VDP: Funding

VDP: Recruiting Best Practices

Infatuation: This is an intense emotional or sexual attraction to someone that can give the illusion of love. However, infatuation is often based on idealized perceptions rather than a deep emotional connection.

Codependency: Codependent relationships involve one person excessively relying on another for emotional or physical needs. This dependency can mimic love, but it is rooted in the need for validation, control, or a sense of purpose.

Unrequited love: This refers to a situation where one person has romantic feelings for another, but those feelings are not reciprocated. It may involve one-sided affection, longing, or an obsession with someone who does not feel the same way.

Limerence: Limerence is an intense and obsessive form of attraction characterized by intrusive thoughts, longing for reciprocation, and an idealized image of the other person. It can feel like love, but it often lacks a genuine emotional connection.

Conditional love: In relationships based on conditional love, affection and care are only given when certain conditions or expectations are met. This type of relationship lacks unconditional acceptance and can be manipulative or controlling.

Trauma bond: A trauma bond forms when two individuals share intense emotional experiences, often negative or abusive. Despite the harmful dynamics, there may be a strong attachment due to the shared trauma, leading to a mistaken perception of love.

Transactional relationships: These relationships are based on mutual benefit or convenience rather than genuine emotional connection. Partners may stay together for financial security, social status, or other practical reasons, rather than genuine love and affection.

Manipulative relationships: Manipulative relationships involve one person exerting control and power over the other through emotional manipulation, coercion, or gaslighting. The manipulator may feign love and affection to gain control or exploit their partner's vulnerabilities.

Fantasy relationships: In fantasy relationships, one or both partners create an idealized version of the other person, often based on unrealistic expectations or fantasies. The relationship may lack a true emotional connection, as it is based on the person's fantasy rather than the reality of who their partner is.

One-sided relationships: These relationships are characterized by an imbalance of effort, care, or emotional investment. One person may consistently give more while the other takes without reciprocation. It can create an illusion of love, but it lacks equality and mutual respect.

For the men that think courting a woman and taking her out is just “free meal” and you don’t owe her anything: let me explain something as clear as possible to you:

All the money you spent on her, she spent on herself before you took her out FOR YOU. Especially if she’s a bad bitch.

Nails, hair, outfit, shoes, lotions, perfumes and body sprays, a wax, lashes, makeup. PLUS gas if she gotta meet you, probably money for a babysitter or family if she has kids, time money and energy she put in to look and BE a bad bitch for herself and YOU.

It’s quality over quantity. It ain’t just a “free meal”. As a man why are you even thinking that way? Do you not appreciate the work of art you are trying to bag? Do you not see the time and effort, the compliments, the beauty, the type of woman she is and if you do, why do you expect for her to have to do ALLLLL of that (being that you’re supposed to be courting and chasing anyways) and then have to spend even more money splitting a bill or even paying for a tip. The fact that she’s even allowing herself to go out with you and give YOU a chance should feel like the biggest blessing not just something to do. And if that’s how you feel, don’t try to pursue a woman that isn’t your dream girl.

If a woman knew she would have to do that, I promise you she’d come in sweat pants and a bun because why even care about all the effort in trying to be as presentable and beautiful for you if you’re just going to treat the situation like you’re meeting up with a homeboy?

Don’t ever think you wining and dining a woman doesn’t come with a price and it’s tasteless to even ask a WOMAN to split anything with you.

As women, we do a lot for someone we like and who are pursing us. Don’t ever in your right mind assume we will be okay splitting a thing with a man who doesn’t know our worth.