lady from venus

Being slow in life is fine. Taking longer to figure life out than others is not a bad thing. Lots of super successful people were late bloomers, who knows what amazing things you could accomplish once you heal more.

in the meantime: study, journal, read more books, sit in silence, listen to music, take walks, take the stairs, do more things alone, do more things with friends, take notice of the small wonders of the world, create a sacred space in your mind

can someone invent a type of letting go that actually feels good instead of feeling like your soul is getting ripped out via large intestine

yes communication is important, but being in a situation where you constantly have to over-communicate every single thing in order to get listened and tended to is draining and kills romance. a huge part of intimacy and connection is feeling seen and understood by the other person – them being attuned to your needs, feelings, desires, and knowing who you are as a person on a deeper level, is a sign of love. being with someone who is thoughtless and inconsiderate and constantly has to have everything spelled out to them, will leave you feeling invisible and unloved. yes people aren’t mind readers and its good to talk about stuff but someone who just doesn’t think of you or understand basic things that would make you happy, isn’t a good partner.

It’s going to be difficult but we’re going to make the decision to do things differently and get it done regardless of distractions and fears

Reminding myself it’s okay if I feel depressed because I really miss certain things because that just means I know what makes me happy and I’m not deluding myself into complacency. Like if I didn’t know that I missed cooking meals in my own apartment, swimming in cold mountain rivers, hiking to watch the sunset, growing my own garden, that would be the tragedy. And I know it’ll guide me well and I’m missing future things I haven’t experienced yet, places I haven’t traveled to, hobbies I haven’t discovered, people I haven’t met.

Sometimes I talk a lot and sometimes I don’t talk at all and somehow both are embarrassing