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I hope this January will be filled with joy and peace for everyone! Just know that this new year isn't only for improving yourself and starting new things, but also to remember what is already good and here with you, and to cherish that and keep it close to you. I hope you can be proud of yourself everyday this month, even if you made a mistake, even if you missed a day in your plan.

Its understandable if you often find yourself dwelling on past mistakes and things and people that are not in your life anymore. But its not sustainable for when you're trying to live and move on. When you are in the middle of reading a book, you dont go back and reread the whole beginning in every session. You start from the point where you left, and you move on from there. Instead of spending your present days rereading the whole beginning of the book again, try to think about something from the past once a day. And if it comes up again during the day, forgive yourself, and tell yourself: thats okay, i already thought about it today. And continue moving forward.

Its okay if you made something that didnt turn out how you wanted it to turn out, its okay to make art and to not like what you make and its okay if you're not at the skill level you thought you were or if you lost some of your skills. Creative things are not only about the results, but also about developing your ability to think creatively and the process of making itself. Im often already excited about the fact that i made something that didnt exist before, and i what i usually keep in mind is: "im not saying its good, im saying it exists."

Its okay to find love in hobbies instead of in a romantical relationship, its okay to find love in community, helping people, yourself, friends or family instead of in a significant other. All these kinds of love are valid and don't make you any less of a person, even if you're not in a relationship at the moment. Your value of being lovable doesn't rely on you having a romantical relationship, you are always loveable.

If you're ever worried that things might be falling apart, or you have to feeling that a relationship, job, hobby or habit you care about might go wrong, remind yourself of all the reasons why things might actually be good or might actually work out. Sometimes we scare ourselves with evidence that doesn't exist, when we have the feeling things might go wrong. Whenever that happens, try to name 3 things that are going well at the moment.

Its okay if you struggle with keeping your good habits and new years resolutions. Its alright if you miss a day and feel like this new habit will never stick. Just know that its okay to take breaks when trying to build a new habit, as it can often be overwhelming to force yourself to do something everyday when you aren't used to it yet. Try to do it maybe 2 times a week first, then 4 times a week, then every other day, and soon it'll be easier to do it everyday.

Its okay if you need a longer time to adjust to new things than other people, its okay if you need a little more time to get used to new things, its alright if you take a bit longer to feel comfortable and familiar with new places, people and things. Dont rush yourself and take all the time you need to process everything. Sometimes the mind needs a little more time to take things in, and to let it sink in.

Dont forget to always forgive yourself at the end of the day. No matter how many mistakes you made, no matter how strict you were to yourself, no matter how angry you were at yourself or upset you were with yourself, at the end of the day, never forget to make peace with yourself. You can do something wrong, hold yourself acountable, and still be gentle with yourself.

You don't have to push yourself past your limit, even if you think you have to or if you think it will make you better. Sometimes we're at our best when we slow down, think for a while, and take the time to take in our surroundings. Its often then solutions and opportunities will show up before our eyes.

Some days it feels like you're not improving at all, no matter how hard and how long you try. And this could be with anything, a new hobby you're trying, new habits you try to maintain or maybe lessons you're trying to learn yourself. Even if it feels like you're not going forward, even if it feels like you're never going to be better, remember when you first started and why. Remember the first day you tried and try to imagine how far you've come already. Its okay if your progress with certain things seems to go slow, progress will always be progress. From here on, you can only grow and do better. No matter how slow, no matter how small the change.

You're not loveable because someone loves you, you're loveable because you exist.

its okay if you have trouble fully loving yourself. and its okay to start small with attempts to love yourself. start liking yourself 5 percent first, then as you go along, it becomes easier. do what you would do for someone you love, for yourself. If you would be chocolate for your loved one, buy chocolate for yourself. If you would cook dinner for your loved one, try to cook a delicious dinner for yourself. Care for and look after yourself, be gentle and patient with yourself and the proces you're going through, all will be well.

Its okay if not everybody likes you, the most important thing is for you to like yourself. Don't change yourself just to fit in other people's mold of how you should be.