which is at the very bottom. The asks in question can also be found in my #ask.
Some other thoughts…
Addressing the blue background and white shirt jdm posts. I use that picture with any tag that says ‘no context comments’. Is it about jdm? Honestly, it doesn’t even have to be about him, I just think using such a mundane picture of him with a bizarre ass caption is funny. But, that’s just me.
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Detailed information about what happened with OP
N: OP says, which has since been deleted, that they felt the need to comment on this post because of the shit I responded back with (unfortunately I don’t have that last ss.) They had also previously stated that they didn’t mean to ‘start shit’ with me. Hello? I’m literally responding to the harassment you started because you literally made a public post about me, mind you even dropped my @, and then caused other people to flood my asks? Like did you not expect me to address it and lay down like a fucking doormat? Completely fucking wild that OP expected me to say nothing. Hope OP realizes that if it weren't for the asks, then I wouldn't even have known that the post was made, and probably wouldn't have even made this post. If you call someone out, you'd best expect that person to respond to you.
N: Sorry! I wanted to make a correction because I made a mistake. OP did not delete the comments, I was unaware but learned that blocking someone makes the comments under that post by anyone blocked, vice-versa, are 'invisible' to say to everyone else as well. I also learned that I'm able to see it through desktop html view. (11/7)
N: It really begs the question why they didn’t keep me blocked. What are they going unblock and block whenever it’s convenient? OP literally admitted that they unblocked me to read the response to my asks and then to comment on my post.
N: OP says that they didn’t initiate any of the asks either... In a nutshell, OP ‘didn’t mean to start shit’ and none of the asks were theirs, therefore they don’t have to acknowledge that there was harassment going on. Real mature.
N: Going off of that, another thing that just doesn’t make sense is that OP says that they didn’t do any of the asks. However, they also said that they wanted to see my response to the asks. Is that not contradictory? Or is OP admitting that the asks were orchestrated by them and their friends like some kind of ‘trick question’? If so, then damn, they were playing dirty.
N: There was another post by OP which was, I might be able to assume, about me. I can't find it now, but it basically said that 14/15 year olds were crazy with what they were saying. Nothing wrong with this but OP is the only one who brought up my age in both of these posts (1)(2). (Again, I cannot find the first post which mentions age, deleted likely.) Which brings us back to the first anon ask I got which was about my age. Correlation?
(I suppose I don't really need to censor the @ since the original post was public in the Negan tags, as well as the comments being public too.)
N: I was accused of supposedly not acting like an adult but OP keeps obsessing about what I’m doing and carrying this on and on like a child who doesn’t get what they want in the store. N: I also wanted to comment on the fact that OP says that many people agreed with them about the 'gross and creepy' opinion. I don't really know what to say, but no shit? That's the world, people are going to agree and disagree with you all the time. You're not going to change someones mind simply by telling them your opinion repeatedly. I could have said, 'people agree with me too,' but that somehow doesn't seem like a very good argument here.
TIMELINE — a post was made about me -> I get several ‘asks’ because of said post -> I respond to the ‘asks’ -> I respond to the post -> more ‘asks’ -> OP unblocks me to leave more comments under this post -> OP comments and blocks again -> I turn off anonymous asks -> OP makes another post about my comments on the situation (now deleted.)
(11/7) I’ve corrected myself in regards to OP deleting their comments above.
(11/7) I’m apparently being unreasonable and ‘making a big deal’ for responding thoroughly to the harassment (asks) I've gotten and making a post to address it. I suppose harassment isn’t a big issue when it comes to others, especially those you don’t like, it’s only an issue when it happens to oneself. The gaslighting from OP is wild.
Final thoughts? Originally I didn’t really have problem with OP, but thinking about it more it pissed me the fuck off. Like they dropped my username but they didn’t even have the balls to @ me directly in the post which again, was public. Instead uses a /. They also didn’t have the balls to keep me unblocked to see the post but they sure as hell could get all up in my comments about what I was saying. If that isn’t some cowardly snake behavior then I don’t know what is.
My first ask came back around big time. Though we definitely weren’t friends.
















