In your Orbit

“As time goes on, you’ll understand. What lasts, lasts; what doesn’t, doesn’t. Time solves most things. And what time can’t solve, you have to solve yourself. Is that too much to ask?”

A little sneak peek of Everybody's Talking About Jamie star- John McCrea as Artie in the new Disney's Cruella!

“And then, one fairy night, May became June.”

“In an experiment revealing the importance of having friendships, social psychologists have found that perceptions of task difficulty are significantly shaped by the proximity of a friend. In their experimental design, the researchers asked college students to stand at the base of a hill while carrying a weighted backpack and to estimate the steepness of a hill. Some participants stood next to close friends whom they had known a long time, some stood next to friends they had not known for long, and the rest stood alone during the exercise. The students who stood with friends gave significantly lower estimates of the steepness of the hill than those who stood alone. Furthermore, the longer the close friends had known each other, the less steep the hill appeared to the participants involved in the study. In other words, the world looks less difficult when standing next to a close friend.”

“Each diagnosis brings along with it a series of expectations and assumptions about the person it refers to, including when it applies to yourself. Coming to terms with a new diagnosis can shake the very core of your existence. A diagnosis can put a name to your experiences. It can bring light to places that were previously dark, providing answers that were long hoped for after a lifetime of searching for where things went ‘wrong.’ But while these answers can sometimes lighten our own burden, leading us to redirect the blame we previously internalized to this external diagnosis, it can also lead us to question the good parts of ourselves too.”

“Sometimes we’re made to feel or even told that we’re too much or too little depending on the day, depending on what we’re feeling and facing. Too fat, thin, queer, loud, honest, quiet, weird, unstable, depressed. Never quite right. Never quite up to par. We feel pressed to meet expectations that supposedly dictate if we’re desirable, current, and welcome. And if we don’t meet those marks, we fear people will believe that we are poor employees, parents, friends, or just humans. If we don’t meet those marks, we should apologize. But your existence, as it was, as it is, and yet as it can be, is not something you need to apologize for. Your existence is complex. It warrants grace and growth and patience. You do not need to apologize for being here. For changing. For feeling. For sharing or asking for support. For struggling. For being you. None of these things require forgiveness so stop apologizing for existing.”