POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS

The thing about life is, there are so many lessons to learn, whether personal, professional or about how to cope in the University called “LIFE”. The challenge we face during these times is more geared towards the fact that they tend to come all at once, that they tend to overwhelm you when you’re feeling low and that in a time of crisis you find yourself isolated instead of surrounded by the people you’ve built this life with. 

The reality of it all is that you are alone, in a way that you will make the final decision, you will have to answer the questions being thrown at you, and you are the only one who can ‘sign your life away’.

So, how do we deal with these kinds of situations, how do we gear ourselves for the unexpected? Quite simply, know who you are, what your limits are and what your capabilities are because in a time of crisis you alone will know what calms you down, what gives you peace of mind and when you need to ask for advice or assistance.

I believe that ‘every dog has its’ and even though you might feel that you’re being treated unfairly and that there is just no way out of the struggle, know this, never lose hope and belief in your Faith, a verse that has always come to light: “I will be your God throughout your lifetime - until your hair is white with age, I made you and I will care for you. I will sustain you and rescue you” 

Isaiah 46:4

Nothing and no one is greater than your creator, belief in His existence and that which he has put before you is only to teach you new things in life, give you more experience in dealing with various situations and to help you grow through what you go through. 

My personal suggestions for staying positive: 

- Healthy eating plan (we all have binging moments, during a time of crisis it’s more important to maintain a healthy eating habit)

- Exercise (15-minute walk, oxygen, and blood circulation)

- Meditation (becoming still and one with your thoughts might seem ‘silly’ but how else do you get to truly listen to your mind body and soul amongst all the chaos?)

- Social gatherings (continue to do the things you love and don’t back down because someone is trying to put you down)

Nothing comes easy, it takes practice and time and usually both you have the ability to do or provide yourself.

LOOB DOOB.. (AKA Lub Dub)

The sound Lub dub, is the distinction between a healthy and a happy heart, one which I've gotten to enjoy so much over the last couple of days. Waking up next to you, feeling the adrenaline in the air when excitement mounts itself in our presence and the contrast of a calming subtle and relaxed Lub dub – heart, mind and soul at ease and refreshed. 

This adventure is one for the treasuring, it's one that speaks of two hearts becoming one. It's one of expressive delight and endless breathtaking moments. 

Continuous wows and oh my goodness of just how much in awe I am, not only by the beauty and all its contrasts of the city, but your ever willingness to create a complete adventure. Look at us making memories, enjoying a honeymoon longer than we had imagined, no matter the difference or the distance we came together to make endless memories, to kiss each other goodnight. To wake up excited and enjoying each other.

Where and how do you start a story that doesn't necessarily have one particular beginning? Well as this is a a story I had imagined scripting in a reality I wish I was living, I’d hope this would be a story where two were separated and then became one. 

Lub dub, lub dub, lub dub….

And we're in for the landing, lights, camera action moment. Ready, steady, Go! All I wanted to do was run into your arms and jump all over you, be endlessly consumed by you, to take the feeling of missing you away, and to enjoy the feeling of being comforted in your arms. I dreamt of days with you, I dreamt of how it would be when I saw you. And upon losing or missing the very clear instructions set out for me, we made eye contact for that split second and the overwhelming feeling of knowing I was in another country disappeared and the thrilling feeling of knowing I was in ANOTHER COUNTRY WITH YOU, took over, my face curled into the roundest curve on my body, my eyes made the straightest line on my body, my hands became the wettest part of my body and my muscles turned into liquid.

Slow approaching the man I’d dedicated my whole life to, slow approaching the man I missed, slow approach who I believed is my soul mate ignited so many emotions in my body and only one was displayed, absolute and pure joy. 

I loved how you took charge, led me through puddles and crowded spaces to only consume me in a safe and dry place. To hold me, to kiss me and to let me know that all is well and my heart is happy. 

LUB DUB, LUB DUB, LUB DUB; excited and overwhelmed my heart kept going and my body draw itself towards itself and I held onto the emotion, and the moments as if I was a child walking for the first time. I’d do it over and over again to experience a fraction of what I got when I looked into your eyes, when I held your hand, and when I was held by you. 

I don’t have to search to find the meaning of love, I don’t have to search for something to fight for, I don’t have to search for adventure, because everything I’ve done and everything I’ve experienced with you has come effortlessly to me, has built me up without noticing it, taking its natural course. My heart knew it was in the right place, at the right time. 

Your personality – excites me, your mind challenges me and your heart warms mine – there is absolutely no love like your love. Driving to our first destination and hearing the little bits of what you’ve experienced without me, made me miss you even more but appreciate that I was right next to you to experience the next phase of your journey in your ‘home town’. 

No matter where I was you were there too, no matter what I was doing you were doing it with me too – I felt your breathe on my cheeks, your skin on my skin, your lips on my lips, and your heart in my hand. The first night I heard you, I felt you and knew, I saw you in a light I’ve possibly not seen you before. You have come to show me new life, new love, new experience – whether near or far from each other I believe that when our hearts are as one, beats as one, we open a door to all possibility, to endless life.

Acting like kids running and rolling on the bed, making videos of the rain, and drinking tequila for breakfast, tick tock and it’s 12 o’clock. Lunch! oh heavens where has time flown by, I wanted to saver every moment, for you, leave me breathless at times in awe of the experiences we’ve had, that rejuvenate my existence. 

Driving through the city hearing all the stories of what use to be, who use to rule, what the first invention was and who invented, brought astronomical joy to my life. My heart warms at the sound of your excited voice, and the stories, at the memories you’ve relived on our adventure. It’s quite a beautiful site to see you in your element, to see you grounded, to hear you hopeful and so proud. Damaged goods to one, could be new life, new experience and new treasures to another. You’ve given me a treasury of experiences. 

Not only in words are these proof, through images we recollect and imagination we’ve made reality. I love your city for what it’s been through and for what it’s taught you and the person you’ve become through all that. The pain that turned into happiness, the torture that turned into distant memories, the hope that turned into victory and the sorrows that turned into love, respect and kindness. 

The life story of your country is closely knit to your life story – yes sure because you’ve lived there your entire life some would say, but to me as they say you are the company you keep – you’ve made your country and all its history your life, you’ve grasped it and adapted and for all that you’ve endured, I can stand by you forever and appreciate the man that you are today, you take my breathe away, you’re a hero in your own right and you’re a testimony for life itself. People you meet latch onto you for your spirit, for your vision, for your understanding and your hope that the future will be better than the past or the present. You look forward no matter how high the obstacle, you find a way, no matter the circumstances they never hold you back. You’re an adventure of your own and my heart latches onto you like an electrical jolt refreshing its existence

Walking for miles trying to find the right places to capture on the way, holding me close so I don’t get frost bite or too wet, and laughing with me knowing that no ‘error’ in itself needs to be taken that seriously. You’re a magic show all on your own and my heart beats in wonder for you… Lub Dub as she smiles, with fresh oxygen of endless laughs, with the warmth of your touch and the she smiles even more with the smile on your face. 

It’s not material riches that make life worthwhile, its experience and being cultured that is the only thing that makes you richer in life and you’ve made me the wealthiest women in the few days that I got to enrich myself in your life experiences. No matter how long it took us to get here, now that we are, this is an adventure we sure won’t make boring, won’t make challenging or let take its own course – our input makes it everything it is, a love story that truly excites.

My favorite moments were when, you randomly came behind me and held me, when you randomly pulled me closer and kissed me and when your life stories were so real I felt a part of it.

And then she woke up with tears in her eyes, imagining that this life could possibly exist if she didn’t shut herself out from the experiences that stare her in the face everyday, that give her the opportunities to dream the dreams she does. 

The possibilities of an enriched life, is to see that which is in front of you as something not far out of reach but attainable if you put your heart , mind and soul to it. 

Like the wind beneath my feet, you’ve swept me away, like the sun on my skin: soft and gentle you’ve embraced me wholeheartedly, like the calmness of the ocean you’ve nurtured me, like the storm in winter you’ve conquered my heart and soul and like the earth, grounded and oozing safety and security - just like home; you’ve made me gravitate towards you.

Like all the forces of nature, you’ve taken me on a whirlwind of life’s splendor. As gentle as a breeze can be, you’ve made contact with my soul and you’ve kept it afloat, you’ve swept me off my feet and you’ve moved me. In directions I might fight now and again, in ways I might not agree with right then and there but the end destination is always exactly where I want to be – close to you, touched by you and endlessly moved by your spirit. You’re a breath of fresh air. I often drift into, daydreaming of days where I am just next to you staring into your eyes and feeling your soft breath fall on my lips, on my cheeks, or my nose. Its subtleness and warmth breath life, hope, and pleasure into my life. Being as close as possible to you, to feel your breath gives me goosebumps.

In all its beauty and with all its pleasure and benefits, like kisses of the sun on my skin you’ve enriched every inch of me, you’ve molded every inch of me, enlightened every inch of me and you’ve revitalized my soul more than I’ve ever experienced in my life. The sun with all its many benefits has flaws too, too close and you’ll burn too much exposure and you’ll wrinkle or age faster than you’d imagined, and getting too little sun can also be very risky. So how do you find the perfect balance so that you get all that you need? Well, you make your own damn rules and you live your life to the fullest and hope for the best. You can’t always jump into it thinking you’ll get exactly from it what you need or want. You embrace it and hope the rays does not sting when being too close is all you want to be.

Like water flowing down a stream, consistent and uninterrupted you’ve never failed me, you’ve never disappointed me and you’ve been truthful to treating me like the princess. Never expected and never sitting back not wanting to give my prince all he deserves – gratitude, appreciation, and respect for the bold, and fierce man he is. You are all for me, and all I feel is my heart falling, and crashing into your hands, like the breaking of the waves on the ocean floor, like a hurricane coming to rest, like a thunderstorm coming to pass: I’m falling for you.

There are days where the earth seems to be crumbling around me, where the gravitation pull is tearing me apart and when no matter where you go it just never feels like home. Like a magnetic force to which I constantly draw myself towards, you calm me down when everything around me is making me spin, when everything around me is unsettling and when everything around me gives me no sense of belonging. I’m standing with an army, ready for any battle I may face, at peace knowing that you’re there to either protect me, calm me down when things are tough or to just embrace me knowing how challenging and overwhelming the little things can be. You’re my ZEN, I find great inspiration in how you control all forces around you – identify the problem, solve it and move on.

Getting into experiencing an actual date night, a mouthwatering dinner and deep and truthful conversation will be one of many that I will look forward to. The are some things I just don’t have justification for or reason for how and why they happen, but the fact that they do happen and that my heart doesn’t stop them from happening or my mind doesn’t block me from expressing what they do is magical.

Unconditionally I will be in your corner, I will show you what loving you means to me and how endlessly grateful I am to be sharing this experience with you.

By definition it means to give, to feel... in return, by action does it mean what you do for me, I’ll do for you. Does it mean that you are accepting of all that comes your way? Does it mean that tit-for-tat should be acceptable? 

In Mark 12:31: it says “love your neighbor as you love yourself.” And again 

Leviticus 19:18 'You shall not take vengeance, nor bear any grudge against the sons of your people, but you shall love your neighbor as yourself; I am the LORD,” and definitely plenty more times, the act of kindness is but the most important law of humanity. 

If we are governed by rules, legislation and authority, why don’t we follow the simple law of humanity. The cure for depression is to find happiness and balance, not medication that basically silences your emotion. The cure for sadness is laughter, share in experiences with those around you, instead of judging peoples paths, judge your ability to help them find peace, happiness, and joy. 

“Smile and the whole world smiles with you”, have you ever genuinely smiled at something and have them not smile back at you. People are in need of enlightenment whether they are accepting of it or not at first, the realization that their fight is not with the world but themselves will come sooner or later when surrounded by positivity. 

Your efforts in giving and sharing with others makes them want to reciprocate the same, not by force but by choice. If people can see the good and feel the good, it will make them want to be good as well. 

Humanity is its own destruction, by means of feeding negativity and embracing wrong doing, embracing “you do first and I will follow”. We need people to lead the way to enlightenment, positivity and purity. 

Whether the efforts be greater from one side, it does not matter because when the next party realizes the flaws and fault in rejection and acceptance of positivity they too would want to give, to feel and to return in grace and peace what you have so openly given them 

There comes a time in one’s life when one has to put one’s foot down and say: “To here and no further.” What do we classify/ define as investment? All the money in the world could never make up the moments and memories that would last a lifetime. All your life savings could disappear in a heart beat, all that you break your back for, every single day in a job you either love or hate, could be gone tomorrow. So what is an investment? 

Investing in ones self, does not mean that one is  selfish, or self-centered or self-absorbed, it merely means that ones self growth, discipline, and understanding for living a life well deserved, that can be passed on to all those one encounters in one’s journey.

Warren Buffet put it simply: “Investing in yourself is the best thing you can do. Anything that improves your own talents, nobody can tax it or take it away from you. They can run up huge deficits and the dollar can become worth far less. You can have all kinds of things happen. But if you’ve got talent yourself, and you’ve maximized your talent, you’ve got a tremendous asset that can return ten-fold.”

To be tormented for putting ones self first, is like stepping on natures beauty and destroying it because you weren’t the center of its immense beauty and growth. A tragedy that exists in ones life until one realizes, its absolutely that time... TIME TO LIVE.

The Cinematic Orchestra: To Build a home 

[Verse 1]

There is a house built out of stone Wooden floors, walls and window sills... Tables and chairs worn by all of the dust... This is a place where I don't feel at home... This is a place where I don't feel alone... [Chorus] Cause, I built a home For you, For me Until it disappeared From me, From you And now, it's time to leave and turn to dust... [Verse 2] Out in the garden where we planted the seeds There is a tree as old as me And branches were sewn by the color of green Ground had arose and passed it's knees By the cracks of the skin I climbed to the top I climbed the tree to see the world When the gusts came around to blow me down I held on as tightly as you held onto me. LIFE IS FOR LIVING...

                                    LET IT GO.

This too shall pass...

The toughest part about life is when you go through the hardest experiences of your life knowing you’ve done wrong, knowing there is no turning back but facing what’s to come. 

Yes doll face the music, this is what YOU did, this is what YOU put yourself through and the hardest part is, you dragged everyone else in it too. Sick and twisted you say - demonic and tempted is what I say. 

You ruin everything you touch. You want honesty, you want a clean slate, then start. Whatever happens after that it doesn’t matter because you’ve set yourself free from all you’ve been hiding all you’ve been messing about with and taking advantage of. it’s just not worth it to be second guessing yourself. 

If you want x work at x and forget the rest. 

What’s the hardest part? Giving up what you think you love or not knowing what you love at all. Or what true emotions are because you’ve been lying to yourself all your life. 

If that’s the case how do you change that? Spiritual or not I think everyone has some belief in a higher power and I believe God wants to give you that answer if you let him and if you listen. 

Nothing in life is unattainable, no-one rules your life but you and nothing that is yet to come can be predicted. So stop living in the future and make the now matter and count. 

We cannot change the course of life, we cannot predict the next 5 seconds or 5 hours, we can only ensure what we do now to affect what happens next, we are in full control over and are well aware of what we are doing. 

This too shall pass...

So where does one begin with such a bold statement? What are we trying to say?

Chronological Age: 27+ 

Biological Age: 10  (http://www.biological-age.com/)

Age at heart: 8-16

So Age is most definitely nothing but a number if we can define it in different ways. Nothing but a theory. 

It’s more about what you put your body through and how you live your daily life. One statement I for one tend to live by every day. You’re only as old as you feel, and honestly (yes I’m only 27 BUT) I feel like a spring chicken. As mentioned 8-16 is my going age in the way I treat most things in life - nothing too serious everything with a joyous solution.

The world is a strange place, filled with judgement and bias, and quite frankly people hating on other people. BUT WHY? I know, I know... Because they want what you have - zest for life and a free spirit. People might look at you and pass judgement, but the same people will also look at you and say “I want what he’s on, or what she has”

A very good fable about development of character and the discipline in life: The Monk who sold his Ferrari, teaches one how to cut back and let go of the things that bring us stress and ultimately unhappiness. One might seem supreme and successful because one is winning court cases and doing things high profilers do, but when the music stops and the lights go on, one finds oneself ALONE.

What does that tell you about your life? Either you’re too busy to make real friends and have them stay around long enough to endure your highs and lows or you take everything way too seriously. 

Laughter is an act of childlike behavior, manifestation of amusement and joy. Why grow up when being childlike and happy makes you age gracefully, makes you approachable, makes your beauty radiate through your smile and makes you forget all your worries in the world. Essentially that’s exactly what they are... Worries brought on by the world. 

NEVER GROW UP, because being an adult is a tragedy no human should face. If you can’t laugh at your own jokes, take time out to be a little crazy or laugh at yourself when you fall - You’re taking life way too seriously.

“You’re never too old to set a new goal or dream a new dream” CS.LEWIS

“To a young heart..

         EVERYTHING is fun.”     Charles Dickens

For the last 6 months I’ve been working on self inflicted happiness, joy and fulfillment. I’ve had bits and pieces be given to me in many shapes and forms and it has all added to my journey to seek my own kind of beautiful interpretation of happiness. 

Experiencing true love can only come from within, something I’ve only understood in a space of solidarity with myself. Liberating myself from the desire and need to feed off others. 

Life: what does that mean, do we follow what society has stereotypically predetermined this “LIFE” to be, do we allow ourselves to be inspired by love and guided by wisdom, to create this beautiful thing called “LIFE”. We have one earthly life to live, and what we do with that life will either determine whether people remember what we’ve done for them, what we’ve done on the earth or how we’ve made them feel. Emotional connection is a lifelong experience, a memory you treasure. What I found is that - if you love life, life will love you back.

My kind of beautiful involves, intelligence, love of life, endless laughter, persistence to grow and learn from others, making other people smile by initiating a smile and growing in my Faith.

There is no such thing as an ending, only a new beginning, life is a reality to experience, make your experiences beautiful.

The world is a complicated and challenging place to exist in, but we have choices, we have the ability to switch and say no. I’d say NO to anyone ruling my life because even God gives us guidance, He does not dictate, but gives us Freedom of choice. 

It’s not that difficult to live a pure and stress-free life. You might say:“OH PLEASE! Everything you do is stressful.” Very true it’s stressful breathing because the air is so polluted, it’s stressful trying to be happy when you’re surrounded by negativity, its stressful because you have to do tough things to get by every day i.e. WORK, it’s stressful to see a bright future when it’s not in front of you when it’s not tangible so how do you have hope, faith and inner peace? 

Well, through prayer. God has the ability to work in miraculous ways and through people we interact with every day. I’m not here to be quoting from the Bible, but I am believing and choosing to be a women of FAITH. 

Ones life is ones own and no-one has the responsibility or the privilege of dictating how one should go about what one does or how one engages and interact with people, right? “Absolutely my child” - 365 times in the Bible it says DO NOT BE AFRAID, motivation for every day of the year. 

I live fearlessly knowing I am guided, blessed and enriched through the choices I make, led by the grace, unconditional love and mercy God has given me - that which NO man can take away. 

It’s tough, it’s ruthless, it’s in your face but the road less travelled will not lead you to harm yourself. There will be bumps and you may encounter some bruising but at the end of it all you’ll be stronger, wiser and ready to venture down another road less travelled and tell a story that would help others in their ventures and journey of life.

“Sometimes the right path is not the easiest. “

“i’m not saying it’s going to be easy, but it will be worth it.”

As my morning started on a very good note I was visited with a memory of pure bliss and delight when I stepped into the lift at my apartment. The elderly lady that met me as the door opened of the lift, smelt like the pure, rose scent my Granny use to use and suddenly I had flash backs. Flash Backs of all the amazing moments I use to share with my Granny; chauffeuring her around the mother city when she visited, taking her shopping, sharing jokes and travel ideas with her. I was quite surprised and really thankful at the same time that I had such an incredible relationship with my Granny. 

She always gave me the best kind of advice: “be happy no matter what.”; “follow your dreams”; “yes I agree, being an air-hostess for a year after school will be great for you” the list goes on and on.

Granny I value your presence in my life and miss you every day. 

You are a memory I treasure every single day. 

1 Corinthians 38:4-8

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SELpksNTr6w

Justin Timberlake - Not a bad thing

I know people make promises all the time Then they turn right around and break them Then someone cuts your heart open with a knife Now you're bleeding Don't you know that I could be that guy to heal it over time And I won't stop until you believe it Cause baby you're worth it

No matter where life takes you, the purest act of LOVE will carry you through anything. Life is too short to hate, to be angry, to not give completely of yourself in love and kindness.

We’ve all been enlightened by cellular advances and capturing every moment, but how many moments do we really get to enjoy when we constantly living behind the screen. Make mental memories. Treasure the moments. Enjoy how it feels to be a part of the moments that generally takes your breathe away. Nothing in life can be relived no matter how many times we try. 

A first step only comes once, much like the first word, the first facial expression, the first emotional gesture. It’s exactly what it is - A FIRST. Don’t get caught up in what society has to offer, get caught up in the moments that make a real difference in your life. 

I urge you to make a difference in 2016 and live in the moment and not rush to capture something that lasts for only a second and could be lost forever. 

Nothing is more important than knowing WHO, WHAT, WHEN and WHY

1. Who, we trust to be a part of our lives, who we allow to change how we feel, and who we allow to support us during the most important times in our lives. We have a choice as to who we want to keep by our side and who we want to inform about the things in our lives.

2. What, we do with the who's are entirely up to us. Everyone has some sort of roll to play in our lives, whether for the support or whether for the fun times or the tough times. What you decide to include your 'who' in is entirely up to you, stand you for what you believe in.

3. When we are born we don't know anything about life or the people in it. We go through so many phases in life, not just by choice but because that is what growing up and learning life lessons are about. You don't have to feel bad if the person you use to include in your 'circle' no longer forms part of that circle. You need to know when the time is right  and when you need to make the necessary adjustments, these tend to happen as a natural part of life, but if not you need to re-evaluate your who's and what's.

4. Why, do we need to take calculated risks in life and why do we need to protect ourselves from what we put out there. Well, simply because the world is filled with people who are eager and willing to snatch our souls. We need to think before we do, because when the deed is done, there is no turning back or taking back what's been done.