Sap Eater

asexuals I love you very much but sometimes you will get hangups about very funny things. I made a "fuck marry kill" poll and dozens of people are asking how they're supposed to vote because they don't want to fuck anyone and are asking for alternatives for that category like playing video games or drinking tea instead. but killing is totally fine

forget age gaps or differences in rank or whatever the most potently dangerous power dynamic in any relationship is "people like you more than me"

genuinely nothing is more corrosive to love, respect, or trust than the insecurity of forever being second and last in line. of always being the plus one but never invited; always tolerated on their behalf but never wanted on your own. of knowing that nobody's jealousy or admiration is about you at all, only your place at their side. you tell them that you feel like you only exist when you're with them, and they laugh, charmed, but it isn't a figure of speech. it's not enough that they love you best if everyone else loves them better.