one of those girl-sons

i have [gestures vaguely] my tendencies

my body knows something that i don’t and i can’t get her to talk to me

I think the reason I still enjoy tumblr is that even though this all still pisses me off, I know that anything that makes me mad on here is 100% earnest. It's not ragebait or engagement farming, y'all are actually just that stupid sometimes

I’m not saying it’s easy, but you will do yourself a lifelong favor if you get to the point where you truly believe incontinence is not shameful. Unpleasant, uncomfortable, inconvenient, sure, you don’t have to like it, but trust me, as a nurse who’s done incontinence care hundreds of time—it is, at its heart, whatever. It is what it is. As far as I can tell, there only two types of people: those who’ve shit themselves and those whose turn hasn’t come up yet. To exist is to excrete waste. There’s nothing to gain from feeling ashamed of how you do it. Pissing yourself is value neutral.

certainly i talk enough about svetlana giving ilya the side-eye over his insane ottawa decisions but also i’m going to believe maybe she’s also like wellllll maybe he’s not just totally delusional and maybe there’s a tiny chance he’s onto something here. maybe playing house with the walking embodiment of a real canadian superstore really did solve all his mental problems. and so she goes out and finds a woman named michaela who is a nurse and who really loves parks and rec and who has a cat named bingo and an infinity tattoo on her wrist and loves colleen hoover and wears t-shirts to sleep that say things like “does this coffee make me look bitter?” and svetlana uhauls her way into michaela’s suburban duplex decorated with seasonal tj maxx decor and after three weeks svetlana is like oh my GOD i am going to murder-suicide us both goodbye do not call me ever. and crucially she never ever tells ilya about this experiment.

The thing about being mysterious is sometimes you’re just dehydrated and replying tomorrow

reading In The Woods by Tana French and idk the last time I read a book with such a loathsome and unlikable narrator

just like real cops ……

im not arguing with a woman whose eyes wrinkle when she smiles. whatever you say beautiful

hold on let me try to invent a version of myself who can get us out of this mess [holds really still for a minute and a half and then turns to you with a flat affect] we probably should have killed ourselves an hour ago

real talk tho ive seen ppl talk abt how long hair on men isn't intrinsically feminine & assuming so is racist can we get the same convo going for Black women w short hair can we start talking abt how short hair isn't intrinsically masculine or is that a step too far

idw hear any more white people's opinions on this topic bc it's so clear they do not get it but they're soooo confident they do...... "well nothing is intrinsically masculine or feminine" yesss it's almost as though every culture has its own constructed gender norms which is why these values r culturally relative & why it's racist to impose eurocentric gender expectations on racialized bodies. all well & good to say femininity & masculinity should be completely abolished but what are you going to do for the Black women who are being labelled masc or gender non-conforming right now for not aligning with white gender norms that exclude them by design. "gender norms are social constructs do whatever you want forever" isn't enough we need to be saying "Black women are assumed to be deviating from gender norms just by existing even when they are purposefully expressing femininity bc western gender structures are built upon whiteness" like you've got to start by dismantling the racism & white supremacy inherent in these structures or you will leave racialized women behind