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had somewhat of a breakthrough today about autism and gender relations and realized that interactions with men feel lower stakes to me because men and women are so often talked about as being essentially different species that if I do anything weird they’ll just chalk it up to women being incomprehensible or stupid or they didn’t respect me anyways. It’s like going to an interview for a job you won’t get for the practice. Whereas if you do something wrong around women they know immediately and consider you subhuman where they might not have before. So their approval means more and their rejection feels worse

also on a practical level with how gender segregated our society is you can still have an extremely rich life with little to no contact with men but I don’t think it’s possible to live as a woman without social contact with other women. In terms of care and protection and social needs being met. It’s very normal for women to have exclusively female friends and be closer to their mothers than fathers regardless of whether or not they date men at all. Even a lot of straight women have basically no contact with men socially outside of dating. Whereas if you’re a woman who doesn’t have strong ties to other women you’re extremely vulnerable in this world. I think it is genuinely more dangerous to be unpalatable to women than men. But also that’s my perspective as a queer woman whose relationship to gender is fairly normative outside of the gay stuff and can largely go unnoticed in large groups of women. I would be curious what other people’s take on this all is

had somewhat of a breakthrough today about autism and gender relations and realized that interactions with men feel lower stakes to me because men and women are so often talked about as being essentially different species that if I do anything weird they’ll just chalk it up to women being incomprehensible or stupid or they didn’t respect me anyways. It’s like going to an interview for a job you won’t get for the practice. Whereas if you do something wrong around women they know immediately and consider you subhuman where they might not have before. So their approval means more and their rejection feels worse

you’re allowed 2 minutes of sadness then you gotta keep it gangsta

And also the indestructibility of that woman's ankles

This is Peak Yuri media and I hope my beautiful feral daughters love each other forever

per my last desperate howl at the heavens,

love and light to whatever the fuck is wrong with patricia widows bay 🩵