Exactly what it says on the fucking tin

This shows us something fundamental about how the people who use tma/tme think. In particular, that the only meaningful way to discuss your own oppression, and in particular transmisogyny, is in terms of comparing oppression.

It is a hard mindset to break from and very easy to fall into. It's also an astoundingly prejudice way of thinking. It is one of the major roots of all exclusionist movements within the queer community. When I compare tma/tme to gold star lesbian, I mean that very genuinely. I don't think everyone who uses it is a bad person, but they are getting caught up in something that will end very poorly and be remembered as this incredibly toxic and prejudice thing that grew out of this need to directly compare your oppression to others - or in reality, the wildly inaccurate assumptions you make about how others are oppressed.

And it all seems so reasonable at the start. I get that. I really do. Just like it seemed so reasonable and obvious that lesbians are more oppressed than bi woman, and bi women would never really understand.

I don't think most of the early rad fems were bad people. I think they were trying to come to terms with and explain the problems they were seeing and experiencing and many of them inadvertently fell into prejudice ways of thinking. They tried out ideas and rather than dismiss them when they proved a problem they became attached, dug in.

The same thing is happening now. I don't think the people using tma/tme now are bad people. But they have adopted prejudice patterns of thought, have become attached, and are digging in.

Do you really think that the lesbians of the past who built up radical feminism were not oppressed and excluded? Do you really think they were not the subject of hate and violence?

The reality is that a critical component of the creation of radical feminism and all the damage it has done since is that lesbians were oppressed and excluded and violently so.

This is The Boy From Venus #4! Ty for reading. :D

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In Stars and Time but what if Siffrin was disturbingly honest in one loop.

I was literally thinking that while drawing this for a hypothetical “everyone but Sif loops” scenario.

That moment when your friend is so horrifically repressed that it takes you getting stuck in a time loop to figure out something is seriously wrong with him.

[ID: In Stars and Time comics. The first starts with Mirabelle and Siffrin sitting on the bench in Dormont together, and Siffrin exclaims cheerfully, "Oh! None of you should worry about me tomorrow, Mira! There's nothing I'm going back to, no one cares about me, so it'll be fine if I die."

The continue nonchalantly, "It's a good thing too, if something goes horribly wrong, I can take the hit? Odile wants me leading anyways, so any pickle we get stuck in would be my fault. I'd deserve what's coming." Siffrin smiles brightly, "So don't worry about me! It'll be oka-" They break off with a caught-out smile. "Ah-" Mirabelle is staring at him in comical and absolute horror, and Siffrin asks, "Mira? Are you alright?"

The next part of the post starts with a reply by @/kayre-stuffs that says, "Party looping au equipping a memory that causes Siffrin to just be honest and spill all that out to everyone's horror". The comic follows:

Odile is in the shop, and she thinks, :Reset again, its unfortunate Siffrin will forget our good times, but... nothing to be done about it. He got a memory at least, Mirabelle will test it before we all gather by the tree again." She inspects the shelves, wondering, "... what did Boniface want to make this, time...?" when Mirabelle bursts in with a frazzled Siffrin, screaming, "MADAME!" Odile looks pissed and thinks, "Peace isn't real."

We want you to know we love you. Did you know that? Myrrh we want you to know we love you so much. We love you so so so much cause you're our friend and we care about you.

We wanna hug you Myrrh. please. We wanna be with you cause we care and love you so much.

Please don't die. Please Don't leave us. We'd miss you. We would be so sad.

Please myrrh? Hugs?

We know the feelings. We get them a lot too. We don't want you to be alone myrrh. You deserve friends too.

Baby trans Mabel!! 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵