All trans people are Schroedinger's Gender. You are simultaneously both and also neither male and female, man and woman, depending on what they feel would hurt you most at the time. This can change day to day, hour to hour, even minute to minute.
Trans woman who is told she can't change her gender marker on her ID, takes off her shirt in a parking lot to change and is arrested for public indecency for her female-presenting nipple exposure, and is currently housed in a men's prison. What gender is she? The gender that hurts her the most at the time. Both and yet neither. Because fuck you that's why.
Trans man who requests to compete in boys' wrestling, forced to compete with the girls instead. Punished for "flashing" his bottom growth while taking a shower in the locker room. School's parents want him kicked out of sports because he keeps winning by a *lot* when he wrestles the girls, saying it's not fair to make the girls compete in strength with his testosterone. During yet another meeting where he requests to wrestle the boys, he's yet again denied *despite this* because he's a girl. Eventually beaten up by the boys at school mad that he's thrashing their girlfriends. Boys justify it by saying it's okay to hit him because he's not "really" a girl. What gender is he? Whatever gender he can be punished with at the time. Both and yet neither. Because fuck you that's why.
I didn't pull these out of my head. They're real people, real transgender stories I've been told either through news or firsthand accounts.
