Falling For Your Eyes But They Don't Know Me Yet

1. Remind yourself that feel scared is very normal! Peace and bravery exist alongside fear. So don’t be afraid of your feelings of fear.

2. Make the decision to act despite your feelings. Don’t allow them to control you, or to hold you back in life.

3. Accept your limitations; they are areas of growth. You’ll get there step by step. So be patient while you change.

4. Set aside the opinions and the judgments of others. Go after what you want, and who you want to be in life.

5. Learn everything you can about a scary situation. That will help you to prepare, and develop skills you’ll need.

6. Remind yourself of the all times you’ve stepped out in the past, and have taken a real risk – and that paid off in the end. Allow that to inspire you, and to reinforce your courage.

1. Recognize that you have choices. Usually people-pleasers feel as if they don’t have a choice, and they have to say yes when someone asks for their help. But you DO have a choice – and it’s Ok to say no.

2. Decide on your priorities. If you already have commitments or you have set priorities then it’s easy to say no as you’ve a genuine excuse. Do what matters most to you, and remember - it’s your life!

3. Stall for time – don’t give an answer right away. Say you need some time before you make up your mind. That allows you time and space to think about the consequences. For other things will likely suffer if you take on far too much.

4. Don’t be afraid to add conditions to your yeses. For example, say you’ll only say yes if someone else says yes as well – or only take on a new task for a set period of time.

5. Are you being manipulated? There are plenty who will use you to help their plans succeed. So so watch out for those compliments and empty flattery.

6. Be firm when you say no. The first time you say no it feels uncomfortable and hard. But once you’ve done it a few times it starts to feel much easier. Also, if you sound confident then others take you seriously.