what is happening you guys
okay everyone, take one big breath. let’s all just calm down for a moment and pause before you send me that ask. i’ve been getting spammed all day with the same asks and questions and doubts and concerns and i need everyone to just take a step back, and pause for a moment of reflection.
now, major psa incoming because i think some of you need a wake up call. if this sounds aggressive, good, it’s meant to be. maybe the gentle approach isn’t working, so here’s me trying the blunt version. if you don’t like posts like this, scroll. if you do and you need it, listen up.
(reminder that ily guys, and that this post is coming from a place of tough love and a lot of frustration. please bear with me, because i am SO DONE.)
like what the fuck is going on? why am i suddenly getting an influx of asks for “one word” advice, asking if you can do this or that, asking if something is possible, asking how i shifted, what techniques i recommend, etc.
“but hana what am i doing wrong…”
to those asking me what i think is the problem, it’s this. THIS is the fucking issue. overconsumption and reliance on external validation to confirm something that is already within you. you keep looking outside for answers that do not exist outside of you.
you are the one in control. you decide what is real for you. so why the fuck are you asking me?
when i say you are limitless, i mean it. stop asking if something is possible. the answer is always yes. i don’t care what you are about to ask. dr, cr, wr, whatever it is. the answer is yes.
before you send that ask, stop. the answer is yes.
no, don’t ask me anything, don’t tell me what it is, i don’t give a fuck. the answer is YES.
you don’t need permission. you don’t need confirmation. you don’t need someone else to validate it for you.
and let’s be real. even when people tell you yes, you still come back and ask again in a different way. you reword it, you look for a “better” answer, something more convincing.
do you not see the problem here? the issue is not the answer. the issue is that you don’t fucking trust yourself enough to accept it.
stop outsourcing certainty, and stop putting more trust in strangers than in yourself. i know damn well most of you have already read post after post, advice after advice, heard the same shit repeated over and over again. and still, it’s not enough for you. you still want one more answer, one more reassurance, one more person to tell you it’s okay.
when will it be enough? no seriously, tell me, when?
there is no magical post that will suddenly make everything click. there is no perfect method, no perfect wording, no perfect piece of advice that will fix this if you keep refusing to trust yourself.
if you keep acting like you need to be guided, you will stay stuck like this. but the moment you decide for yourself, things change.
and let me ask you this. why the fuck does my word matter more than yours? why do i get to decide what’s real for you?
if your name is tom and i tell you your name is bob, are you going to believe me? no. because you know your name. you don’t need validation for that.
that certainty you feel, that quiet knowing, that refusal to accept anything else. that is what you’re looking for.
and until you stop treating yourself like someone who needs answers, and start acting like someone who already has them, you’re going to stay stuck in this same loop.
stop begging, start deciding. NOW please.
