Who don't want to talk back or act out

Who follow rules and instructions as closely and carefully as they are able

Who get genuinely upset when they disobey even by accident

I know you feel invisible and forgettable

I know you see others getting attention because they don't obey

So from me and every other dominant; we see you, your obedience does not go unnoticed. You are loved and appreciated. You deserve praise and play time and infinite affection.

to see that. to appreciate that

and to tell them. to give them the time and attention they deserve and need, even if they never ask for it

I used to have unfettered access to my clit. Even after he started requiring me to ask for permission to orgasm during sex, on other days I was still given free rein to masturbate whenever I wanted and cum whenever I wanted.

Too much self-pleasuring made me selfish. I felt sated and my libido would drop. Sometimes he would initiate sex and I would tell him I wasn’t feeling horny, which was true. Sometimes we would try anyway and I wouldn’t be very wet for him and we would have to use a lot of lube. It would hurt, too, which cased a negative feedback loop that led to our sex life being less than fulfilling for both of us, but especially for him.

So we started orgasm control. My clit, pussy, and asshole are off limits for self-pleasuring without his explicit permission. Same thing for experiencing an orgasm. I wrote more about my orgasm control rules here.

The impact of orgasm control has been huge. Instead of half-heartedly taking his cock, I’m wet and so ready to be stuffed by it, practically salivating to feel the exquisite stretch and pressure as he uses my pussy. It doesn’t hurt at all and it feels so rewarding, like a well earned treat. I feel this way even if in the end I don’t get to cum at all. I’m just happy to have been fucked thoroughly and to have pleasured him.

As for my clit, sometimes I’m allowed to rub it solo and sometimes while he’s fucking me. I’ve been allowed to rub my clit less and less during sex since we have been training me to cum from penetration only. I accomplished a penetration-only orgasm for the first time last week, which I was so happy about.

The growing lack of reliance on my clit for pleasure makes any attention to it a rare, sweet treat. The times that I am allowed to rub my clit freely feel extra nice, and I’m extremely grateful to have earned the permission.