grow up, grow

can we go back to acknowledging that ignoring someone’s chosen pronouns is always misgendering, even when you’re using neutral ones instead

abelds have this funky ability where they hear disabled people say they "can't" do something and instead of hearing "can't" as in, cannot, they hear "i can if i push myself and i just don't wanna". which is really interesting!

people in my notes mentioning that people don't respect the fact that they can't do certain things without heavy consequences and ableds want us to beat those consequences for their convenience. and that's true but i do mean that people who say that they can't do something need to be taken at face value that it's just not possible to do at all. i want people to respect the literal meaning of "i cant'" because it's often dangerous otherwise. like people will straight up put a disabled person into situations that are harmful or incredibly dangerous for them being they assume "can't" means "i can a little bit". and when that thing is "I can't eat [allergen]" or "i can't walk at all" and you get stuck with food contaminants or at the top of a half flight of stairs they assumed wouldn't be a problem then that can actively, seriously, literally be harmful and dangerous

Every demographic of marginalised men on the planet expects the women they share a marginalisation with to simply shut up and tolerate the abuse they face from said men in the name of "not dividing the community". And yet every single time this comes up you get people batting as hard as they can for the supposedly liberatory right of men to tell women to shut up and telling you that you're only talking about it because they're [marginalisation you also experience]

man if you're disabled you've GOT to find some way to make your fuckass body a source of pleasure whenever you can. jacking off. eating good food. wearing soft clothes. kissing an animal on the head. whatever you can do

white people will literally be like if u arent nice to me Im going to become a nazi. and think they’re making a great argument

this stupid shit has been around for so long and it’s crazy to me there are still people with enough rocks in their brain to believe it. “Oughhhhh if you aren’t nice to you oppressors they’ll become bigots instead of allies” if someone’s support for marginalized groups hinges entirely on whether or not that group is niceys, they’re by definition not effective or useful allies and, by admission of this argument, an active danger to the communities theyre supposed to be allied with because they can Enter Bigot Mode the second they become displease

i think people should be nicer to schizophrenics

saying this because i've literally been subjected to panopticons and moral saw traps and had my every action examined and monitored my whole life and i just want to relax for once

A woman not shaving or wearing a dress or wearing makeup or wearing femme clothes or having styled or long hair or caring how she looks or using a masc name or whatever else is actually a neutral thing and not a sign of her being depressed or giving up or being sad or whatever

And also the indestructibility of that woman's ankles

This is Peak Yuri media and I hope my beautiful feral daughters love each other forever

May you have the courage to disappoint people who benefit from your self-abandonment.