ok genuine question, where do you actually meet people worth dating, and how do you figure out fast if someone's worth your time before you've caught feelings and wasted months? is there a filter for weeding out the ones who vanish the second they get what they want? i keep finding the same guy in different suit. also does it feel like a lot of men aren't actually that interested in women as people? i want old-school romance, letters and longing, does that even exist anymore or am i cooked.
Hi Anon, sorry it took me a while to answer. I'm not sure I can give you a very satisfying answer, or that I am particularly knowledgeable in this domain, or that there is any recipe you can follow when it comes to love. Particularly when it comes to knowing how the relationship will evolve, is it even possible? One has to accept the uncertainty that comes with dealing with other human beings and try to cultivate an inner strength so that one can stay open to the world. At least that is how I see it. Unfortunately one cannot demand efficiency from these matters...
That said, it's important to let oneself learn from previous experience. Is it possible you are attracted to a certain avoiding type? They sure can provide the drama, and one might mistake this for romance... Also stay away from men, or anyone of any sex for that matter, that doesn't treat you as a person. Besides the casual display of misogynism, what can anyone possibly offer you if they are so self-absorbed that they fail to be interested in anyone outside themselves? I don't know enough about you to know where you can meet good people, but I know the world is made by more than misogynists and egoists!
As to a grand romance, I hope you find it, but this longing that you want does it not come by definition with an unhappy love? It sounds nice in a book but it breaks your heart in reality...But perhaps one has to experience such things anyway.

















