This isnāt at any one specific person (itās the culmination of various experiences from people Iāve already blocked) but, guys,: I put my pronouns in my bio for a reason.
I can understand not knowing what nb stands for but I feel like āthey/themā is at least a pretty good clue. I know some of yāall might be quick to consider me a girl because itās easier for you or it fits the whole fantasy narrative weāve got going on here but I need you to understand that when you do that, you are creating a character of me, not acknowledging me as I am. Calling me a woman isnāt going to give me day-ruining dysphoria or anything but Iāve gotten a number of messages from people trying to suss out what I āreallyā am, as if Iām going to be like ālol! You got me, I was just pretending to be nonbinary ;)ā
I understand that the nature of this content means that questions about whether or not I have kids/am biologically capable of having kids is just par for the course, but if you keep prodding me for an answer that Iāve already given you then Iām just going to assume that you donāt respect me and donāt have any reading comprehension skills. My gender is whatever makes you gay for being attracted to me.
Also, let it be known that Iām not going to get mad at you if you struggle with using gender-neutral language because youāre not used to used to it or because your native language doesnāt have many gender-neutral terms. I know that these things can take a while to adjust to and the stray misstep isnāt a big deal. But if you consistently ignore or try to rewrite my identity to make it convenient for you then you are disrespecting me and Iām going to stop interacting with you.
When in doubt, follow my lead. If Iām writing a post and referring to myself as a mother or housewife, then itās ok to refer to me in those terms. If Iām using vague language, then I would rather be seen as neither male nor female. Read the room a little.
