Helena

Let me ask my wonderful followers:  What are some ways for me to express more femininity?  Help me take my girliness up a notch.  Maybe it might help others as well.  There’s no need to write a novel–just some quick pointers.

Thanks.  I love you, my girlies!

I guess this is the first time in a long time since I actually wrote anything new.  I’m banking off of an old caption to share a little bit from my experience.  There is a part of me that wonders if what I’m about to say is because of the generation I grew up in.  I’m one of the GenX gals.  I like the think of our generation as the bridge.  If you’re a GenX-er, you probably know what I mean.  Well anyway, this is not about generations XYZ Boomers or whatever.  I simply would like to suggest that maybe girliness isn’t intended to blossom overnight.  Maybe I’m wrong, but I feel like today’s culture pushes identification to hard upon young people.  It’s like, “You have to know for certain who and what you are by the time you’re in high school!”  I just don’t buy that.  Even after graduation, there is so much about oneself for one to discover and to explore.

Let me put it like this: My middle son was diagnosed with Leukemia at age 12.  He is now 18 and very healthy.  He is also still a kid at heart.  He lost his childhood to cancer and so he still lingers in some child-like tendencies.  That’s not wrong at all.  We let him be who he is and enjoy who he is…and we let him mature at his pace, not someone else’s.  His “manhood” will come in his time, and we encourage him to find it in his time.  Could anyone honestly say that he is behind?  r maybe he is the one who is on track and others are reaching for their maturity too soon?  I don’t really know the proper answer to that.  Regardless, we love him to pieces.  He is and will be an incredible human in society now and in the future.

Your utmost girliness isn’t going to happen over night, in my opinion.  I have no doubt that it’s always been within you.  Or maybe I mean, it’s always been you.  That’s a tough one to debate (nicely of course).  I guess what I’m trying to say is that there is no reason (again, imo) that you must force yourself to be girly because our society says you have to realize yourself and expose yourself and reveal yourself.  I think it takes time.  I’m not talking about wearing dresses tomorrow rather than boxers yesterday.  I’m talking about the real stuff, the stuff that matters, the stuff that is deep within us.

When all is said and done, I guess I wrestling too much with how I wish to say this.  So I’ll finish this little post with some brevity: Don’t feel like you have to force yourself.  Mature into your femininity with ease and with grace–for your benefit and for others.  You’ll appreciate it more by biting the fruit in your season rather than taking it before it’s time.

I love you, my girly friends.  I’m unsure if this post resonates with you or not, but do know that I love you.  I’d hug you right now if I could.  You’re special to me, to the people around you, and to the world.  No one should ever strip you of that.  You’re YOU and that means you’re FABULOUSLY lovable.