Feel free to ignore this if it’s too weird
Do you have any advice for being a submissive pervert online while I’m a tgirl? I feel like a lot of ones I see are of cis women and I’m not really sure how to talk about my clit in a sub way.
Welcome to my wheelhouse!
Kinda. This is so weird because I struggle a LOT with self acceptance of this side of me actually. Everyone struggles, but we often only see each other's highlight reels.
I'm going to open with the bottom line. The hard truth I'm getting to. You gotta just do it. Anything and everything you do, you can only become good at by doing a lot. Art? Video Games? Specific types of video games? Writing, reading, socializing, voice training, anything and everything. You just gotta do it until you're good even if it seems silly or hard.
But you also need some footholds. One method of thinking I like to do is flip the script a little. We're often a lot harder on ourselves than we are of others or friends. ("Everyone is valid except for meeeeee" ring any bells? I see it as a meme a lot I KNOW it does.)
So simply think, what do you want to say or do or act like? If there were a tgirl you liked who wanted to do that, would you respect her wishes? If you can respect this hypothetical girl, just give yourself the same grace.
It took me ages to start calling my dick a clit, and I do freely swap back based on vibes. I felt like a liar at first though. Like I was being deceptive. Which as a performative blog with people able to show up at random I understand where that logic comes from but. If my loves would ask of me to call their stuff clits I just WOULD. so. only seems fair to treat myself with the same kindness.
Now actually looking at your ask you say you see a lot of subs that are cis women as if that like... matters? This is a tired as hell phrase but just. Be yourself. What do you want? Talk as if you're a cis girl, fuck it. Live your best life. Talk in terms you don't see. Ask to get your clit jerked off til it explodes and shoots cum everywhere. There are no rules. Play around with language. It's just words, use them in whatever way makes you feel comfortable. You don't owe anyone any standard. You're trans, be queer about it. Be messy. Try things that you aren't sure you will enjoy but want to try. And if you don't enjoy them, stop! The world is your oyster.
But most of all remember being a horny pervert online hinges on your consent and happiness. You may revoke your consent at any time and drop out whatever you get yourself into for any reason. The most important thing is your happiness, and others will understand that. If they don't t, then they're dangerous and you don't need their attention anyway.
So the long and short of it is, there are no real rules, just do whatever you want and fuck up and have fun and keep doing it and over time it'll all work out. As long as you respect yourself!
I hope that helps I have more ideas than my fingers have speed to type out, let alone think in any orderly way.
